I’m with this girl. She doesn’t have a job and that doesn’t bug me. I pay for everything she wants an needs. But if I want to do something or get something I get asked 1000 questions. And it drives me fucking nuts. But if she wants something it is in the cart. I get so fucking pissed.
Try to understand what is making them feel that way and to see things from their point of view to get a better idea of what's going on. From there try to discuss the issue and find a solution/compromise.
I've only dated very supportive people so if they aren't supporting me on something I take the time to think if maybe I'm wrong to think/pursue that thing.
I am so sorry.. I keep going over your question in my head, and the only rational thing i can think of is it might cause divorce.. I would have a powerful need to know why she chose to not support me. if it were rational, if she had a good reason i think i could accept it..
Really depends in what situation. She doesn't support my decision to get vanilla icecream instead of chocolate? Lol, forgot about it a minute after Doesn't support me changing my career, that bothers me. So yeah, in what.
That type of little, stacking, lack-of-support is undermining your very marriage. I don’t know if I could get through that myself. I hope you both decide to talk to someone.
A spouse means the other half of apple for you, and you are the other half of apple, u become one :) I mean of course he always should support you Especially such a great woman like you
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I’m with this girl. She doesn’t have a job and that doesn’t bug me. I pay for everything she wants an needs. But if I want to do something or get something I get asked 1000 questions. And it drives me fucking nuts. But if she wants something it is in the cart. I get so fucking pissed.
why would you date a woman who can't support herself? thats not a woman you can rely on to help raise kids with. thats just another liability.
So here you say you’re with someone. I’d be surprised if you’re over in 20 days. So i should pm you why?
Not with any one now
Being the naive idiot that i was, i thought it was my fault and i kept telling myself that i should try harder to get her support.
Turned out she didn't care at all
Relatable. Unfortunately.
Try to understand what is making them feel that way and to see things from their point of view to get a better idea of what's going on. From there try to discuss the issue and find a solution/compromise.
I don't have to deal with this. My wife supports me in everything I do because she knows I do it for the family
That is beautiful
Thanks. I got a good woman
Strange this question coming from you since you post always about being in a good relationship and all
Not always. I post about the dark times too. More so in comments and opinions.
I've only dated very supportive people so if they aren't supporting me on something I take the time to think if maybe I'm wrong to think/pursue that thing.
I pray i never have to experience that. Im not sure i could recover..
I’m not OK 😭
I am so sorry.. I keep going over your question in my head, and the only rational thing i can think of is it might cause divorce.. I would have a powerful need to know why she chose to not support me. if it were rational, if she had a good reason i think i could accept it..
Divorce baby, divorce. If he can’t support me then I simply cannot support him. No support = unhealthy and unbalanced relationship.
Really depends in what situation.
She doesn't support my decision to get vanilla icecream instead of chocolate? Lol, forgot about it a minute after
Doesn't support me changing my career, that bothers me.
So yeah, in what.
I'm not needy by nature so I don't care about anyone supporting me unless its sexual. 😅
He sides with his mom, sides with my boss, sides with the fucking troll on the internet
Remind me why I am even with him the last 21 fucking years of my life?
Oh, you mean like that? That's more of a enemy. I thought you meant something different.
That type of little, stacking, lack-of-support is undermining your very marriage. I don’t know if I could get through that myself. I hope you both decide to talk to someone.
I would leave him if he doesn't support me. I think it's important that a couple challenge and get over it.
Would you leave him after 20 years when you have 2 small children together?
yes I would leave him. if he doesn't support you, then it's time to move on
Same here. I wish we can leave them. They should be able to listen and empathize at least.
Exactly. All we need is them to listen and empathize. Not side with the other side.
@loves2learn thanks for like!
A spouse means the other half of apple for you, and you are the other half of apple, u become one :)
I mean of course he always should support you
Especially such a great woman like you
Why doesn't he support you? Have you ever talked about it together
from my 2 divorces this was a BIG indicator.
huge red flag
never gotten married but that would make me feel sad :(
I think it's vital to know your spouse will always be there for you. I wouldn't deal well with a lack of support.
My ex is a narcissist and negative. All the fault was mine. I am not perfect but it was not 100% me. Divorced and happy.
I'm usually one who is used to solving my own problems so I don't really expect anything from my future wife but it would definitely be appreciated.
I don't support them back in hope they notice that there is something wrong and we talk about it.
Oh that's bad... One of the few people you expect to get support is your spouse and when you don't have it it's like.. why I'm with that person?