Is it a mistake to raise children with too much food, clothes, toys, vacations and comfort?

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sage2021 · Accepted Answer

Yes, it is a mistake. But an even bigger mistake is giving a child too much praise. Like, for instance clapping and saying YAY! Good girl! or good boy! for insignificant things they too. Only praise them for worthy things they do that deserve your praise. Because if you praise too much, when they grow older, they will still want to be praised in college, the work force, people in general, and they won't get the same kind of praise they are used to getting from their parents and other family members. It can cause confusion and social skills can be misconstrued. Them smothering them with materials things on top of too much praise, the child will feel they are really special and deserving of so many things, when they are not. Imagine growing up with constant praise and surrounded with too many material things; then you reach 18-20 and all of that is outgrown and they don't get all of that anymore from people. The adult child will continue to search for praise and material things. What kind of person would they be as an adult one day? Very mixed up, I am sure.

Alwayreckles93 · Accepted Answer

I have a half older sister my mom just give her everything and mine you she is 38 years old but still acts like a 16 year old she treats people horrible and she thinks she's always right she even wears a crown on top of her head yeah you get the picture. My mom even give her a house, My sister is useless she can't even clean or cook. Now with food we must make sure everything is healthy and making sure the food they eat will not cause health issues, Nothing with sugar. It is very important for kids to eat a healthy diet.

HighValue · Accepted Answer

The mistake is when they don't have to earn anything and have it all handed to them.
I'd say give them stuff for Christmas and their birthday. Take them on one family vacation per year if you can afford it. Anything else they should earn it either by getting good grades in school, making good decisions that make you proud, if they read books get them more as a reward, teach them life skills and if they pay attention and actually learn and can use them then reward that too.

If they mess up (ditch school, fail classes, use alcohol or drugs, steal, etc.) then don't give them anything extra. Keep a behavior chart and make a point system to determine rewards.

josephinelcajon · Accepted Answer

I have meet kids that were extremely wealthy and were the best in character and I have meet kids poor as dirt that were pure evil! Wealth or material things have nothing to do with their character. It is absolutely everything to do with how they are raised. Kids learn most by example.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, just because you have the means does not mean you should just spend away. There should be a limit, and it can be too much.
Think about and feel what you want, those are the stuff you may get. Having a bunch of toys/clothes and only use 10 % of it is a waste.
Learning to take care of yourself is also important. Having some duties in the house and learn to clean up your own mess is a good lesson.
Especially should not eat too much food, good eating habits is very important for being healthy.

lrina · Answer

it is a mistake to raise them with too many toys and too much comfort. however food should not be limited to children. they need to grow, and should never experience hunger. food is one of the most important things to children and teenagers since they need it to develop. starving them would just be wrong and quite the opposite of beneficial.

DarkCarousel · Answer

That’s what grandparents are for! Kidding, kind of.
My parents showed me the value of a buck, of busting your butt to make ends meet, and having a loving family as your reason.
My grandparents gave us treats when my parents could not/would not.

cryscrys1 · Answer

I think it’s bad only because life and the future is unknown. Let’s say if smth happens in the future and they are left without a penny they are going to die they won’t survive out there in the jungle. Fulfill a little of everything in your children life but also teach them of the truth that out of your house there is a jungle and monkeys fighting for a piece of bread..

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

It's a mistake. My nieces & nephews are perfect examples of spoiled brats. I probably contributed to that and I'm regretful about. I'm trying to make "adjustments" & "corrections" since I don't see enough proper efforts from their parents (my brothers and their wives).

Lisaf7ffhfh · Answer

You don't want to spoil your kid; you want them to learn to work hard. You don't want narcissists. I have known a lot of rich mega-rich people. People worth 50 million and up. People don't realize but there is SEVERE mental illness in a lot of these people usually having to do with oppositional, narcissistic, psychopathic, and other personality disorders. You don't want to spoil your children.

Lionman95 · Answer

Yes because that way children don't learn to deal with challenges of their own that could lead them to give up the moment problems arise.
That way there is no fundament for a good self-confidence but instead they grow up feeling entitled to anything just because they are used to it from home.

Adam1978 · Answer

Yes to much food makes them fat, to much toys make them worthless and spoiled. You need to prepare them for the world and the world doesn't grant you anything for free. You need to give them boundaries and just enough toys to enjoy each of them and value them.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes but usually very rich people won’t spend time with their children and feel guilty and will “reward” their children with expensive vacations or gifts. The kids can ask for anything they want and guilt their parents into giving it to them. Once they’re grown up, they’re just spoiled selfish monsters who don’t care about anyone but themselves and will use people just to get something out of them. So if you give your kids expensive things and remind them that they didn’t earn it and that they will one day have to work hard for themselves, they don’t typically turn into monsters when they’re adults.

alice55 · Answer

Not sure, I've been raised this way (plus I was the favorite) and I ended up socially awkward and a bit lazy so not cool and my father who was raised the same ways ended up as a criminal (he did one years of jail, should have done more but was lucky) but he ended up being good because of my mother, she hate any stuff that are not law following.

Anonymous · Answer

It's only a mistake if you don't teach them to value everything they have (like the food they eat) to take care of things (clothes, toy, books, school supplies), to appreciate their house (making their bed, washing dishes, doing simple chores) and the family time together (dinner, vacations, going out).

SmokyOne · Answer

Without earning their own things they can never appreciate the value of hard work and the satisfaction of being able to afford your needs and wants.

I'd exclude vacations from this if they're family vacations. Moments like those are to be cherished and are irreplaceable experiences.

Apulu_3 · Answer

Yes. They should grow up in a bit tough environment to face the tough world. They will remain immature. I'm glad my parents didn't raised me up like that even if they could have easily made me a spoiled kid by their money.

MuddyMole · Answer

Only if those things are a substitute for actual parenting.
It would be a mistake to spend every waking hour working, so that you can afford to buy your children those kinds of things, when you could be spending time with them instead.

Anonymous · Answer

It all depends on how you parent them. I had 2 nephews who I used to think my sister and her husband's spoiled them. I always said they were going to be in for a rude awakening when they got older. But now they are adults and they are adapting just fine.

caitycat21 · Answer

Yes. Kids that grew up like that usually never figure out how to have any type of personality outside of material possessions. Studies also show they have less empathy for others.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Yes.

its fine to spoil your kid now and then but to do that all the time and make it the norm for them. Will result in them growing to be bitchy, entitled and spoiled and a individual that doesn’t know the value of a dollar or hard work.

Alyssa_11 · Answer

In my opinion I think if you have the means to raise your kids in a lavish why wouldn’t you? Having said that, I think it’s also important to make them aware about this being a luxury and them being privileged.

WilliamPamer446 · Answer

are theydisciplined? are they also givengood morals, good spirituality,  do u help them to spiritually mature do uhelp them to keep ego in control if so thenyes

Anonymous · Answer

If you have the means to provide such comfort I don't think it's a mistake, however, I think a parent/s should also showed and teach them decency. So even tho, they have all the things that they need they still know the value of those materials and the value of people most importantly as well.

Jay3344 · Answer

Everyone has there own idea of what too much is. Is running water too much? Is electricity too much? Is having two cars too much?
It’s good to give children perspective even if they are too young too appreciate it. If you raise them right then the luxuries you share with them will be considered just that, luxuries.

exitseven · Answer

Yes, I know somebody who is rich and they always spoiled their kids. The kids are in their 30s now and unable to really function in the real world.

lilyanony1 · Answer

It either sets the status quo or creates lazy self entitlement. Know your child.

dustybiker · Answer

Princess Diana exposed her boys to life's realities too. They turned out well.

jasco · Answer

Yes I do because it can make them lazy and unwilling to make changes to their lives or accept things that they may not like. Basically it makes them soft

RARETRAMP · Answer

I Believed that it is good to give care, love security for family. However now when there are high chances of going to army, war it's not really a good idea after all!

tiajoka · Answer

To an extent. They can have these things, but reserve them in measured quantities so they continue to appreciate what they have and they don't lose value in those things.

Citizenkirk · Answer

It is unadvisable to spoil them with lavish gifts all the time

skyeee_ · Answer

indeed. it's going to spoil them in the long run and have a hard time keeping up with real life surroundings

DaveToo · Answer

There's a fine balance between giving them what they need and spoiling them.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Yeah, life isn't supposed to be comfortable unless you work for it

joeldalton · Answer

It's critical that children learn the value of the dollar and how to work for things they want. That being said, I'm not cramping my lifestyle to teach them a lesson. If I can afford to go on vacation, they're going with me.

TheFlak38 · Answer

the key is to give them responsibilities so they can strengthen their personalities.

Nazgol · Answer

Yes. They will get spoiled easily. Everything in moderation

melanieeeB · Answer

Not really, at the end of the day it all depends on your parenting

DryGermanGuy · Answer

Spoil them with education, knowledge and culture. Not shallow, materialistic nonsense.

allielynn · Answer

my parents gave me all of that and i think i turned out just fine lol.

sheikalana · Answer

No, but it is a mistake to make them believe that they can have everything they want without fighting for it.

bewilderedunfiltered · Answer

Yes, I think its important to have some adversity, responsibility, and accountability

JohnK123 · Answer

Yes it makes them lazy and not ready to succeed in the real world

Ryfyle · Answer

Absolutely. Hardship is the bread and butter of a decent childhood.

MJtheCoach · Answer

You they end up another dysfunctional Moron on Tiktok

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Yes. They turn into little shits. They do need more freedom and responsibility though.

BillyBalls · Answer

A kid needs to be taught he is not entitled to anything from an early age.

Anonymous · Answer

that's the best thing you can do for your child. so they can have no worries as they develop. if you can provide, definitely go all the way.

gayon_dato · Answer

No, it doesn't go on with what you have for your children, good parenting is a must.

boobliker · Answer

we should keep them safe that is all

driven159 · Answer

as long as they don't become spoiled

xJayleenx · Answer

Too much of anything is bad

Waldoe · Answer

yes... too much of anything is bad

ragooo8 · Answer

Food yes. Hence the US obesity crisis

Anonymous · Answer

Yes it is, because kids like that are spoiled.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

No. They need to learn how to live

devoygf · Answer

That's how I'm going to raise my kids

Anonymous · Answer

Definitely!

will34 · Answer

No what kind of question is this?

BaldAvenger · Answer

Yes it is

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