He calls me his little sister, but let me tell you, he does not treat me like his little sister.

[Anonymous]

my close friend of 3 years constantly calls me his little sister. Mind you, I called him my big brother first, so it might be my fault. However, every time we're together, there is this chemistry that just can't be made up. We constantly flirt, tease each other mercilessly (play tease), and constantly smile. When people see us together they think we're dating. We cuddle and he asks me to spend the night at his place. I don't know where his head is. I don't want to mention anything because it might ruin the friendship. We're really close. He stares at me so intensely that I feel swallowed by his gaze. I'm confused.

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

Yeah the little sister thing is totally your fault. But it sounds like it's just a nickname at this point, because based on what you said, seems a lot like he digs you, which is always good. Seriously, all the things you mentioned individually may not seem like much by themselves, but combined it means alot. He's clearly interested.

So, if you have feelings for him, you really SHOULD tell him. Trust me on this. It will not ruin the friendship. If he likes you back (and I'm thinking it's pretty damned clear that he does) you'll have one of the strongest possible relationships you could have. If he doesn't like you back, your chances are very high that your friendship will be fine. More likely, you'd make his day, he'd be incredibly flattered, and if there's any awkwardness, it'll most likely be because he worries he hurt your feelings.

See funny thing about rejection. It doesn't have to be the end. See even if he says no, he still has the chance to think about it in case his feelings change. Like the offer is left on the table. Which leads me to the next thing I wanna bring up.

See while your chances with him are already pretty good, and the chances of ruining things are pretty low, I think you can greatly improve your chances of keeping things relatively normal, and hedging your bets a little. Basically what you want to do is remove all pressure from the situation. Something that makes things clear that things will be OK, if he doesn't feel the same way.

Basically by saying something like "I don't want to freak you out" or something similar, and then by going on that there's something you wanted to tell him. From there you tell him your feelings, maybe go on by telling him what he means to you, that you've been developing feelings for him.and then tell him that you really just wanted to get this off your chest to be honest with him. At some point in either the middle or near the end of all this, you should tell him that you're not expecting anything, and it's OK if he doesn't feel the same way. That you can still be friends.

This will eliminate a lot of pressure from the situation, it should boost his self esteem by a bunch, and make things cool between you if nothing comes of it. If by some freak occurrence he DOESN'T feel the same way, then just give him a hug, tell him it's OK, and go back to being the friends you are now, and if he ever comes to fall for you, it's all the easier for him to tell you. Still if you want him, you're the one that needs to make the first move, because so long as you guys keep calling each other brother and sister, it's never gonna happen.

You started this. He probably thinks he can't do anything about it because of this. So if you ever want that to change it's on you. So you're gonna need some courage and some carefully worded sentences based around my guidelines, but you'll be OK.

Good luck with this. I'm rooting for you.

[Asker]

thank you so much. this is better advice than I get from my girlfriends! haha

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

You're welcome, and thanks for the compliments, because I mean every word of it. If you ever need any more help with this, add me to friends, and come see me anytime. Maybe I can help nail down some of the finer details.

In the mean time. Good luck.

[Football_Jake]

It's just an inside joke between the two of you. It's his way of flirting. He's into you.

[Asker]

how is it an inside joke? He seems pretty serious when he says it.

[Football_Jake]

You started calling him your big brother, so he played along. It's now something the two of you do that's different than how you interact with others. Trust, guys don't act like that with their sisters.

[Anonymous]

I'm in the same situation now and he flirts with me all the time but he calls me sister. I really want to know what happened to your relationship?

[Anonymous]

do you keep on calling him your big brother?

[Asker]

...not really.

[Opinion Owner]

lol not really or not as often?

[Asker]

not as often

[Opinion Owner]

stop calling him that all together and see if he still does.

[Galaxie500]

He's feeding some kind of twisted incest fetish.

[jjj101010]

Do u want to be more than friends with him?