What does it mean when someone sees your messages, doesn't block or unfriend you, but doesn't answer them either?

[Anonymous]

is the person testing me?
mad? annoyed?
i would like to think that, since we've not talked for a long time, he would just unfriend or block me if i was annoying
wouldn't anyone?
he isn't trying to hide the fact that he is seeing my messages and not answering them at all, so the 'afraid of being rude' by blocking or unfriending rule is out the window. he already is being rude, and he doesn't care about it.
we have no contact whatsoever on any place ~the last one was almost 2 weeks ago~
that (blocking, unfriending) still, doesn't happen and the person keeps posting ~kinda~ suicidal ~kinda~ jokes things on his profile, and i'm worried why is it so hard for him to just answer (i recently asked if he is fine or those are purely jokes. no answer, but he saw it)...
status: half tired, half insane

[btbc92]

Is that person testing you? Maybe, maybe not. The only sole reason for this is because they don't find you important anymore. Your not their main force, and is probably curious as to why you talking to them. Maybe they still see you're a good person. But it still doesn't mean they want anything to do with you anymore. If you personally have a problem with it, how come you never blocked and deleted their information in the first place? Because you still want a relationship with that person. That's why. It is not your job to be concerning yourself over what they decide to do. If he does something, it's not your fault in this manner. Suicide is a choice. But it's possible he's just expressing himself. However, he shouldn't be posting his business on social media.

[Asker]

it's not my fault, but... he was once my best friend? how could... i just let him suffer, and try to take his own life? just sit there and watch it? i'm a detached person, but when it comes to lives and taking them away you've found my weak spot. they're my friends? multiply my weak spot by x10 and you have it. maybe he isn't interested in me anymore, but eh. that doesn't matter at all honestly. i just want to know if they're fine. puzzles me the most is that they haven't blocked me or unfriended me so i wouldn't see them post anymore, so i don't know how to proceed. letting something terrible happen when i know i could've had avoided it isn't a choice, and looking like a desperate bitch is getting out of hand. i hate feeling clingy, but sometimes we have to i guess... for the sake of others. knowing if they're fine.

[btbc92]

Because there is nothing that you can do. You're not God. Even if you try to help, you don't see that you're not making the situation any better. He has to choose if he wants help or not. A person can say 'go kill yourself'. But if you believe it and do it, it's choice. Nobody forced them to. So you understand? It always hurts... But sometimes we just have to let go of the other person to truly wake up to see how their actions are hurting those who love them. He needs space. That's all he wants. He won't do anything. They only do it if they feel like there is nothing left for them. Because the more we try to push them, the more they will pull back.

[Asker]

makes sense. but as someone who helped multiple people through suicidal thoughts, i thought... i thought maybe he wanted too. the help. and i was... handing, to him. since so many accepted it, i'm not used to someone rejecting. i'm confused, and i'm afraid that if i don't do anything something worse will develop T_T but... your point makes sense. i'll give him space. if he wants to come to me, i'll come. otherwise, i'll let him breathe out and think as long as he wants.

[btbc92]

The difference is you have to remember that not everybody is the same and they are their own person, with their own personality and problems. Not everybody goes through it the same. Some are so far gone, that nothing and no human can stop them except God himself. But that person's soul has to truly cry out. The other's you help were able to receive it because they were OPEN to receive it. You can help the other to receive if their refuse to listen and take it. Therefore you have no accountability in what they choose to do afterward. It doesn't mean you stop praying or believing.

[btbc92]

you can't help the other*

[Asker]

i'll hope it's not the case... i know people are different. some are more delicate, some are rocks no one breaks. and some accept the help, others (like me, like him xD) just don't want it. they prefer to pull themselves up, instead of letting others do it for them. in this process, a very lonely one, sometimes they'll be sucessful, sometimes not so much. the thing is... we'll play the patience game, from now on. and see if he ever comes to me, if he ever needs the help, or he is over me and just needs to live without explaining himself to nobody. thanks for the help <3

[NyomiMcClinton]

He isn't in the mood to talk. I do this sometimes when I am not in the mood to talk.

[Asker]

i do too ^-^ pretty usual. but when someone is worried about us and our mental, we say we're fine (if we are) :c i go away months without notice for my friends, but when they show worry i'll pacify them by telling i'm okay, i just need time. people are different tho, he could be the type of 'not-to-tell'.

[Zk15224]

seems like your overreacting... if someone was constantly sending messages I would think they're alittle crazy

[Asker]

it's not... constantly. it's been 2 weeks, and i've message him 3 times. we were best friends in the past, so he KNOWS i'm crazy, but good crazy. i'm just worried per now~ i don't him to hurt himself or be suffering alone, but i don't want to look clingy either. it's a fight i'm having on my own head.

[Zk15224]

From what you're saying you sound pretty clingy

[Asker]

yeah you're right. i should just let them rot, when they may be just as well struggling to keep themselves alive and planning their suicide. it's not like... i should be a friend and support them no matter what. just let them die, otherwise i'll look to clingy.

[Zk15224]

maybe he's going through a tough time right now and from your responses... You might just be overwhelming him

[Asker]

so you think... being quiet, is for the best? :c offering help and offering to listen to what he is going through doesn't cut it for guys? i know boys are pretty closed-up when it comes to hardships and they don't like to talk it out like girls (usually), but i wish there was a way i could... ya know... help him pull himself up. any way at all would do...

[Zk15224]

if he hasn't been responding to any messages then he clearly wants some distance, unless he seems very much at threat for suicide then I recommend asking one last time if he needs help then leave it be

[Asker]

sure ^-^ i'll give him some space. i think i offered what i could offer, he knows i'm there for him if he needs someone who listens, so now it comes on him to chose either he wants me into the mix or not. thanks for the help <3

[Zk15224]

no problem

[Greyson12]

Possibly, your overreacting and maybe if they have a real life, they just haven't seen it yet.

[Asker]

they definitely have seen it (check mark), and the messages date from two weeks ago to now._. it's not one unique message i sent him today m8. 3 different messages, 3 different times, the oldest being 2 weeks ago. maybe i am overreacting tho... but for someone that i've known had depression and past suicide attempts, overreacting may never be enough. i wasn't there when he tried in the past, but i am now. and i'm trying to do my best at avoiding something worse :c

[Greyson12]

Well I hope the best for both you and them.

[Asker]

thanks ^-^ for you too