Feeling insecure because I've never had a girlfriend before? And advice?

[Anonymous]

I'm 22 years and I've never had a girlfriend or gone out on a date and I'm still a virgin. And I've only kissed one girl and that wasn't even a real kiss. I'm just feeling insecure because I have a feeling people will laugh at me if I tell them this (if they want to know that is, it's not like I'm gonna tell them for no reason) and they will judge me for it and think I'm a loser. Especially when most of the guys and girls I know have got at least some experience in the dating world. I even know people younger than me that have got much more experience. I don't know what to do. I feel as if there's somethinwrong with me. Like I'm a loser or something. And I have put myself out there, I just haven't been successful yet.

[Drake742]

OK unless you're unusally unattractive, I mean you have a physical malformation that visable, have a good chance at getting GF. Go to the gym get in shape. As a last resort I'd do what a lot a girls do on Facebook, and present a biased impression of yourself. Take amazing pics of you haveing fun with friends; shows that you're sociable and not a creep, take pics of you working towards your goal; be it an automechanic, Dr. or Lawyer, it just has to show ambition, determination, and that you're actually following through with your plan. Take pics of you goofing off and smileing or some where you look particularly handsome, or sexy. The goal is to paint this amazing eclectic image called "you". But DON"T brag about any thing, girls and guys hate when someone does that, its a total turn off.

Then you can either ask you of your friends to set you up on a blind date; I did that for my sisters friends with one of my boys, they totally hit it off. One my boy did it for me too.

Try to figure our what is either wrong with your approach or the presentation, cause unless you're an asshole/douchbaggy/tool/anyother of the unforgivables, I promise you there are many awesome girls out there that have never had BFs can't figure out y, that are young hot and smart, all things being equal they would be an awesome catch.

I also suggest you pose your predicament directly to a few girls on GAG, private message them directly, see what they have to say. Most importantly, YOU ARE NOT A LOSER! I know it may feel that way sometimes;trust me I've been there, we are the same age, but it will get better.

[Asker]

well the only problem I see with my physical presentation is that I'm extremely short. Like around 5'4''. That, I assume, is a major turn off for women.

[Moros]

I'm 19, a virgin, and dated 2 women. If its one thing I learned, it is to take it slow. There's no rush and there are more important tasks ahead of you. I've gotten past the idea that people look down on me for being a virgin, but that's my choice. My second girlfriend broke up with me because I wouldn't have sex with her back when we were 16. Do I regret it? No, because after that happened I knew it wasn't meant to be, even after 4 months of being together. I too have thought to myself I would never meet someone, but that wasn't true at all. I've met many great women in places I didn't expect. Don't rush it, take it slow. You are young and have plenty of time to meet someone.

[Anonymous]

i know how you feel I'm 20 and have only kissed 2 guys one being a drunk hookup and the other one was a guy I pushed away. it sucks alot. but when people find out I'm a virgin they are surpised and give me credit. personally I also believe it showsthat you are saving yourself for someone special YOU ARE NOT A LOSER! and don't just give it up to anyone :)

[Anonymous]

You don't have to tell anyone anything if you're not comfortable. Actually, you should be proud of yourself. Not many men are like you anymore. Any girl would be very lucky to be with a guy that values himself and relationships the way you seem to.

[slipslender]

you are in no way, shape or form a loser. it's totally not a big deal that you haven't had a girlfriend yet- take your time :)

[Drake742]

Hhhm, he seems to want one, very badly. I was once in his position, I know the feeling, can you relate?

[slipslender]

of course I can. who wouldn't be able to relate? :p

[Armada]

I know how you feel man. Maybe one day we'll find a girl. I go out with friends and try to put myself out there. Are you in school? I feel like that would be the easiest place to actually meet a nice girl. I can talk to girls in class even if it has nothing to do with school. It's actually getting their number and asking them on a date that scares me. I don't understand why I have this fear and wish it would freaking go away.

[Armada]

Oh and the only advice I can really give is to look your best everyday. I don't necessarily dress nice but I make sure I'm clean and smell nice. I'm not one to put on fancy clothes and doing my hair (since I buzz it) but having nice clothes and smelling good should be enough indication that you take care of yourself and are not a total slob. The only option for guys that are afraid to approach girls is to be approachable.

[Dom163]

Do things at your own pace man what other people say shouldn't matter it's your life to live. Live it how you want to

[Anonymous]

i'm 23 and still in the same boat, I hate how us guys always have to be the ones to take charge

[Armada]

That's not always the case. If a girl finds you attractive enough and you are making yourself easily approachable I think girls will make the first move though it's rare. I've had girls make the first move with me but I was young and literally did not wtf to do because of how nervous I got. Guys don't always have to make the first move but in most cases they do. I don't hate it and I don't like it. It's just the way things are.

[Violagirl]

You are most definitely not a loser. I'm your age and have not had a boyfriend either and I think it's great that you values relationships enough to wait for the right girl to come.

[FrancoBattiato]

I'll be your girlfriend

[Drake742]

LMAO!