How to get over a pain that is so minor but hurts so deeply that I -can't stop thinking about it?

[Anonymous]

I happily messaged my friends in a groupchat (2 other girls in the group) saying hey girls 🤣🤣 and next think you know one of them goes "Whatcha dyu want?" . I didn't realise and thought she's asking me what am doing next thing you know I responsed and said , where my 2nd friend is? etc then I see a message of her laughing at the "whatcha dyu want comment". So I just directly said it on the group that my other mate is rude but acting like I'm okay but tbh I wasn't as they both were ignoring me on the group and I actually felt quite uncomfortable but were in our 20s now and I find this behaviour immature and I'm the type I'm really nice but they've always been inconsiderate over my feelings etc but come running to me, when things go wrong in their lives.

What kind of friends are they?

[NathanDavis]

If you keep friendships that are inconsiderate people towards you, then you should be questioning yourself on that... before you question them for their actions.

I know it's difficult but it is needed, you need to evaluate your friendships and if they're worth to you, if they don't care that much about you then they're not being friends.

[Asker]

I keep my distance with them as it is these days as I've started a new leaf in my life for myself from experiencing some harsh traumatic stuff in the past but over the years I realised their not very caring friends and their both as bad as each other but I've got a big heart and I forgive people who do me wrong but I won't chase them or anything rn. They can go on with days, weeks, months without me being present or me contacting them because I've learnt to do that with a lot of people.

[NathanDavis]

Then, have that big heart of yourself focused a bit more on you, it is okay to forgive or that you don't hold this against people, but also, care for yourself, give yourself the chance to know more people, better people, truly caring people... that would be with you the way you are with them.