Is it weird that what I want the most is to get pregnant although I'm 16?

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Do you think it's weird that I'm 16, single and still want to have a child? And actually go through the process of pregnancy, with all its good and bad sides?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Not at all. It is perfectly natural - evolutionary instincts at work.

Grant that you are a bit young, but human maturation rates - both physical and psychological - vary. It just so happens that you are a bit ahead of the curve.

As I say, evolution. Why do guys start wanting sex in their early teens?

Because the human male is programmed by evolution to spread his sperm to as many females as he can. His mind translates it as sexual desire, but in fact it his his instinct to impregnate as many females as possible. Thus perpetuating both the species and his DNA in competition with other males.

For women, it is a bit different. The human female can only - normally - bear one child at a time. Evolution has programmed you to give birth and raise your child, but that requires huge amounts of time energy. So you seek out the most fertile and dominant males - the ones most capable of finding food and protecting you from predators and rival males.

In your mind, this translates into getting pregnant. It is what evolution made you to do.

In fact, evolution plays something of a trick on the human male. Once he impregnates the female, changes in her body chemistry are picked up in his brain, It mellows him. It makes him want to stay around you and to protect you and his baby. Indeed, were it not for this biochemical/psychological process, your mate would just wander off to impregnate more females.

Of course, all of this is tendencies. Evolution influences us, but it does not - unlike with any other species - control us. You want to get pregnant - but that does not mean that you will find a man and get pregnant.

Of course, it can happen and your instincts can be powerful.

(For the record, I have gotten four women pregnant. My first had a miscarriage. One girl had an abortion without telling me - by far the saddest, most painful experience in my life. My live in girlfriend and I have three children and about two years ago I found out that I had a son with a woman I had once had a one night stand with. Suffice to say, I am the voice of experience in all this and all I can add is that I love and would give my life to protect my children and my girlfriend.)

That all noted, as I say, this is simply your instincts at work - and it so happens that your instincts are quite strong as the intensity of such instincts varies across the population. However, there is absolutely nothing abnormal about what you are feeling. You are just a normal human female experiencing the desires and drives of any human female.

The only thing I can add is that most of the time you will master your instincts and biological needs. However, as happened with me a few times, those instincts and needs can master you. When that happens, be grateful for the little miracle that will be given you and be responsible.

We all sometimes slip. The real trick is to handle such moments wisely and well.

ohshee · Accepted Answer

You know what's really cool about the internet if anything it's that when you meet people you can start chatting about anything everything I know a lot of girls like you a lot are a lot older but it's like something is calling them

I have always said in life for me anyway I need to experience it to understand it so I come onto the internet to meet people to chat about anything everything and maybe they want to experience the same thing that I did so would you start chatting role-playing it out just so if you haven't thought of everything there's an opportunity to do it

And I hear you loud and clear I mean I would usually try to talk you out of this and I still might but I understand your point of view because here we are with covid-19 you can't really go out and function and have a life at least like I was able to so you're bored you want to stay home and have a child and I think that's a beautiful thing but there are the good in there are the bad that come with it and you need to be prepared for I can tell you all the pluses and all the minuses

JC1981 · Accepted Answer

Is there a reason behind this urge to have a baby? This wouldn't be a wise idea. No teen wants to hear this, but your just a kid yourself and have plenty of time to have a baby. You need to think about what having a baby would mean, what it will hinder you from doing and experiencing in your young years. Being a mother is the hardest job, more so single , especially a young single mother. I doubt your going to find a guy at your age that's going to jump at the chance to take in being a baby daddy. Remember once you have a child, there is no such thing as Me, and I want, I need are not longer a priority. Wait until your older.

anon171999 · Accepted Answer

My sister wanted to get pregnant since about that age too. She wanted to be a mother since she was like 5 years. I convinced her to wait before having kids when she was 16. She's still with the same man. They got married and moved in together just last year. She's 19. She is now going to therapy and working on herself. She's glad she didn't have kids right then and is waiting. Because now she's working on herself and her relationship and can be a better mother when she's ready to provide emotionally and financially to her children.

So no it's not weird. Just wait though. NOBODY is ready at 16 to have a child.

laurieluvsit · Answer

No, that is not weird at all, a lot of young girls want that experience.

There can be some complications with it though.

1) It is statistically devastating for a child not to have a father and contributes a high percentage to our prison population, even with a good mother in place.

2) Without a moral and legal commitment of some kind from the father, he could leave you high and dry without financial means to properly care for the child

3) More than not, although the mother unconditionally loves the child forever, their is a feeling in the future of the loss of some of the teenage years that could, and should, have been spend developing and maturing to a higher level prior to child rearing.

Best wishes!

Is it weird that what I want the most is to get pregnant although I'm 16?

Cherry234 · Answer

It's not weird but you're very young. There are probably a lot of teen girls and women who feel like you. I'd wait until you're at least in your late 20's or early 30's to have a child. You should be financially stable to have a child because you don't want your child to live in poverty. I'm assuming you're in high school or if you're not in school then you're homeschooled. Do you even know what you want to do for a living? There are a lot of expenses that come with raising a child (like child support) that you should prepare yourself for. Raising children is a big responsibility.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Babies having babies.
You are way to young for that.
Grow up, experience life for a while, finished your education.
You have plenty of time to have kids.
You have no idea how much your life will change.
You are not ready emotionally or financially to have a child.
Where will you live, how will you afford it, what about a car, food utilities, doctor and hospital costs.
There are just so many things that are hard raising kids, that even those that are ready and can afford it have trouble.
What will you do when you baby keeps you up all night either sick or teaching, you won't get any sleep, how will you function the next day.
Stuff like that is only the tip of the iceberg.

JCrockett · Answer

No. You should get married and have kids sooner rather than later. (Marriage IS a prerequisite, however. Single parenthood means the end of civilization).

Society is fucking upside down right now, and that's why they're telling you that it's weird to have kids so young. But your impulse is the most pure, natural, and righteous feeling a woman can have. That's why you feel the way you do.

Whatever you do, don't fall into the trap of hedonism and casual sex just because other people tell you that that's what everyone should do before they "find themselves" and become "ready to settle down." Hedonism is a pointless enough sin on its own, but pursuing someone else's idea of pleasure that you're not even inclined to is so much worse.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

It’s scarily a common thought that girls, women have.

I would hazard a guess in your case it’s your bodies hormones over coming your brains judgement making side of things.

when I was at school girls started getting pregnant from 14 and by 16 quite a few were pregnant.

it’s definitely something you need to have your brain take control off and make sure you don’t think with your hormones.

your hormones and body do not really care if you are dating, single, married etc, which is why it’s important to keep a firm grip on your hormones.

TonyV · Answer

Not weird, I'd call it stupid, you don't know what you are talking about cause you are still just a kid. You won't be able to go anywhere, long out with people, gonna loose sleep, either miss work or have to pay for daycare, mess up your ability to get a good paying job cause you probably skip college and it will be hard to join a trade.
Being a mom is a full time job, no one is required to help you, you can't just dump the kid at your parents all the time, ypu have to watch and raise it.

Don't get pregnant at 16, wait till you have your live more sorted out.

loveslongnails · Answer

It's not weird that you have the cravings. It WOULD be weird if at 16, if you totally grasped what you'd be in for once you have the kid.

You'd be giving up possibly the greatest years of your life to be a teen mommy. You don't realize it now, but your HS and college days will change your life in so many ways. I look back and miss them like crazy. But so too will a baby change your life and fill it with responsibilities and hardships. Yes, they will love you, but that comes later.

My advice is to think long and hard about letting your desire become a reality at your age.

Adam1978 · Answer

No not really but you should still hold that thought until your through school. And have something to build a life on. You need to think what best for your future child, not just the urge to have one. If a woman wants kids she can always get them, if she acts when her body remains fertile. So don't rush it. Don't expect any guys your age to be ready for commitment or parenthood. So whoever you pick will be suboptimal choice. You need to wait 2-4 years to get your life together. Picking the father of your children is the most important choice of your life. I don't think your ready to make that choice yet and not live to regret your choice.

TheorionMage · Answer

Your desire to reproduce is innate and honorable PROVIDING you machinate all the necessary supporting structure. DO NOT WAIL: "Poor ME, I AM with child... feed me, ... support me, ... fund my reproduction." This child's 'Sire' who has selfishly 'boned' me then ran away, abandoning HIS obligation, thinking only with HIS libido is irresponsible and owns no contributing resources beyond his hard-on.

I want to own a living child doll. I DID NOT consider this EIGHTEEN YEAR intimate commitment to a life MORE IMORTANT THAN MY OWN... to the personal sacrifices THIS career choice would cost.
I envision this child, ... MY child... as a 'meal ticket' ... MY 'cash cow' and my community's unbidden burden. To feed, to educate and clothe and, to 'parent' by proxy.~ I would choose to deem myself as but a 'brood mare'.~

Apple1996 · Answer

Not weird your just having baby fever. I've never had baby fever but I did get pregnant at 17 and I'm very happy that I made that stupid choice to do so and have my son. It's a lot of responsibility but is manageable if you truly want that. People that haven't experienced it will not understand that teen pregnancy isn't such a bad thing. Not that I'm saying for you to go get pregnant since it can be difficult. Just saying that it isn't such a bad thing if that's what you really want out of your life.

t-8900 · Answer

Why dont you learn about what men want? see how they view singlw mothers, consider where you will be in 10, 20, 30 years. Trust me you will not be young forever and you won't be stay at home forever. You'll be working a shitty job in fast food or something to pay bills you'll never catch up to. You'll work double shifts to keep a roof over your head and barely have time for your kid. Or you'll be a welfare leech or leech off your parents aka a perpetual child and burden to everyone around you. Your kid will end up with no dad, weaker for it. He is also statistically much more likely to become a criminal, do drugs, and even become a victim of rape and/or ravaged by mental illness and emotional trauma. Stop thinking about yourself and think about what you're doing to others.

TrueCaliGirl07 · Answer

Please wait the best time of your life hasn't even came yet. Babies need both parents together living a stable life and financially secure.
Your 20's will be some of the best memories you will always remember. Your only 16 your not even an adult yet.
You need to think about everyone that will be impacted by a baby, your parents will Play a huge part in your baby life and they probably aren't ready for that. Also the babies Daddy his family will be impacted as well.
It could cause issues between your family and his family and that's not a good environment for anyone to be in with a new baby.
You need to finish school and focus on yourself there is plenty of time to have a baby when the time is right.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Of you talk in general sense people earlier used to have kids by 16 i am not saying it as a good or bad thing but it was once very common.

Women girls are capable of it and produced healthy off springs physically.

But when it becomes the norm it be omes and expectation and society makes it in such a way that it becomes a rule it's all fucked up.

So it's better to have a baby like 4 years from now or best at 22.

BC you would have the wisdom and maturity to handle things.

You are a kid enjoy while it lasts.

ItsMeElliana · Answer

tbh, i kinda think that way too, because i love my S. O and i want to have kids with him and I just keep fantasising and wanting that to happen someday, if not then ig in heaven
but i do understand I'm not strong enough rn to have a child, also have school and college and studies so its just gonna be hard to maintain

hahahmm · Answer

It's better for you to use your brain instead of your feelings & hormones. Of course it's easy to get pregnant... it's a lot harder to do well in school, learn a trade or have self-control.

Also studies have found that if your mom or sister had a baby young then you're 5 times more likely to also.

taylorallen · Answer

No, people around our age like to nurture and think they can do things themselves because they think they're "grown". However, it's not the best decision considering you really can't decide to get rid of a child if you get tired of it. Just live your younger years without a child. There's plenty of time later to get one.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

I understand the desire, as your body changes you want that. Especially if you have always wanted to be a mother. The best thing you can do though is be prepared, not just physically, but emotionally and most importantly, financially.

Otherwise that child will not have the best life.

So it is not weird that you want it, but it would be terrible if you went and did that before being fully prepared.

Daniela1982 · Answer

You are possibly mentally unhinged to want to get pregnant at 16 so you can ruin your life. What can your reasons possibly be? To be a single mother, have no job as it will cost you more for child care than you will make, have no boyfriend, to not graduate, be on welfare and live in a dingy rat hole apartment? I've definitely want to hear your take on this weird obsession you have.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

It's not weird, you have a baby fever which means, you will make a good mommy
just watch the guy, these guys nowadays don't want to stick with the girl, I knew
some guy got a girl pregnant, he was age 29 and she was age 15, he knew
what the birds and bees were about.

Nonameee9 · Answer

Don’t do it, focus on school. Trust me. Having a baby isn’t a walk in the park, your life goes on hold, take it as a faze and don’t act on it, unless your ready for all of your money to go, all your time to go, you have a whole life to have a child. Wait, get your education & you’ll be better off, TRUST me!

lightbulb27 · Answer

not weird, but emotional, and not rational. times past, people start having families around your age. not a good idea til you are established financially.

I'd examine the motive... like is it because you want to be loved? If so, that's not the solution.

WhackyPurple · Answer

I think every woman that carries maternal instincts and love wants a child. This is a normal thing. However you should make sure the timing is right for you and your future, especially one with a baby in it. I'm almost 32 and never married with no children. Yes I do want a child that won't change, for me specifically I want to have it with the right person. I'm not religious but I do believe in forces that can shape a destiny and I believe that it will happen when the universe says it's time. Don't be in a rush relish in the time you have... Trust me you'll really miss those holiday/seasonal breaks and summer vacations. In a couple years you won't have them anymore. That's my thoughts on it but it is a decision only you can solely make.

Madhatter920 · Answer

No, that's not weird at all. You're at the age where you're being bombarded with hormones and instincts demanding that you breed. That's completely normal and all living creatures experience it. Though I'd advise not to act on that instinct. Our current system would punish that rather severely. Wait until you're older, independent, and financially stable.

mark000h · Answer

It's not weird. It's just that at your age, it would be near impossible and incredibly irresponsible to do so. You have no way to take care of a child nor any of the life skills needed to be a parent. Your body wants it, your heart may want it, but you must use your brain and realize that until you're old enough and capable of raising a child and having that enormous responsibility, you must hold off. Birth control is a must until you're physically and resourcefully prepared to take that on.

Slartybartfast · Answer

Nah, baby fever is common. Just don't entrap some poor guy. If you want a baby YOU, need to be able to support and care for it, don't expect it to be your personal meal ticket (my sister is like that) If you expect to just have a baby and live rent free and collect, you're not mature enough to be a mother.

Raphaëlle · Answer

Nothing wrong with wanting to have a child and be a mum. In my opinion 16 is a bit young to become one but there are many many young parents out there. Just try to think about how you're going to take care of a baby: do you have any support like family and do you've money? That's the biggest hurdle for young parents.

Browneye57 · Answer

Beyond. Give yourself time to actually fully grow and mature into adulthood. You're just not ready.
And consider giving your future child an actual family, instead of trying to be a mom AND a dad. They just do a LOT better having both.
This means you have to actually DATE and find a quality man.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

The nausea, fatigue, joint pains, constipation, insomnia among other side effects.
Being physically, emotionally and financially responsible for another life 24/7, and if doing it as a single mum you'll have no respite. Constant nappies, feeding, winding, cleaning, washing, tidying.
Buy a puppy, see how you get on with that responsibility

cookiecrusher · Answer

No, biologically it would be the right time.

Doesn't sound like a good idea though.
Most likely would become a single mother too, as guys aren't very reliable at that age, especially the ones willing to make a child at that age.

Have you talked to your parents or some other 35 plus person about this? Please do if you can, nothing to be ashamed of, getting some guidance.

lucas262 · Answer

I hear women have a chemical/hormone that makes them want babies. Being a man I can't imagine anyone wanting to have one knowing what comes with it but I guess you may have a higher than average dose of it if your this young and the notion is this strong in you.

Surely · Answer

Having a child comes with mega responsibilities. Which you probably can’t provide without your parents help.
Wait till you can provide a stable environment. Roof over your heads. Food on the table. Insurance for you and the child.
Finally, not have to live on assistance from the taxpayers!

bamesjond0069 · Answer

This is totally normal. Whats not normal is our sick society where everyones going to judge you and call you a loser and look down on you if you dont get a career or education. If you really want to do it, find a man at least a bit older who works and is responsible and go do it.

LivingExample · Answer

“Weird” is Not the word I would use, but you need to rethink getting pregnant at 16. You are a Baby yourself and do Not need to be raising another baby. If you want a baby to have someone to love you, start with Loving Yourself and Enjoying this time in your Life!

annabananna · Answer

It’s normal to have baby fever but it would be unwise to actually go through with it at 16. Your child that you have one day deserves to have you as a mother when you are ready.

wankiam · Answer

it will be hormonal but just because your body is telling you it can now have kids it doesn't mean it would be a wise move at your age

TruthBringer · Answer

Those are just your raging hormones at that age. Nothing weird about it. What matters is that you're not going to ruin your life by actually getting married. You're far from ready.

dustybiker · Answer

It’s less what you want and more a baby having a stable parent who is mature and capable (mentally and financially) of caring for it. At sixteen nobody has their own life together yet.

RealMarek · Answer

It is not weird to have the desire to bear children. That is very normal. However, it is in your interest to wait until you are a bit older and can start a family with a man who is committed to you.

Blackcupcake · Answer

if you want to have a child then make it a goal for the future and work hard towards it. that means, taking your education seriously and working on your career so you can provide for your kid

wingattebaby16 · Answer

no. being pregnant is awesome. it the taking care of a baby for the next 26 years (used to be 18 years) is the hard part, especially as a single mom.

AncientWisdom · Answer

No it’s not weird but it’s not a good idea at your age. Live your life enjoy it for a bit first. The term for that is baby fever and most females get it.

Abinav08 · Answer

I still remember when I was 12 .. used to tell my school bestie to have a baby with her with a condition of only when I grow big enough like my dad.
It wasn't until I was 15 I first knowing something called sex exist in reality

I think she may have a baby now.
Whatever, *me here spending my time on answering random questions @GirlsAskGuys

Seangreen · Answer

It's called that you instinctively want to reproduce that doesn't mean you should do it at your age in the way that Society is running now so why don't you just get a vibrator and chill the fuck out

ElizaPam · Answer

I was the exact same way. I figured it was because I knew could never have a baby so I was longing for something I couldn't have. But it might just be a normal girl thing.

IAmMichael · Answer

That's hormones for you. It will get better, just hang in there and make wise decisions in the meantime.

AviatorTom · Answer

It's natural for a woman to want to be pregnant. But wait a while, until your life is more stable, to have children. Enjoy being young now, there will be plenty of time in the future to have kids.

LZPanzer · Answer

Weird not really. Impatient definitely. Come up with a plan first. Pleas don't act on this without a solid plan.

OddBeMe · Answer

yeah you're brainwashed. Probably by religion which indoctrinates girls into creating new believers.

Dont rush into a life changing act, please. single mothers dont fare well, and divorce is 50% chance.

Jintendo18 · Answer

From a purely biological standpoint, I suppose it might be normal to feel this way as you’re at an age where you’re physically able to bear a child, but socially it would be disastrous for both you and the baby daddy.

andy530 · Answer

No it’s not weird. You have a lot of hormones that are active at this time in your life so it makes sense you might feel this way

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

I wouldn't say weird, but it would be irresponsible to act on it.

Brittanyroseee · Answer

Ur gonna ruin ur life. Graduate highschool, get a job, go to college. Get a career, find the right one then get married and have a kid

BazookaTrouper · Answer

The number of idiots in the comment section advocating breeding like rabbits made me lose my faith in democracy. The got me to take the 1984 pill.

Eeyore18 · Answer

That's just baby fever. Wanting a child but not being able to have one yet. Or not being able to have a guy put one inside you yet...

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

There are actually tons of women and men who figured out they are interested in parenthood at either your age or much younger, trust me it not weird that you want to become a mother.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Wait until you are 30 or after live your life go travel get good education meet nice guy

Ryfyle · Answer

Graduate High school early and hookup with a Biological male you have a nigh psychic connection with. Kids are your genetic legacy, so really consider what could happen in the next 18 years. Could be worse things you could be doing, like meth.

Guido · Answer

You may have those feelings but you are not financially I a position to raise a child and you won't be at your age. It's not fair to the child you would bring into the world.

Simply put, don't do it now. Your young and there is plenty of time.

cryscrys1 · Answer

It’s not weird ! Have it when you are ready. It can be any time after 18+ or 30+

jasco · Answer

Well a friend is 18 and she is pregnant and that's fine. A lot of women hav pregnant fever at some age in their life. some is earlier and others are later

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