Whats up with my mom and lack of boundaries?

[Anonymous]

she knows I don't care about these so called "male friends" she has. 9x out if 10 they are married men she slept with who treated her like crap and came crying to me about it. I told her the only dude I care about is the dude who marries her or hell commits to her. Otherwise like leave me alone about these men.

Well I just moved. Into a nice new place. And she thought it was a good idea to video call one of them, give him a tour of my home, and I asked her nicely 3x dont show him my bedroom thats my private room

She ignored me and did it anyway.
Then she decides to laugh and giggle with this dude and keeps showing me on camera thinking its funny. Then she says " my daughter is mad at me because I showed her bedroom when she asked me not to"

At this point I'm mad and went to walk away. She ask me to say hi to this dude. And I snapped and said " I dont care about that dude!"

Now she's sooooo shocked "omg did u hear her? I am so sorry"

Now she's walking around mad and I dont care its like the lack of respect and boundaries disrespecting my privacy like if u fuck these dudes idc but how dare you invade my privacy and antagonizing me in front of him you think it's so cute!

I'm just getting angry all over again. This isn't the first time she always does this. She is so disrespectful but wants me to speak like a 5 yr old so she doesn't feel disrespected.

Everytime I say something is not okay she does it anyway and finds it hilarious. Then when I make it a problem and address it now she's a victim

I'm just tired of it

[ChrisMaster69]

It sounds like she has issues, read through these and see how close they match your experiences.

https://medium.com/family-kids/10-signs-your-mother-is-a-narcissist-71b1d9c6cf1f

https://daughtersrising.info/2021/03/08/why-most-strategies-for-dealing-with-a-narcissistic-mother-dont-work-and-what-will/

https://www.choosingtherapy.com/narcissistic-parent/

[Finchie40]

Your Mom seems like she has issues , especially if she is easily accepting these men into her life and sleeping with them without finding out if they are married or not , it sounds like she is seeking someone to take care of her and she is afraid to be alone , What she is doing is only digging her grave further allowing these men to pretty much use her , You have every right to be upset with your Mom for not respecting your boundaries and your privacy , Your best bet is to sit down with her and tell her your true feelings and that you need space from her , tell her you love her but you don’t agree on her choices she is making on life and to please stop trying to drag you into it. I know it’s easier said then done but sometimes people need to hear the truth before they can work on themselves , so just be honest with her and tell her to respect your privacy

[Jlegacy]

No parent is perfect. Adapt. Adapt to her inadequacies.