You could try googling "how to discipline your child books" and buy one or ask your library to stock some of the books you like the look of. Or for a less dry approach could watch "supernanny" British TV show. Get quality info, think about how to apply it and apply it. But I am no parent.
If your child loves you than you can influence them with your words and your emotions and by refusing to cook foods they like to eat or locking their cell phone or video game in a safe when they do something wrong or withholding vacations or rides to friends houses or discontinuing their piano lessons or karate lessons if they act up
I am not a fan on putting hsnds on my kids i never realy had to. its very important if you do hit them that they know why its happening. i hit my daughter once when she was five. the rest of the time i didn't have to i guess she always remembered thst little butt kicking i ghave her. she is the best thbing that ever hsappen she getting ready to go to medical school
Growing up I got a whoopin every day of my life. I never got one that I didn’t deserve or have coming. I have kids (14 & 9, both girls) and I have never spanked them. They have never needed it either. I never said that I wouldn’t beat my kids. I think I just got lucky.
You take away the privileges they have. It is up to them to earn them back. And you talk to them, explain clearly what you expect.
A swat on the butt gets their attention. This can be down without 'beating' a child.
We never really told the kids 'no', or you can't do something. We would suggest they not and why, but it was up to them, and they would learn the consequences when they did bad things. They all turned out really great, are successful and well-mannered adults.
As a parent of 5 kids, I have never beat any of them. The most extreme I got was grounding. I found that even at a young age, calmly talking to them and explaining why what they did was wrong and then letting them explain why they decided to do what they did, worked well and led to many productive and constructive conversations.
I’m glad it’s worked for you. But some kids just mock and defy the punishment. This makes them defy authority in general which is overall NOT a good thing.
The secret is to start at a very young age, the problem arises with inconsistency. I have been involved in helping raise many kids before I had my own, it worked with every one. When a child respects and trusts you they won't think of mocking or defying you.
Yep. Well I was at the tail end of the “bad old days”. I was born in 81 and when I was a little boy I was still in generation where beating kids was okay. Being the oldest in my family to inexperienced parents (who had brutal parents themselves) I was smack left and right for misbehaving.
But I wasn’t a bad kid. I had undiagnosed ADHD. If I misbehaved it was more an error of judgment not intentionally being bad out of enjoyment. So this lead to a deep fear about obeying my parents and resenting them deeply later in life. But my dad apologized to me years ago and I forgive him. He’s just parenting from what he was taught.
Anyway I’m glad you got decent kids and you were able to effectively discipline them without getting physical.
My opinion is being physical is only effective when you are present, respect and trust is effective even when you aren't present because they don't want to disappoint.
Well i think its a tad early to be considering vhildren and how you would raise them but I would say a combination of positive and negative reinforcement the same with any other person so that they understand there are consequences to their actions both good and bad so that they actively seek to do "good" actions with good consequences instead of "bad" actions with bad consequences.
Yes, I'm "implying" that your 17 and, assuming more a more western culture, aren't going to have to worry about this for at least 5 to ten years if not more.
Yelling and beating can mess with a kids head for life. Even though its hard to contain the anger, you gotta sit and talk it out. Write a list of rules and let them know when broken, they will lose privileges like toys/video games
I grew up getting spanked, sometimes got smacked with a feather duster or slippers..
I think we should try teach our kid what they're doing wrong and why it's wrong opposed to instantly resorting to physical discipline. I'd teach them that if they do something they're not supposed to there will be a consequence and it'll usually be something taken away from them that they like, for example toys, ipad, etc..
Time-outs, no TV or screens. I get beaten everyday for things my sisters do sadly it isn't bad enough that i have to call child services but imma tell u now u beat ur child like my mum does to me. Ur realationship woth them will gradually fall apart.
The essential natural function of BEING children is to witness... and experience... and 'learn' contextually successful life circumstances, preferably firsthand to best prepare them to survive and to prosper.
THEREFORE, any NON-injurious sensory deprivation expending their voracious attention span in enforced idleness is exceptionally punitive especially to AD/HD juveniles, knowing their peers ARE enjoying life experiences meanstwhile.
hitting with a belt is a pretty severe first punishment, i wouldn't go that far unless they did something really bad. you could just spank them that's fine or pinch them. or force them to stand in the corner for a half hour or take all electronics away or send them to bed with no dinner
If you're really interested PM me. I have successfully raised a respectful son without ever raising a finger to him. It's all abkut communication and patience. I have a strategy to it that I learned watching Super Nanny back in the day.
There has to be a consequence for bad actions or they’re repeated. One of the most effective ways is taking away things they use. Phones, video games, TV, time with friends etc. It’s 100% effective.
I was beat as a kid. I’m totally fine as an adult. Beatings work as long as it’s civil. They are the most effective form of punishment. I can assure you of that
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You could try googling "how to discipline your child books" and buy one or ask your library to stock some of the books you like the look of. Or for a less dry approach could watch "supernanny" British TV show. Get quality info, think about how to apply it and apply it. But I am no parent.
If your child loves you than you can influence them with your words and your emotions and by refusing to cook foods they like to eat or locking their cell phone or video game in a safe when they do something wrong or withholding vacations or rides to friends houses or discontinuing their piano lessons or karate lessons if they act up
I am not a fan on putting hsnds on my kids i never realy had to. its very important if you do hit them that they know why its happening. i hit my daughter once when she was five. the rest of the time i didn't have to i guess she always remembered thst little butt kicking i ghave her. she is the best thbing that ever hsappen she getting ready to go to medical school
Growing up I got a whoopin every day of my life. I never got one that I didn’t deserve or have coming. I have kids (14 & 9, both girls) and I have never spanked them. They have never needed it either. I never said that I wouldn’t beat my kids. I think I just got lucky.
You take away the privileges they have. It is up to them to earn them back.
And you talk to them, explain clearly what you expect.
A swat on the butt gets their attention. This can be down without 'beating' a child.
We never really told the kids 'no', or you can't do something. We would suggest they not and why, but it was up to them, and they would learn the consequences when they did bad things. They all turned out really great, are successful and well-mannered adults.
As a parent of 5 kids, I have never beat any of them. The most extreme I got was grounding.
I found that even at a young age, calmly talking to them and explaining why what they did was wrong and then letting them explain why they decided to do what they did, worked well and led to many productive and constructive conversations.
I’m glad it’s worked for you. But some kids just mock and defy the punishment. This makes them defy authority in general which is overall NOT a good thing.
The secret is to start at a very young age, the problem arises with inconsistency. I have been involved in helping raise many kids before I had my own, it worked with every one.
When a child respects and trusts you they won't think of mocking or defying you.
Yep. Well I was at the tail end of the “bad old days”. I was born in 81 and when I was a little boy I was still in generation where beating kids was okay. Being the oldest in my family to inexperienced parents (who had brutal parents themselves) I was smack left and right for misbehaving.
But I wasn’t a bad kid. I had undiagnosed ADHD. If I misbehaved it was more an error of judgment not intentionally being bad out of enjoyment. So this lead to a deep fear about obeying my parents and resenting them deeply later in life. But my dad apologized to me years ago and I forgive him. He’s just parenting from what he was taught.
Anyway I’m glad you got decent kids and you were able to effectively discipline them without getting physical.
My opinion is being physical is only effective when you are present, respect and trust is effective even when you aren't present because they don't want to disappoint.
Good point
Well i think its a tad early to be considering vhildren and how you would raise them but I would say a combination of positive and negative reinforcement the same with any other person so that they understand there are consequences to their actions both good and bad so that they actively seek to do "good" actions with good consequences instead of "bad" actions with bad consequences.
Why do you think its 'a tad bit early' for me to be thinking that way? Are you implying something? But thanks for the advice
Yes, I'm "implying" that your 17 and, assuming more a more western culture, aren't going to have to worry about this for at least 5 to ten years if not more.
Well I'm worrying about this now, I'm asking this question now, I don't think my age has anything to do with these concerns sir. But thank you.
Yelling and beating can mess with a kids head for life. Even though its hard to contain the anger, you gotta sit and talk it out. Write a list of rules and let them know when broken, they will lose privileges like toys/video games
I grew up getting spanked, sometimes got smacked with a feather duster or slippers..
I think we should try teach our kid what they're doing wrong and why it's wrong opposed to instantly resorting to physical discipline.
I'd teach them that if they do something they're not supposed to there will be a consequence and it'll usually be something taken away from them that they like, for example toys, ipad, etc..
Time-outs, no TV or screens. I get beaten everyday for things my sisters do sadly it isn't bad enough that i have to call child services but imma tell u now u beat ur child like my mum does to me. Ur realationship woth them will gradually fall apart.
The essential natural function of BEING children is to witness... and experience... and 'learn' contextually successful life circumstances, preferably firsthand to best prepare them to survive and to prosper.
THEREFORE, any NON-injurious sensory deprivation expending their voracious attention span in enforced idleness is exceptionally punitive especially to AD/HD juveniles, knowing their peers ARE enjoying life experiences meanstwhile.
did you have a laugh writing this or were you actually trying to sound smart?
I'd say 1, 2 3 magic aka "stop doing that and take a time out, 1... 2... Don't make me get to three..." And taking away things from them.
But I've heard a child tell their mother horrible things so I'm honestly not sure what will work in the modern age
hitting with a belt is a pretty severe first punishment, i wouldn't go that far unless they did something really bad. you could just spank them that's fine or pinch them. or force them to stand in the corner for a half hour or take all electronics away or send them to bed with no dinner
If you're really interested PM me.
I have successfully raised a respectful son without ever raising a finger to him.
It's all abkut communication and patience.
I have a strategy to it that I learned watching Super Nanny back in the day.
Why would you even punish your kids?
Every study shows punishment doesn't improve the behaviour. The best thing is to encourage good behaviour.
There has to be a consequence for bad actions or they’re repeated. One of the most effective ways is taking away things they use. Phones, video games, TV, time with friends etc. It’s 100% effective.
I was beat as a kid. I’m totally fine as an adult. Beatings work as long as it’s civil. They are the most effective form of punishment. I can assure you of that
It depends I don't know what goes on in their houshold but when people visit with their kids they tell them to stop and the kids stop
But sometimes those same people later on yell at the kids saying i will fuck you up
So we don't know the whole story
There is never any need forces parent to use corporsl punishment.
I had mine sit in a chair in timeout, sort of like being in the penalty box in hockey.
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Only beat them on opposite day so that way you aren't beating them.
Oh ok