How do you punish kids without beating them? (Page 2)

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I asked this question somewhere else but got little to no answers, I already know this is gonna be controversial. Every now and again I think to myself "if I had kids how would I discipline them?" Whenever I ask myself that, I get super anxious. Growing up my set punishment for anything was a beating via belt, till I was at least 14 years old. a lot of kids have been raised that way. But I've always feared my father because of how he beat me. It didn't matter what wrong doing it had been, it would usually end in 10 whips. I resented my father for a long time and somewhere deep inside me I still do. I did a lot of things behind his back, got myself into situations I never should have because I was too scared to tell my parents (my mom never stopped the beating so I believed telling her would just cause her to go to him and he would beat me some more). With all this in mind I don't want to beat my future children. I don't want them to be afraid to come to me or resent me into their adult life, but I don't know any other way. I think putting a kid in time out is alittle weird, so I am honestly confused on how anyone gets their kids to do what they tell them to without hurting them, and still have those kids love them... How the hell? I want to be a good mom someday. I don't want to become my dad.

OddBeMe · Answer

i hated groundings more than beatings. violence begets violence.

Iamhonored · Answer

Taking away stuff they Love, for example i love my PC so my mother takes away my Computer i start to listen more and more until i get it back

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Real talk. I'm capable of it. I don't manipulate but let them understand and see the consequences.

smalltowndiva · Answer

Um ya don't if you can't deal with them like you do people from work then you get a dog instead.

bannacookies · Answer

Beat or spank? There's a huge difference between the two.

Anonymous · Answer

Ignoring someone is the most powerful thing you can ever do, we are social creatures and in the wild isolation from the group is death.

Zeus_66 · Answer

Tell them how disappointed you are in them and walk away. That hits their soul.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Throw their shit out. Ie kid plays video games and won't stop. Throw the xbox out and make them work a summer job if they want a new one.

Thea99 · Answer

Take their favorite toy from them, take their phone, game system.

Anonymous · Answer

my parents used psychological torture in addition to the physical beatings

dandiecandie · Answer

You don't. You show them why they're wrong.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I don't believe in time out or taking toys away nonsense. I firmly believe in spanking hard, not abuse but a good whoopin with a belt will get the message across that misbehaving won't be tolerated.

dreamstar72 · Answer

Say their whole name and mean it.

Iron_Man · Answer

Take away their cartoon TV programs

Jackblue · Answer

Timeouts worked on me. I don't think it is weird.

ThisIsMyOpinion · Answer

@Alwayreckles93 This is one question for you.

Gedaria · Answer

Naughty step works wonders...

Anonymous · Answer

If ya dont beat them they will be disrespectful shitheads as teens

KingChris08 · Answer

By punishing kids without beating them

Coolmanxl · Answer

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