Is it okay to spank kids? (Page 2)

Question

I think, that kids were spanked often before. Why is today some kind of weird trend to not punish kids physically (or even not at all)? For example my grandpa was beaten almost every day and I don't think, that it left any "trauma" on him For me personally? I'm glad, my parents spanked me sometimes, when I see how my generation can behave. And what about you? Have you been spanked by parents? And do/will you spank your kids? (And sorry for my English :( )

Lexicore · Answer

You don't need to spank kids to teach them discipline. And spanking may not necessarily traumatize someone, it has been shown to increase aggressiveness in children and normalizes violence, especially violence from authority

Anonymous · Answer

Spanking kids is a sign of lazy and bad parenting. It is so easy just to lash out instead of learning some psychology.  This way, my parents never had to resort to any violent punishment.

blubblubblub · Answer

cos it opens the door to more kinds of abuse. more serious and traumatizing than a spank. plus you dont wanna teach ur kids violence is the way.

TripleAce · Answer

So you dont 'think' it left any trauma. So you are willing to risk that based on what we 'think' lol

See no risks for me. Ill out smart them. They are kids. You dont need to phyiscally touch them at all
just know how to out smart them lol

Clyde_123 · Answer

I've been spanked but I don't want to spank my kids. It's just wrong, you can correct your child in good way. Not using a violence that will end up trauma, fear.

Raymond_Reddington · Answer

I do not condone physical punishments. “You were bad, now I’m gonna hurt you. The one person who you are supposed to be able to depend on is now going to hurt you because you did something bad”. Bullshit. The only physical interaction that could be used as a punishment is tickling. Works just as well and it’s not as traumatizing as physically beating them.

Ayer93 · Answer

Definitely should not spank your kids. The only time I would even consider it is if my kid bullies another kid. I'd spank him and ask him how he/she likes it. But I most likely would only use that as a last resort if they continually bullied other kids when I say not to. It is shown in almost every case that spanking is detrimental to kids psychological health. There's almost always a way to teach your kids the right thing to do without hitting them.

Bear41 · Answer

I was spanked as a child when I did something really wrong. It wasn't used for anything other than a major punishment. It can't be used as a one punishment for all. I was also Grounded first to my yard what sucked because I grew up near a lake, then to the housed even worse was then it was from all electronics.

AquaBoo · Answer

I would spank my kids. TBH these kids today are tomorrow's future. I don't want rambunctious know it all who cry whenever they don't get their way to run things. I admit spanking is questionable but it is necessary.

BExNeko · Answer

Kids need to be spanked when they behave badly, how else are they going to learn da wae?

Nit but on a serious note. If a kid behaves badly all the time, then he needs to be spanked... Some parents make their kids stand in a corner for 5 minutes but what effect is that going to have...

Parents nowadays don't spank their kids nearly enough which is why there is a rise (atleast at the place I live) of bratty kids.

Onionmustache · Answer

When I got spanked I smartened up, but I wasn't bitter about it. I didn't hate my parents. I understood that I shouldn't do whatever I just did, and that's that.

chameleon3081 · Answer

A spank, that doesn't really hurt, more just to say there are consequences to your action kid, perfectly OK.

Hitting too hard and abusing kids, hell no.

Just as long as lines are not crossed, I have no issue with it. It teaches consequences to bad behaviours, which a lot of modern children don't seem to understand.

RationalMale · Answer

I was spanked growing up, both in the right way and the wrong way.

Right way: spank your kid for deliberate disobedience. Example: "Chris, I clearly told you twice you can't get on the computer today. I just came back and you're on the computer. You're getting a spanking."

Wrong way: "You kids are driving me crazy, get over here you brats!" (grabs kid by arm, yanks them, then starts spanking them.)

Ilvmycountryman · Answer

HELL NO THAT Won't teach them anything and if u so called spank which it is hitting ur child ur a an abusive parent  U don't deserve to have kids

boulshyte · Answer

i never remember the reasons y i was hit. only the pain. kids r young and dont understand fully. I don't know if this is personal but i only understood and learnt when they explained it to me

Ellie-V · Answer

I don’t believe in physical punishment. There are plenty of other effective ways to discipline a child without putting your hands on them.

Dark93 · Answer

I was spanked as a kid and probably will spank my kids if they force me to. I'll try everything else until they give me no choice. And if they ever hit me, their mother, siblings, etc. I'll have to teach them what it's like to be hurt in a similar way.

TheRealQuestion · Answer

I chose "have been and want to" but i think that's inaccurate, I would never "want" to cause a child pain, but I think its necessary to teach children right from wrong at an early age.

I was disciplined as needed and I think turned out better because of it.

My advice, spank your kids if/when they need it.

Jackie79 · Answer

I've been spanked a lot of times, mostly with my dad's belt or a flip flop. Today's generation of kids are out of control. I usually see kids running around restaurants. If they were my kids I would have grabbed them and made them sit or took them outside/home to spank them

Anonymous · Answer

Lol yeah I'm completely fine with spankings. My dad would punch me in the face or smack me if I fucked up, amongst mostly spankings, I would much rather have just been spanked.

Plus sometimes you need to let your kids know violence is necessary to solve issues they will confront in the world.

70kyle07 · Answer

Spanking kids does not traumatize them! You have to realize that, even when kids are spanked, parents don't hit as hard as they can. With that said, though, I probably won't spank my kids when they have them.

cherryphi82 · Answer

Yep, to a degree. A good swat on the bottom works wonders. If they mouth off to you, a slap across the cheek. Don't beat the crap out of them and you're good.

doogo · Answer

The 3 strike rule is always useful. Talk to them and let them know what they did wrong twice. Third time you get a whooping. Don't beat them or hit them with household or outside objects, that's abuse. The belt is classic and the only thing that is acceptable.

LadyJade007 · Answer

Of course it’s ok to spank kids if they’re behaving miserably. Look at most of the kids of this generation since they’re not being disciplined by their parents properly. I was spanked when I was younger and I’m thankful for that

Danielle93 · Answer

Anything done often and frequently is bad. If you have to spank lots of times, it means it's not working. Otherwise why would you need to continue spanking if it worked the first few times?

hasrett · Answer

I was spanked and I'm not traumatized by it. There's difference between discipline and raging parent.

Anonymous · Answer

I’ve had wooden spoons and coat hangers broken on my ass before. I came out as a good kid so yes I think spanking your kids is good and it’s discipline. As long as you don’t beat your child. Giving them a hiding is good.

hsshannah96 · Answer

People who want to hit their kids to teach them morals and values and boundaries shouldn’t have kids.

JDavid25 · Answer

I don't think there's inherently anything wrong wit given yo kids a little tap for actin up.. My sister used to hit my nephew a lot and I damn near hated it though.. I most likely won't be hittin my kids..

aceexp · Answer

I've been spanked. A lot, cause I was bad. I'm not gonna spank or whoop mines though because that causes issues with them growing up. Guess I'll have to get creative with punishments. Hopefully I won't have to though.

jacquesvol · Answer

Spanking learns kids dad and mom think violence is a good method to solve a problem. Spanking parents show they don't know how to raise kids without violence.

bubble_tea · Answer

Back it was totally normal to torture animals for fun too and lynch black people. It's called progress.

Emmdk · Answer

So the people who say kids need pain to learn are crazy idiots who obviously haven't learned about how communication skills are the way forward.

Leeda · Answer

I have been spanked and I don't want to spank my kids as long as it is necessary. But I'm saying it is good to spank them if their behaviour is bad.

BoySittingOnTheMoon · Answer

I have been spanked a lot and it teaches me nothing but fear. I still sometime have a tendency to cower myself. Out of control kids shouldn't be an excuse to spank them.

DoctorWize · Answer

Don't try and pull that antic in public or have Child Welfare put a foot up your fanny.

Vesuvius87 · Answer

I've been spanked, but I don't want to spank my kids I learned nothing other than it being used as a form of power and control. Only getting respected out of fear isn't true respect.

CuChullan · Answer

A spank on the legs of bum when your child is young is ok when needed. It should be a last resort.
As they get older, spanking only hurts their dignity and causes resentment. You can discipline with other means and methods.

Tiffstarr · Answer

I’ve been spanked when I was younger but for doing dumb shit and I feel like I did something wrong so it was ok. I do not want to spank my kids I will just use a stern voice with them to show that I mean business

Livvy222 · Answer

Better to teach them why it's wrong to make them not do a thing instead of not doing it out of fear

worldscolide · Answer

I have no problems with spanking. I think all of these parents that refuse to spank is why we have all of these whiny entitled disrespectful brats these days.

alyssal · Answer

Getting spanked never made me act better, and it only ever brought spite. There are better and more constructive ways to teach children what to do and not do.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think spanking is acceptable. Do something wrong or being disobedient does not need to result in violence.

Shimy · Answer

I've been spanked a very few times (maybe 3 or 4) when I did really bad things, and it wasn't traumatising for me. I don't want kids so I can't answer the poll

Patrickjv · Answer

I don't think the United Nations convention on the rights of children is a trend. Literally no credible academic specializing in children's psychology or education recommends it.

adolescentswede · Answer

I used to be totally con physical punishment, but I have somewhat recently changed my position that punishments in family should reflect the corresponding consequences of an adult person but in a reduced fashion.

BlackParade · Answer

You have to spank boys. Not girls. I'm a teenage boy myself and honestly, WE DONT JUST GIVE A FUCK. You have to spank us or inflict some sorta pain.

Most people would say no. But seriously boys dont listen. 😂😂

Pineapple_Boy · Answer

I was spanked as a kid if I did something really bad, and guess what , I never did it again. Almost all my friends were spanked and they are all normal now and not traumatized or anything like that. In fact we all joke about it.

Somegirl01 · Answer

I've been spanked many times as a kid and I'd never spank my kids. I want a relationship based on love and respect not fear.

Didja_Like_That · Answer

I got spanked, my kids will get spanked, my grandkids will get spanked. Just a family tradition, no big deal.

thearabian123789 · Answer

We have a poem in arabic that goes like: Do not grief for children if they got beaten The pain is forgotten and the manners and knowledge remains

notebynote · Answer

I was spanked when I was younger, but it progressed to a slap in the face. I wouldn't want to do this if/when I have kids; there are better and less violent ways to punish a child.

JellyDonutguy96 · Answer

no  it can ruin them psychologically and they can end up becoming criminals it's not ok Catholics are wrong, Children do not learn from pain, they learn from forgiveness

ryancg · Answer

I was spanked plenty as a kid and I turned out just fine. It seems like a lot of kids nowadays are little shits and need to be spanked but nobody does it anymore.

Tylisa1 · Answer

Kids need discipline. They act up beat they little asses.  As long as it's not excessive and they ain't getting beating for every thing they do. There's nothing wrong with it.

Logorithim · Answer

Was common practice when I was a kid, but is a big no-no these days. I find other ways to discipline them that don't require physical contact.

LittleRedKat · Answer

Ik this doesn't answer your question but it's funny. When my uncle was a kid he put a metal sheet in his pants and when my grandma spanked him she hit her hand on the metal sheet 😂😂😂

KimmyWhimmy · Answer

As long as you do it out of love. Otherwise they will never be disciplined and think they can get away with everything. Maybe even end up in jail. There’s got to be a balance between being their friend and their parent.

lovedejj_xo · Answer

I was spanked... I would never do it to my child when I have kids. I don’t believe in it.

yeneiri · Answer

For me it depends if my kids will reach my limitation..

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