My brother just put his hands on me, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

We've never got this heated before ever and I don't know how to feel, I'm traumatized. I've never been hit by a man before and my brother does this. All this started because he didn't have the keys and he was banging on the house door and I didn't hear it so I guess he got impatient. So when I heard the dogs barking I went to the front door and he's banging like a mad man so I yell "hold the fuck up" that's how we talk to eachother, I unlock the door and he flings it open hitting me with the door. I'm pissed so I shoved him and he throws his water in my face so obviously I get more pissed and were shoving eachother. Then I get to my room and I push him again and he grabs me by my neck and pushes me and I fall on the floor. I was shocked and scared. Like I don't know what to think, and I just need to vent to someone. I'm in my room now and I've called my parents because neither of them were here.

[LeaOotori]

Well, I feel like he was really mad. You said it's never happened before, but it's still pretty serious that it went that far. I suggest waiting until your parents come home and telling your brother than you weren't comfortable with what happened and how you felt he want too far. If he gets mad, get your parents to try to calm him down.

I find it hard to believe that he got that way because you didn't open the door-- try to figure out if something else is wrong and try to help him. Tell him that you're sorry for getting to the door late, but that's not an excuse to be so rude and violent. Try to get an apology out of him, that'll calm him down.

If this starts to happen often though, make sure to tell a parent, guardian, counselour, or someone of the sort to try to talk to your brother and figure what's making him so violent. The rest of the issue is mostly conditional, depending soley on the circumstances of situation, so I hope that my advice helps in some way. Good luck!

-- Lea

[dudeman]

he got that way because she hit him first. women need to relearn their place.

[LeaOotori]

@dudeman

Relearn their place?

[dudeman]

yes. women need to relearn their place.

[LeaOotori]

@dudeman

What do you mean by that, exactly?

[dudeman]

like relearn their role in civilization.

[LeaOotori]

@dudeman

So you want them to go back to the kitchen and bear children for you?

[dudeman]

well we do have an aging population and dont have the population to pay the bills. also womens work tends to be public sector so women never actually made wealth for the country they just raised taxes one everybody to pay for their jobs that dont need to exist.

[dudeman]

barefoot and pregnant is where they were most productive. now they are destructive to human civilization

[LeaOotori]

@dudeman I feel very offended and overall disappointed that you feel that way. Have you never been helped by a woman in a professional sense? Haven't you ever encountered a woman in an influencial position who did some good?

[dudeman]

no i haven't. There are women at my job but after a few years they take time off to have children and the whole company feels we wasted time training this women when a man would have been a better investment. like i said women work in the public sector which all it does is kill the middle class.

[dudeman]

and they get overpaid to do it.

[dudeman]

also why would you be dissapointed at anything i said.

[LeaOotori]

@dudeman
They're not overpaid, the recieve less money than men. And I'm not disappointedin you but society as a whole.

[QuestionzGirl]

@dudeman Dude, are you serious?
There is no such thing as a 'place' for any gender or race. -.-

[dudeman]

they receive less money than men because they work less. however that doesn't change the fact that public sector workers are overpaid.

[LeaOotori]

@dudeman
I honestly feel disappointed in humanity. As QuestionzGirl said, there's no place for anyone. I feel like you're just rolling, quite honestly.

[dudeman]

trolling not at all. why do you have a problem with the truth?

[dudeman]

why do you feel disappointed in humanity that women are overpaid and their jobs do not need to exist and they just leech off the system?

[wetnoodles]

@@dudeman you’re actually a master fagger. Who the fuck molested you as a child? Relearn their place- like shit boy. Just bc you’re fugly and your dick small n you can’t get a respectable woman, doesn’t mean you get a pass to spew this rat shit coming out of your god damn mouth. I wish you would put your fucking hands on a woman in your hyper masculine circle jerk amongst your guy friends, or your own mama, see what’s up with that. Don’t give a shit if you wrote this fuckery a year ago. Talking about some “women are overpaid and they work less wah wah waahh *insert baby crying*” are you dumb, stupid, or dumb? WE’RE UNDERPAID. Fucking idiot. Shut the fuck up and sit down. It’s NEVER okay for a man to put his dirty crusty ass hands on a woman NO MATTER who swings first. Talking bout some “she hit him first” you actually from another generation, boomer? Y’all might be considered physically stronger but on god if given the chance I would destroy yo mf sorry ass. That’s all I got to say. really hope you RELEARN your place but not really, you deserve to get jumped over bullshit like this. The ignorance here is insane.

[jesshkah]

You guys need to figure out a healthier way of interacting with each other. He shouldn't have put his hands on you but likewise you shouldn't have either. Just because you're a girl doesn't give you a free pass to do whatever the fuck you want to a guy. Go talk to him, tell him that he really hurt you and that you want to work on your relationship. You both should apologize to each other for behaving like immature animals.

[Anonymous]

I dunno why everybody is saying you started it so deserved it. He pushed the door hard onto you. It's obvious to anybody over the age of 2 that you don't fling the door open when somebody is behind it... which you obviously will be if you're opening the door. He deserved it. Not you.

[madhatters4]

you stop doing the things you two do. he put his hands on you and that's wrong but you put his hands on him first so thats wrong. you are both equally in the wrong here. i think you both need to work on speaking more kindly to one another. you may think that "hold the fuck up" is just the way you two talk and that's fine but if a person is already emotionally fired up it may only incite more anger

[SleepingSnorlax]

You both sound childish
He took it to another level when he splashed water in your fave but you instigated with that last push
But he shouldn't have done that
Neither of you shouldve done anything you did

[MrAssHat]

thats fucked up dude.. cuz he's your brother its his job to protect you from shit like that... id honestly say call the fucking police.. but thats me

[dudeman]

call the cops for self defense?

[MrAssHat]

@dudeman hardly him pushing is not the same as him grabbing her by the neck and punchin her

[dudeman]

doesn't matter if it is the same or not. 0-1 is larger than 1-1000000. you can't get any higher than nothing to something.

[Mesonfielde]

Well you shoved him like a goof

Of course he retaliates...

[Zendrya]

sounds like you are both in the wrong get over it. You hit him so you get it back duh

[CHARismatic110]

I think both of you were just in the heat of the moment.

[dudeman]

so you take forever and then you push him when he's in a rush. sounds like you dont respect the strength of men.

[Anonymous]

did he actually hit you or just the door happens to hit you?

[Thisperson98]

You both need to grow up.

[Anonymous]

What did your parents say