Do you consider it to be racist to not have any black person in friend circle?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

1. If you are... doing it on purpose EXPLICITLY... then yes it is
2. If you are... doing it implicitly... then not entirely no
3. But if you really want to make a change in this world around race relations and be an example... Then you should seek colored friends, especially Black friends.
And trust me there are some Black girls who feel like they don't fit in anywhere.
I think one of the biggest problems is implicit racism or bias. We say we all want change but we don't pay the price for that change too manifest in our world. You may be in a white environment but you can go make black friends. If you don't that is because you don't care enough to go out of your way to do it. Nothing is wrong with that but don't talk about change if you aren't gonna pay the price.

So many people think they aren't racist... It is impossible to not be racist, implicitly, in the world we live in currently. Until race is denounced for being the unscientific lie that it is... This will carry on from generation to generation slowly being fixed. Since nobody wants to listen to science, it will take skin color dropping in significance to the degree of hair color, then the world will be a better place.

But I can tell you 100% there are black girls who have no friends because they aren't white but also don't fit in with Black culture. The older you get the harder it is for people to let you into their group.

SweetFyter · Accepted Answer

No, I don't because if you're making a friend a friend JUST because of their color - that is racist!

Also, it depends on where you live. I like in the middle of nowhere and there are very few people nearby who are NOT the same race as me. For example, we have one (1) black family that comes to our church. And they only have boys and they're very young so what would I have in common with a six-year-old boy?

No, make friends with everyone you can but never MAKE a friend or REFUSE a friend because of their race. That's just stupid.

Datboi65 · Answer

Man this question is dumb asf. As a Black person, I believe I speak for most people when I say that friendships SHOULDN'T BE FORCED. If I met someone I think is cool, then dope. If not, then I don't have to be their friend. Simple as that. I have a diverse group of friends, and I didn't befriend them because "I wanted non-black friends", that's just stupid asf. I also have a plenty of Black friends. It depends on your proximity to them as well. Do you live in an all-white area? If yes, then wtf are you asking to get Black friends for, if they aren't even living in your place? So would you say that Black people that have only Black friends are racist? Or that Asians are racist for being reserved and only socializing among themselves? The answer is no. Once again, depends on commonalities. If you have nothing in common with said Black person, you guys aren't friends. If you do, then you should become friends. Simple.

ohshee · Answer

Are you serious I don't know how many different ways I can say this this is the most stupidest question I've ever heard what happens if their black friend had to work that day but happens if they don't have any black friends are Asian friends where's the males at is it racist because there's no guys there come on the greatest evil in this world is ignorance can I ask you what made you even asked this question I'm sorry if you think that I'm giving you shit I don't mean to it's just a stupid question I'm sorry it's not a good question about that because it makes no sense I apologize for being a dick or sounding like a dick but I'm not sorry for it it's just a weird question

DJB72 · Answer

It depends on the demographic where you live and the reasons you have.

If the only reason you don't have black friends is the colour of their skin, yes - it's racist. If you don't live near people if colour then it's not unusual. I was about 13 before I met anyone with a different skin colour. A school of almost 900 students and we had one black boy. I couldn't stand him - not because of his colour, but because he was a thoroughly unpleasant human being.

Now I live in South Africa and I only have one white friend here. Purely because in this area my work and personal life doesn't exactly move in a white demographic

Seinna · Answer

I'm not inherently against black people as friends but it's unlikely I'd have one because our cultures are just so different. I had one in college but anytime she could, she'd ditch us for those muslim girls who didn't give a crap about her and were using her so we just laughed it off and excluded her alltogether. We never rejected her when she wanted to spend time with us but we couldn't trust her so we didn't tell her anything. It's not racist because it's almost never to do with skin colour - it's largely the cultural differences. At times I found that girl a bit aggressive which put me and my friends off and she was actually a calm one... the black girls I see in city centre are so aggressive that I don't even want to look at them because they might beat me up. I don't like feeling that way among girls, it's just weird.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

My own ''racism'' is a strong dislike for specific ''cultures''; this is generated by frequent and kind of 'typical' own bad personal experiences.
Skin colour has nothing to do with it.
There also must be an 'allowance' for non-typical members of ''groups'';
as for myself, I have not too much in common with 'my own people' (as in: nationality); so it would be silly to not expect the same for some others (as individuals).
Further, I believe that ''racism'' only becomes an issue when violence, injustice and such -towards individuals- gets involved.

On a side note: ''Racism'' is more and more becoming an 'American' topic - the rest of the world (mostly) has matured already.
If I'd be 'American' (which luckily I'm not) I'd feel thoroughly embarrassed of what 'my' culture looks like.

So: IF all my friends were of only one kind of ethnic appearance, it's not necessarily an indicator for ''racism''.

Mynameisbobby · Answer

No that's ridiculous! If you're not friends with a black person doesn't make you a racist. So do you think that you should just become friends with a black person just because they are black? If I was a black person I would resent that knowing we aren't really friends but you're my friend because I'm black? That would make me feel like a victim. I certainly wouldn't go looking for a black person to be friends with just because they are black. If it's a genuine friendship fine. I wouldn't want to play any person that way.

Rambling010 · Answer

Actually I think it's more racist to have the token black person. People who are really concerned with that usually have racism problems that they're dealing with. In fact everybody is racist to some degree and everyone of you know it. Some more than others. It's similar to how people are about people from other towns or countries.

They may be the same color as you. But you dont know them or their ways so you are suspicous. It's human nature. The trick is growing out of it and growing up. The goal is to not think that way. Not to begin that way. No one is accepting of the unknown.

That's where the left gets it all wrong!

crimsonandclover2 · Answer

I don't.
They might be living in an area, where there aren't any people of color around. Plus, you become friends with someone for their personality, not ethnicity.
On a side note, what does this picture of underage girls in bikinis have to do with the question? It's creepy

aarnasen · Answer

I think judging people based on what they DON'T HAVE in a friend group can be misleading. Maybe the person doesn't know any Black person, or maybe is an introvert with few friends? Maybe there is a language barrier? There certainly are racists who don't have any Black friends, but not having Black friends doesn't necessarily make you a racist.

EnglishArtsteacher · Answer

No, because it very well may be coincidental your friend circle just happens to have no black people in it. This is actually very likely to be the case in areas of the world that have a small percentage of black people living in it.

Now, if you purposely exclude black people from your friends circle, that's absolutely the textbook definition of racism.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

First off I don’t do friends based on ethnicity, religion, sexuality or gender or age, I have friends because we get on together have a laugh and trust each other.

on the question side of things, where I live now I would have to drive a fair distance to find someone of a different skin colour who could be within our social group.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Racist? No. Questionable? At times. Having one friend of color means nothing. Just makes that person look like the token to give the person an excuse to say they have at least one friend of color. If im gonna hang around people, they need a lot of diverse friends or no friends at all

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

Only if one were explicitly excluded for that specific purpose. If the black gal got kicked out for being a toxic bitch? Then all's fair. If they live in a district that black families haven't settled to yet? Then you take from what's around. If you move to a planet that only has orange flowers, you don't accuse the locals of hating purple flowers when they've never seen a purple flower before. Same principle here.

HighValue · Answer

Nope. And friend groups that have no White friends think that is fine, but are often the ones calling White people racist for not having a Black friend.
I have White, Hispanic, and Asian friends, but no Black friends on purpose due to repeated bad experiences with them throughout my life. They always end up being racist against White people and end up being bad friends in my experience.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Why do people keep coming up with these "is this racist?" questions when 90% of the time it is not? I'm surprised you didn't use hotter girls in your pic.

Medicalbug · Answer

No. As long as you don't discriminate against having black friends, you're fine. You might just not be exposed to anyone is black (like in Europe where I lived). It is also creepy if you go out of your way to have a black friend.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

Not all. Friends should be chosen because of their qualities, not because of their race. Even so, you don't have to have black friends if you don't want to. It doesn't mean you hate them, it just means you can't relate to them.
In my high school, everyone basically hung out with their own racial group. I didn't think any of them were racist. It's human nature to feel more comfortable around people who are the same as you. No one wants to be the odd one in the group.

SmokyOne · Answer

I think it'd be racist to seek out a friend based on their race to fill a quota. Friendships are organic, if you want friends of another race and you don't live near anyone other than white people go where they go and interact, participate in community events. Put yourself out there.

Anonymous · Answer

what in the world no lol im black and have all black best friends and 2 white friends that they’ve met but aren’t really close with & i love them but no it doesn’t make you racist your actions will. I say make some friends that match your humor and vibe from any race but yours. i’ve learned a bit from others and they learn things from me.

Cherry234 · Answer

No. People choose their friends because of their common interests and how well they get along. Anyone who chooses friends based on race is racist.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

That's a tough one. I don't necessarily think so. You can't manufacture friendships. Your friends are who they are. I will say, however, that you shouldn't exclude someone because of their race. (Because a lot of people do that. But it isn't very loving, and it isn't kind.). If you meet someone of another race that you get along with really well, don't be afraid to invite them to hang out sometime. You never know; you could have just met your best friend.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Nothing wrong with it but what's wrong is these girls appearing like this on the net "mostly naked"!
Swimsuits are for beaches and pools and not for the net or other public places, also some of these bikinis aren't modest at all and are very revealing 😒

crmoore · Answer

No, not necessarily. A vast majority of America is white, so it's not unlikely for you to randomly pick a random people and them all being white. Not to mention, in certain regions its nearly all white people. And there are a number of other aspects that can affect something like this.

manfromsomewhere2 · Answer

no.
if you ont have black friend coz lets say all the poeple who are around where you live are while for example, or coz lets say the few black people where you live and are in your age aren't your type of friends its not racist.
it would be racist if you would have a black friend only coz he is black and you dont want to be considered 'racist', that would be racism.
its like identity politics.
friends are people you enjoy with. weather they are black\white\whatever

Mango-man · Answer

I find people who ask this kind of question to be the most racist ones. Friends are about having shared part of life, and not about how the person looks.

Sasha_Gee · Answer

No, it's not because you don't have one in your circle, that you won't befriend them. I can't just choose my friends, they need to choose me as well. I never would have guessed the race of my friends. It just happened over time.

Jessica405 · Answer

No. It certainly is not racist. No person can force themselves to be friends with someone just to even up the balances of races. Just the same as no one can force themselves to date and fall in love with someone from a particular race.

Better_off_here · Answer

not really i mean to be honest, this is not racist but each one usually gets along with someone from their own race much better. kind of like saying most persons marry someone that is the same race as them, you have more in common, but no i do not think it is anything wrong with it.

Apulu_3 · Answer

If they are purposely rejecting black friends due to race then yes it is racist but if they don't have a black friend as they don't get one then that doesn't means they are racist.

Sonorous · Answer

It always depends on the reasons. And it might have more to do with culture or class than it does race. But ofc, race can be involved. Some people think not being around us blacks makes them higher value.

AncientWisdom · Answer

No not at all. It’s just preference and most people are tribal it’s an evolutionary thing. We usually go for those like us in our friend groups. Except me I am to irascible to have friends people hate me. I never cared really.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

Of course not. You don't make friends according to some racial quota. You make friends with people you get along well with and enjoy being around. Race shouldn't be a factor.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

Why is it only racist if it is just not a black person? What if they were Hispanic, Indian, Native American, Middle Eastern? Do they not count? No, it's not racist.

Jessica745855 · Answer

no; you are usually friends with people who you have proximity to. So if you are not exposed to many people of the opposite race; then you probably won't have my friends of that particular ethnicity

jennifer_bloom · Answer

There are good and bad people of every race so if you have 300 friends and not a single one is black or Indian or East Asian or middle eastern, your probably racist.

annabananna · Answer

No, some people live in areas where there aren’t many black people around. I think it’d be weird to try to seek out a token black friend.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

It is no more or less racist than black people not having any white people as their friends.

Buntyp · Answer

Only if that is a deliberate choice. Do you currently select your friends on the basis of racial distinction?

NamerOfStars · Answer

Only if they're being excluded. If there aren't any in the area or they're simply not interested, then no, of course not.

De_La_BakedBeans · Answer

No, not unless you're opposed to the idea of letting a black person into your friend circle. And not just black people, but anyone...

Tonita91996 · Answer

I find it racist if you ask an question like that why be concerned about having a colored friend? That's odd

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

Another person who uses black as the default race to see if something is racist or not. If it was racist to not have a black friend no matter the reason then you would have to have a friend of every race to not be considered racist.

astep · Answer

The question is kind stupid. Everything about color people went too far. What if those girls are from the region where no colored people live? Like the place I live in.
So they can't be assumed as racist at all

Anonymous · Answer

Depends. If it's intentional not to have black friends yes. But if it's just because of local demographics no.

But going out to specifically find black friends simply to not look racist still looks racist. All friendships should be organic and never forced.

Phoenix98 · Answer

No. only way it’d be racist is if you purposely excluded black people from your circle of friends

clampfan101 · Answer

Depends on why. It could be coincidence, or perhaps they live somewhere that doesn’t have many black people living near them.

adidas0169 · Answer

No bc its a choice or you might be in a area where blacks or another type of minorities aren't that many around, but in todays times shame on you for not having majority of your friends not being a minority.

Yurrasis · Answer

It's not racist unless if you explicitly decided not to let any black people into the circle.

JVM1939 · Answer

No it's not Sometimes you don't have people from all ethnic backgrounds in your community.  Not everything is racism

Dragonpurple · Answer

No, there are not a lot of black people were I live. That would not be a deciding factor for me anyways.

genericname85 · Answer

Inconsider it to be racist to think that you have to have any specific ethnicity in your friends circle...

FunkyMonkee · Answer

The only thing I consider to be racist is the racist bullshit the loony lefties have been shoving down our throats for the past half a decade or so!

Rorobb · Answer

I find it racist if you have a token white , black , brown , purple

purplepoppy · Answer

Perhaps that photo was being taken by a black friend, one who blacks them on a regular basis.

rosegirl08 · Answer

Not necessarily. It depends on the situation. If you purposely exclude black people, or are just super racist in conversations and make no black people want to join, then yeah, you're racist

Massageman · Answer

Maybe they are anti-hydrangea since there aren't any of those in the picture either.  I'm still trying to figure out why gals stick their tongues out so often in pix.

exitseven · Answer

No, it is racist to have somebody for a friend just to show people that you are not a racist.

AdithyaR · Answer

Of it's by coincidence then no. If you actively didn't let someone join your group solely cause they were black, then yeah.

KrisPW · Answer

Not unless they are rejecting someone from joining the group because of their skin color, no.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

No. I don't even have white friends. I'm friends with two black women, one black man, and one Creole woman. Never had any white friends

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