Every research ever made shows that spanking and any form of coroporal punishment only does bad.
Kids need a secure attachment to their parents to grow into healthy individuals. How can they ever get that if the person who is supposed to care for them, protect them and love is the ones that is also hurting them, inflicting pain upon them.
Smacking the hand of a young child might get their attention but really there are better ways of correcting bad behaviour. At 13, hitting a child is not going to work and demonstrates that the parent has not found better strategies which is perhaps why he stole mum's car in the first place.
No, that's going too far. On a 13 year old that did that, I'd remove his stinking "devices" for about a year. That would hurt him worse than a belt. My great uncle used to beat his boys with a belt and they both ended up alcoholics. One died at 46, the other at 50.
My father used to hit me with a belt whenever i did something stupid in public or in the house. Sometimes even if i get into an argument with my brother or even fight him. He doesn't hit me anymore, and i think its because i dont do stupid things. Now in school I see myself as more mature than my classmates, not because i was hit, but because I dont do stupid things anymore or at least as much as they do
Yes, it's child abuse and it teaches the kid that the way to solve problems is with violence. You should be an adult and show them that violence is not the answer and instead use your brain to solve the conflict. If you actually use violence on a kid, that just means you're too retarded to think of a proper solution and in my opinion you're not fit to take care of a child.
It depends how bad of a thing they did also spanking should be the last thing to do in a not so bad incident also it is good to tell said kid that its bad and why its bad and if said kid does it again ground them and if they still do it and nothing so fare has worked bring out the belt.
Nah. It doesn't do any good. The judicial system has much better ways to stop bad behavior. Just put up with whatever they put you through until until they're 18, and the system will take it from there.
All that 13yo needed was a timeout and his xbox taken away. Obviously, his mother is a failure for not doing that sooner
Nah it doesn't work. Teaching someone to fear you when they get caught just teaches them to dissemble more often. Then you end up with a kid that's emotionally detached from their family that lies all the time.
You can get spanked by someone who loves you when you’re younger or you can get beat/shot by someone who doesn’t care when you get older. Spanking is controlled punishment. Abuse is just beating someone until you get tired of beating them.
Yes, it teaches a lesson but not the sort of lesson that's helpful. However, I have no insight into the mind of a 13-year-old that would think of stealing a car. If I had a 13-year-old that wanted to drive I would put them in a go-kart.
Spanking, yes. Hitting, no. Spanking is done to show that you've done bad and you will receive punishment for said bad. Hitting is just for the sake of hitting. I will never agree that you should hit your child. I will however agree that spanking them is the right thing to do, when the situation calls for it. Proof of that, I was a huge problem child before my parents started spanking. Now I follow the rules and am nice to a near fault.
Parenting isn't an easy process. Only parents know what can be good to their child. Its better to control him at younger age than unable to control at older age. But too much beating can spoil totally! Conclusion: yes it is a form.
that question would raise anger if people take the wrong way. i can tell you that i have only stole one time and the action my dad took, i still feel the sting lol, it tought me right from wrong and most of all respect whats not yours.. but would i hit my kids, i couldnt, missing there phones for a month would chew them up worse than a smack.👍
Bunch of snow flakes on here only in America people see spanking as abuse. The kids who you see disrespect their parents very likely never got spanked as a kid. If getting a slap on the butt traumatizes you well your just a weak minded pussy.
I was hit as a child but all of that has made me strong, hard-working, disciplined and confident
It didn't even make me emotionless, I love my parents to bits and I'm actually quite sensitive sometimes haha
Sometimes children can go out of control out of the influence of friends, TV, school etc As long as it doesn't cause a long-term injury, then I think. it's fine, out of personal experience
Violence isn't okay Discipline is There's a difference, also hitting should happen ONLY if it's needed and it seems as the child is out of control
I said I was hit as a kid but first it wasn't that violent, second I'm not violent at all even though I was hit as a kid, I strive to spread as much love as possible and if my parents didn't hit me back then I wouldn't be walking on the straight path I am today
Yes, it's effective. The caveat is that a parent shouldn't become abusive with it. Give em the leather belt only for major infringements. Naturally, no long-term injuries allowed such as lifting the child up by the hair or something horrible like that.
Fuck child abuse! People in the 60's spanked their kids and they learned what was right or wrong, Today you have killing people right and left because they feel there is no consequences for doing wrong.
Adults are smarter... no need to hit.. just outsmart If that's an issue than I can see why some would use violence to discipline their kids... some just aren't clever enough or want to take the easy way
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Every research ever made shows that spanking and any form of coroporal punishment only does bad.
Kids need a secure attachment to their parents to grow into healthy individuals. How can they ever get that if the person who is supposed to care for them, protect them and love is the ones that is also hurting them, inflicting pain upon them.
My parents have never ever hit me and I eill never ever hit my children.
What research?
@Zodiac10 google it, there is plenty!
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Smacking the hand of a young child might get their attention but really there are better ways of correcting bad behaviour.
At 13, hitting a child is not going to work and demonstrates that the parent has not found better strategies which is perhaps why he stole mum's car in the first place.
No, that's going too far. On a 13 year old that did that, I'd remove his stinking "devices" for about a year. That would hurt him worse than a belt. My great uncle used to beat his boys with a belt and they both ended up alcoholics. One died at 46, the other at 50.
My father used to hit me with a belt whenever i did something stupid in public or in the house. Sometimes even if i get into an argument with my brother or even fight him. He doesn't hit me anymore, and i think its because i dont do stupid things. Now in school I see myself as more mature than my classmates, not because i was hit, but because I dont do stupid things anymore or at least as much as they do
Yes, it's child abuse and it teaches the kid that the way to solve problems is with violence. You should be an adult and show them that violence is not the answer and instead use your brain to solve the conflict. If you actually use violence on a kid, that just means you're too retarded to think of a proper solution and in my opinion you're not fit to take care of a child.
It depends how bad of a thing they did also spanking should be the last thing to do in a not so bad incident also it is good to tell said kid that its bad and why its bad and if said kid does it again ground them and if they still do it and nothing so fare has worked bring out the belt.
I was smacked a few times and I turned out fine. But they were serious situations.
1: I ran out onto the road as a small child.
Two smacks on the ass taught me. I never did that again
2; I ran away from my parents during Canada day in a over populated park. Again 2 smacks I learnt my lesson.
So yes but only controlled spanking don’t beat the kids ass like a bongo drum.
1-2 swats on the but should get the message threw.
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You shld join running competitions...
@ROCKS128 lol I should.
Nah. It doesn't do any good. The judicial system has much better ways to stop bad behavior. Just put up with whatever they put you through until until they're 18, and the system will take it from there.
All that 13yo needed was a timeout and his xbox taken away. Obviously, his mother is a failure for not doing that sooner
Nah it doesn't work. Teaching someone to fear you when they get caught just teaches them to dissemble more often. Then you end up with a kid that's emotionally detached from their family that lies all the time.
You can get spanked by someone who loves you when you’re younger or you can get beat/shot by someone who doesn’t care when you get older. Spanking is controlled punishment. Abuse is just beating someone until you get tired of beating them.
Yes, it teaches a lesson but not the sort of lesson that's helpful. However, I have no insight into the mind of a 13-year-old that would think of stealing a car. If I had a 13-year-old that wanted to drive I would put them in a go-kart.
Spanking, yes. Hitting, no. Spanking is done to show that you've done bad and you will receive punishment for said bad. Hitting is just for the sake of hitting. I will never agree that you should hit your child. I will however agree that spanking them is the right thing to do, when the situation calls for it. Proof of that, I was a huge problem child before my parents started spanking. Now I follow the rules and am nice to a near fault.
Parenting isn't an easy process.
Only parents know what can be good to their child. Its better to control him at younger age than unable to control at older age.
But too much beating can spoil totally!
Conclusion: yes it is a form.
that question would raise anger if people take the wrong way. i can tell you that i have only stole one time and the action my dad took, i still feel the sting lol, it tought me right from wrong and most of all respect whats not yours.. but would i hit my kids, i couldnt, missing there phones for a month would chew them up worse than a smack.👍
Bunch of snow flakes on here only in America people see spanking as abuse. The kids who you see disrespect their parents very likely never got spanked as a kid. If getting a slap on the butt traumatizes you well your just a weak minded pussy.
I agree before the goverment stepped in the children had respect now that a look..
You just teach kids violence is OK. After that , don't wonder why your society is violent.
Lol the violent once acting out being brats are the one's who never got a good spanking
Or society is violent for a very simple reason we're all imperfect living in a imperfect world
I was hit as a child but all of that has made me strong, hard-working, disciplined and confident
It didn't even make me emotionless, I love my parents to bits and I'm actually quite sensitive sometimes haha
Sometimes children can go out of control out of the influence of friends, TV, school etc
As long as it doesn't cause a long-term injury, then I think. it's fine, out of personal experience
@Syrian_survivor You just teach kids violence is OK. After that , don't wonder why our society is violent.
Violence isn't okay
Discipline is
There's a difference, also hitting should happen ONLY if it's needed and it seems as the child is out of control
I said I was hit as a kid but first it wasn't that violent, second I'm not violent at all even though I was hit as a kid, I strive to spread as much love as possible and if my parents didn't hit me back then I wouldn't be walking on the straight path I am today
Yes, it's effective. The caveat is that a parent shouldn't become abusive with it. Give em the leather belt only for major infringements. Naturally, no long-term injuries allowed such as lifting the child up by the hair or something horrible like that.
Fuck child abuse! People in the 60's spanked their kids and they learned what was right or wrong, Today you have killing people right and left because they feel there is no consequences for doing wrong.
Glad that we agree on something...
All I know is the women at the park get upset when I spank children with a belt. Especially since I don't have a kid.
Adults are smarter... no need to hit.. just outsmart
If that's an issue than I can see why some would use violence to discipline their kids... some just aren't clever enough or want to take the easy way