Are my parents right to punish me for being brought home by the police drunk?

[Anonymous]

are my parents right to take such drastic action to stop me drinking alcohol underage? in the past couple of weeks i have been coming home drunk ( NOT ON SCHOOL NIGHTS ) my parents said they are worried and unless i stop drinking they will have to take drastic action, last Friday night i got brought home DRUNK by the police my parents went mad and said they have had enough, the next morning Saturday my parents locked me in my bedroom as a punishment, they said i can no longer be trusted and they have no option but to lock me up for my own good as well as to punish, my parents said i will serve a minimum of 4 weekends imprisonment, no tv no phone etc, i will be set punishment essays to write and my parents have given me leaflets on the dangers of underage drinking , i have to copy these out several times as part of my punishment ADVICE PLEASE?

yes my parents are right and i deserve to be punished with a harsh punishment

no my parents should let me off with a warning

Updates

+1 y

its not right that i am shut away in my room my friend is having a barbecue tomorrow and i want to go , but how can i if i am locked up in my room, why do i have to suffer this punishment i DONT like it , i am bored fed up and MISERABLE , i want to be let out of my room WHY NO SYMPATHY FROM ANYONE?

[Vviiccttoorr]

I’ll be honest and please allow me explain (also I say all of this with respect and am not trying to sound condescending, just want to honestly help) I know you want sympathy but, it’s not well deserved. I know parents can be hard and I know you’re gonna see this as a cliche but, they do do it cause they love you and don’t want you to hurt yourself or someone else.

Think of it this way; how would you liked them to react? Would you have preferred to have had them not care or to reward your for getting drunk and possibly doing something awful. Because parents who don’t punish you for doing something and take stuff like this lightly are horrible parents who do not love their child and does not care what happens to them.

Put yourself in their shoes-you have a daughter who you love and she comes home (on more than one occasion drunk) some of the first things going through your head are “did someone take advantage of her” “did she do something bad” and it’s very worrying because you don’t want your child to get hurt. If you told me your parents did not discipline you and didn’t get angry then I’d feel bad for you for having uncaring parents. I understand it’s frustrating to have to stay home even though you don’t want to but, understand WHY your parents do this. They wouldn’t do this if they hated or didn’t care about you.

In the end though it’s your decision on what you want to ultimately do, I just hope that you don’t go too far with drinking and up doing something that’ll lead to guilt for eternity (just to have a night of fun). Also you can drink and not get drunk. Moderation.

[Asker]

can you believe i have only just been let out of my room and thats for school, i was locked in my room for t deserve to be punished like this? why does my punishment have to hurt so much i don3 days no pc no tv etc i was bored out of my head

[Vviiccttoorr]

Punishments can be like that. Trust me you’ll appreciate the punishments when you’re older and realize that the discipline you have now will only benefit you in the future to be a better person. my friend and I are actually glad that our parents disciplined us when we acted up as kids because if we weren’t disciplined we would’ve grown up thinking that doing bad stuff is OK. Of course our parents did not abuse us and still loved us but because they loved us is why they had to be hard on us at times.

[Asker]

but i dont want to be punished its MISREABLE i want my freedom back why does punishment have hurt so much?

[pajamasam]

You really shouldn't be drinking under age. Your mind is still developing and dousing it in booze while it's young and growing will cause irreversible damage. This punishment seems severe and unfair but I assure you, your parents are thinking of your longer future and they don't want you to have a terrible drinking habit before you even become an adult.

They seem harsh but they are being harsh because they are extremely worried about your future. I assure you they are not enjoying punishing you.

[Asker]

can you believe i have only just been let out of my room and thats for school, i was locked in my room for t deserve to be punished like this? why does my punishment have to hurt so much i don3 days no pc no tv etc i was bored out of my head

[GingerGuy]

Yes and no. Having the police bring you home isn't good, and something has to be done if your drinking is to that level I agree with that, but "punishment" in this form isn't going to "help" you in my opinion. If anything will only make the problem worse. There should be a "warning" but a serious one, such as maybe having you move or something if it continues.

[Asker]

if i am REALLY honest my parents did give me plenty of warnings i kept sneaking out when grounded so they warned me if i sneaked out again they would have no option but to lock my bedroom door to keep me in as well as to punish i thought they were bluffing now i am locked up and MISREABLE advice please?

[GingerGuy]

Follow their rules and things won't be so miserable for you. I mean, you won't be doing what you want to obviously, but life with your parents will be better. And you're under age for drinking I'm assuming?

[Asker]

part of my punishment is to write two 5 page punishment essays per weekend, this weekend i have to write one on the dangers of underage drinking and one on unaceptable behavour and punishment, my parents say they want me to think about what i have done wrong?

[Leavesbound]

Your parents are letting you off easy. Thank them for being so kind and generous. Mine kicked my brother out permanently for doing that and cut him off completely for over ten years.

[Sabretooth]

the result?

[Leavesbound]

@Sabretooth The result is my brother was forced to find his own way in life and teach himself life lessons and to mature by himself. He ended up married with four children and then divorced then later found out three of them weren't his even though he paid child support for all four until they all turned 22 and then he got married again this time to an illegal alien had a child with her then she took the child with her back to her home country and he hasn't see that child or his wife in ten years but he's doing ok he made millions in the real estate market and lives near an NFL foot ball stadium and rents parking spots out for $300 a day on game days and that alone is enough to retire comfortably on.

[Sabretooth]

so, a mixed bag.

[Asker]

how are they letting me of easy? i have been LOCKED in my room for 3 days with NOTHING to do except schoolbooks i was bored and misreable i have only been let out this morning for school on Friday after school i will be locked in for another weekend until i have served my punishment in full it HURTS BIG TIME why no sympathy?

[Asker]

@Sabretooth can you believe i have only just been let out of my room and thats for school, i was locked in my room for t deserve to be punished like this? why does my punishment have to hurt so much i don3 days no pc no tv etc i was bored out of my head

[_no_one_]

Any parent seeing a policeman delivering their child home like that has every right to be worried and take action. They might've exaggerated it tho cuz grounding like that in my opinion makes it even worse. They should've consider a family therapy.

[Asker]

i dont do groundings i sneak out so thats why my parents have LOCKED my bedroom door, they refuse to let me out until school on Tuesday morning, they say i can't be trusted so will remain locked in , i dont like this punishment it hurts big time?

[_no_one_]

Then that's not cool and would either end up them being even more strict or they'll just be so tired of your shit that they would stop interfering in your life. How old is you tho?

[Asker]

15, i have promised my parents i won't drink again so why do i still have to suffer being punished?

[_no_one_]

They simply don't trust you thats why and since u sneak out of the punishment, that wouldn't make it any better.

[Asker]

its HORRIBLE being locked in i dont like it, my sister says i deserve everything i am getting, and my punishment is long overdue, is that fair?

[Hawner]

Yep, I agree with them. Maybe they went a little overboard, but I can only applaud them.

[Asker]

but it hurts being locked up its a MISREABLE why can't i be punished with a punishment i dont hate as much?

[Hawner]

That is the point of a punishment. It has to hurt you so you link the action you did that is wrong with the pain. If it were mild discomfort or none at all, it wouldn't work. And since words and common sense don't seem to work on you, those are the measures your parent had to take.

[Asker]

OH NO, why can't i just serve 1 or 2 weekends at the most, i am missing out on so much fun?

[Hawner]

Good. Since it is so frustrating for you, if you don't want to miss on so much fun, you won't get drunk anymore in the future.

[Asker]

i have promised my parents i want drink again so why do i still have to suffer a punishment?

[Hawner]

So it actually sinks. Making promises is very easy, keeping them not so much. You have already showed that you lack restraint and common sense, breaking that promise of not drinking would actually be expected.
In any case, punishments are to punish bad actions already done so it doesn't happen again, so you will have to go through this one. If you find want it to happen again, or worse, then next time you will not get drunk.

[Asker]

my sister is sitting in the garden enjoying the sunny weather while i look out from my LOCKED bedroom window, my friends are bowling while i sit in PRISON i dont see why the punishment has to be so harsh, i dont like it?

[Hawner]

Good.

[Asker]

what sort of an answer is that? i am suffering i am locked up like a common criminal why no sympathy?

[Hawner]

You are not asking for opinions, just validation. You want purple to feel pity of you and how bored you are. You got drunk despite your parents' requests, despite it making you a danger to yourself and others, time after time. Well, you got to learn it the hard way, like it or not. Criminals go to jail. Getting drunk makes trouble for others, and you can get in a cell for it. Repeat it enough times and you will as well be forced to pay a fine and/or community service. Keep doing it and you will eventually go to jail. Is that what you want? You are going to be even more bored, miss on much more fun and have even less freedom than with this punishment. The fact that you still have your phone to whine here is evidence of it.
Yup through the punishment, suck it up, and behave next time.

[Asker]

i know you are right its just the punishment is making me misreable, i have NO tv NO phone i have my pc for 3 hours per day as a privealge which i will lose soon then 4 walls and boredom TOTAL boredom, can you believe my friends have just called to see if i can go bowling imagine how i feelt when my parents said i can't go as i am on punishment?

[Hawner]

I imagine you felt frustrated, as it happens with any kind of punishment.

[Asker]

not really I've been punished before and it didn't really bother me when grounded i just snuck out , but this punishment is different it hurts, and i can't sneak out its painful?

[Hawner]

If you snuck out, you weren't punished then, since you didn't go through with it. Now that you actually don't have a way out is when you are actually experiencing a punishment.
I am done with this conversation. I'm only repeating myself constantly and you are not listening, you only want people to feel pity for you.
Learn your lesson and behave next time.

[Asker]

ok i am sorry , thanks for your advice, i will lose my pc soon and will have to write my punishment essays any tips? one is on the dangers of underage drinking and one on unaceptable behavour and punishments, my parents expect me to take the essays seriously?

[Hawner]

Yes, and you should.

[Asker]

should i write in my essay how much i hate the punishment?

[Anonymous]

This is total bullshit and you’ve posted shit like this before. Just a variation on the same theme. We’re onto you, so stop it.

[Opinion Owner]

Here’s why you’re not getting any sympathy: because none of this happened and you’re a liar. Exact word choices as the claim you made about being punished for pulling the school fire alarm.
Just fucking stop this shit.

[Sabretooth]

girl... you could've been raped, beaten and, killed... or, left to die.

[Asker]

can you believe i have only just been let out of my room and thats for school, i was locked in my room for t deserve to be punished like this? why does my punishment have to hurt so much i don3 days no pc no tv etc i was bored out of my head

[Sabretooth]

try talking to em. tell them you understand the danger you put yourself in and you're sorry.

[Asker]

no , i am not in the mood at the moment to say sorry i really suffered last weekend i still have another 3 weekends to serve i HATE being locked up and i dont want to be punished anymore its HORRIBLE?

[Sabretooth]

again, this could've gone very wrong. i hope you understand the gravity of the situation and how lucky you were.

[Asker]

yes i know i done wrong, and i know i deserve to be punished, but i spent 3 days shut in my room , i still have another 3 weekend to serve i think i should now be let off the rest of my punishment because i am finding it hard?

[Sabretooth]

all i can suggest is talk to them.

[Asker]

I've tried they say my crime is so serious that it deserves a severe punishment, they say my punishment must be tough because they dont want me to get into anymore trouble with the police and end up in prison so thats why they are giving me a prison type punishment so i won't do it again?

[Sabretooth]

is this something you've done on occasion?

[Asker]

i kept sneaking out while grounded, so my parents warned me if i sneaked out again they would have no option but to lock me in my room , of course i took no notice and sneaked out, got drunk and brought home by the police, i thought my parents were bluffing but they kept their promise and locked me in my room, my older sister says i am getting my just desserts and my punishment is long overdue and its right i should be locked in and punished IS THIS RIGHT
i am off to school now will chat with you later?

[Sabretooth]

you brought this on yourself. you proved yourself to not be responsible, mature or, trustworthy alright.

[Sabretooth]

all girls need to hear this case: www.iheart.com/.../

[Asker]

today is my friends 16th birthday party and its being held at a top them park and me and my sister are invited as i write i can hear my sister getting ready to go , she is teasing me saying how much fun the rides are going to be , i have to listen to this from behind a LOCKED bedroom door, my parents won't let me go as i am being punished , dont you agree i dont deseve to suffer like this?

[Sabretooth]

i do. you put yourself in this position --knowing the consequences--but, your sister is... not being very nice. tempted to sat something else... but...

[Asker]

but i REALLY REALLY want to go if i could sneak out i would but my bedroom door is locked , i begged my parents to let me out just for today but they refuse saying i am being punished and the punishment is loss of freedom which means NO going out IS THIS RIGHT?

[Sabretooth]

how long has it been?

[Asker]

i was locked in my room last weekend and i have another 3 weekends to serve, i dont get locked in at week days because i have school i feel like i am in prison why is punishment so tough?

[Sabretooth]

like i said--you put yourself in a very poor situation.

[Asker]

oh i know i just want to be let out of my room so i can go to the party i dont like this form of punishment do you think i have suffered enough and should be let off?

[Sabretooth]

do you think you've actually grasp the situation you put yourself in? i think you should listen to that case.

[Asker]

i know i have done wrong but the punishment is too hard for me?

[Sabretooth]

It's good that you understand that you did wrong. Can you call your friend?

[Asker]

no i have no tv phone etc, i have a pc for homework but only for a couple of hours, my parents have already told my friends parents i can't go because i am being punished i regret now what i done, my parents say thats the whole point of punishment to make the wrongdoer regret their wrong is this right?

[Sabretooth]

Yes. At least ask them to let you call your friend and wish her a happy birthday.

[Asker]

i done that yesterday its sunny and warm outside i miss my freedom?

[Sabretooth]

email her.

[Asker]

too late now , everyone had fun at the party while i was CAGED in my room PUNISHMENT STINKS?

[Sabretooth]

wish her a late one.

[Asker]

any ideas on how i can get my punishment reduced, i can't stand being locked in my room anymore?

[Sabretooth]

no, i don't.

[Asker]

its not fair i have to spend every weekend in June LOCKED IN my room why no help or ideas?

[Sabretooth]

i've given you all the idea i have.

[Asker]

are you any good at writing essays? part of my punishment is to write 2 four page punishment essays per weekend, one on THE DANGERS OF UNDERAGE DRINKING and another essay on UNACEPTABLE BEHAVOUR AND PUNISHMENT any tips?

[Sabretooth]

no, may i may know someone who who might. i can give you the basics... but hardly enough to fill one page.

[Sabretooth]

still need the essay?

[Anonymous]

If ur not smart enough to handle ur drinking and sneak in u deserve the punishment

[Asker]

but the punishment hurts, i have to suffer this for a month, its warm and sunny out and i miss my freedom?

[Opinion Owner]

Well maybe you should have thought of that bfor u fkd up and got caught by the cops dummy

[Asker]

i didn't think we would be caught its only because we started throwing rubbish bins around, and someone called the police, i want my freedom back why not just warning why are my parents being so harsh with my punishment it STINKS?

[exitseven]

You are lucky that I am not your father.

[Asker]

you can't do much worse i have been locked in my room since yesterday lunchtime, and will not be freed until Tuesday so my punishment can't get any worse?

[exitseven]

You would be out in the yard pulling up dandelions.

[Asker]

at least i would be outside in the sunshine rather then being shut away in my tiny bedroom punishment STINKS?

[hellacray]

Your parents are right.

[Asker]

but the punishment hurts i miss my freedom why can't i just me let off with a warning?

[hellacray]

You were brought home drunk by the police.

[Asker]

but the punishment HURTS i am missing so much fun, warm sunny wheather, bowling with friends and a party tonight, not to mention a barbecue on Sunday, i just want to be let out of my room?

[hellacray]

Well yeah... Punishments are supposed to hurt. Should have thought of that before getting drunk.

Besides how are you even on GAG I thought you said your parents took away your internet and phone privileges.

[Asker]

they have taken my phone tv etc, i am allowed my pc for a time for homework and as a privilege, i have been locked in my room since yesterday lunchtime , the weather is warm and sunny and my sister is sitting in the garden and enjoying watching me suffer, i asked my parents if i can sit in the garden for a couple of hours but they refuse saying i can't be trusted and my punishment is loss of freedom, and my bedroom door MUST and WILL remain locked i DONT deserve that dont you agree?

[hellacray]

Lol nope I'm with your parents.

You better get off GAG before they extend your sentence.

[Asker]

OH no , even prisoners get excercise whats wrong with going out into the garden, i am fed up with being shut in?

[hellacray]

Blah blah blah.

[Asker]

can you believe i have only just been let out of my room and thats for school, i was locked in my room for t deserve to be punished like this? why does my punishment have to hurt so much i don3 days no pc no tv etc i was bored out of my head

[hellacray]

Do your hw

[Asker]

i have done my homework and my punishment essays, i am not locked in my room at the moment because i have school during the week but come Friday afternoon i will be LOCKED UP again for the weekend i think my parents should let me off dont you?

[hellacray]

No they should keep you locked up until you turn 21.

[gangs_and_guns]

U can lose control and do something u will regret

[Asker]

i know its being done for my own good as well as to punish, but it hurts being locked up its dull boring and misreable, i dont like it?

[gangs_and_guns]

Maybe u will not be drunk again. Drunk girls get horny and do mistakes

[Asker]

i dont want to be punished again , the trouble is i still have 4 weekends of lockdown to serve I can't DO THE TIME?

[gangs_and_guns]

Whats your age?