Is it a mistake to raise children with too much food, clothes, toys, vacations and comfort?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

[sage2021]

Yes, it is a mistake. But an even bigger mistake is giving a child too much praise. Like, for instance clapping and saying YAY! Good girl! or good boy! for insignificant things they too. Only praise them for worthy things they do that deserve your praise. Because if you praise too much, when they grow older, they will still want to be praised in college, the work force, people in general, and they won't get the same kind of praise they are used to getting from their parents and other family members. It can cause confusion and social skills can be misconstrued. Them smothering them with materials things on top of too much praise, the child will feel they are really special and deserving of so many things, when they are not. Imagine growing up with constant praise and surrounded with too many material things; then you reach 18-20 and all of that is outgrown and they don't get all of that anymore from people. The adult child will continue to search for praise and material things. What kind of person would they be as an adult one day? Very mixed up, I am sure.

[Alwayreckles93]

I have a half older sister my mom just give her everything and mine you she is 38 years old but still acts like a 16 year old she treats people horrible and she thinks she's always right she even wears a crown on top of her head yeah you get the picture. My mom even give her a house, My sister is useless she can't even clean or cook. Now with food we must make sure everything is healthy and making sure the food they eat will not cause health issues, Nothing with sugar. It is very important for kids to eat a healthy diet.

[HighValue]

The mistake is when they don't have to earn anything and have it all handed to them.
I'd say give them stuff for Christmas and their birthday. Take them on one family vacation per year if you can afford it. Anything else they should earn it either by getting good grades in school, making good decisions that make you proud, if they read books get them more as a reward, teach them life skills and if they pay attention and actually learn and can use them then reward that too.

If they mess up (ditch school, fail classes, use alcohol or drugs, steal, etc.) then don't give them anything extra. Keep a behavior chart and make a point system to determine rewards.

[josephinelcajon]

I have meet kids that were extremely wealthy and were the best in character and I have meet kids poor as dirt that were pure evil! Wealth or material things have nothing to do with their character. It is absolutely everything to do with how they are raised. Kids learn most by example.

[Anonymous]

Yes, just because you have the means does not mean you should just spend away. There should be a limit, and it can be too much.
Think about and feel what you want, those are the stuff you may get. Having a bunch of toys/clothes and only use 10 % of it is a waste.
Learning to take care of yourself is also important. Having some duties in the house and learn to clean up your own mess is a good lesson.
Especially should not eat too much food, good eating habits is very important for being healthy.

[lrina]

it is a mistake to raise them with too many toys and too much comfort. however food should not be limited to children. they need to grow, and should never experience hunger. food is one of the most important things to children and teenagers since they need it to develop. starving them would just be wrong and quite the opposite of beneficial.

[DarkCarousel]

That’s what grandparents are for! Kidding, kind of.
My parents showed me the value of a buck, of busting your butt to make ends meet, and having a loving family as your reason.
My grandparents gave us treats when my parents could not/would not.

[cryscrys1]

I think it’s bad only because life and the future is unknown. Let’s say if smth happens in the future and they are left without a penny they are going to die they won’t survive out there in the jungle. Fulfill a little of everything in your children life but also teach them of the truth that out of your house there is a jungle and monkeys fighting for a piece of bread..

[DeeDeeDeVour]

It's a mistake. My nieces & nephews are perfect examples of spoiled brats. I probably contributed to that and I'm regretful about. I'm trying to make "adjustments" & "corrections" since I don't see enough proper efforts from their parents (my brothers and their wives).

[Lisaf7ffhfh]

You don't want to spoil your kid; you want them to learn to work hard. You don't want narcissists. I have known a lot of rich mega-rich people. People worth 50 million and up. People don't realize but there is SEVERE mental illness in a lot of these people usually having to do with oppositional, narcissistic, psychopathic, and other personality disorders. You don't want to spoil your children.

[Lionman95]

Yes because that way children don't learn to deal with challenges of their own that could lead them to give up the moment problems arise.
That way there is no fundament for a good self-confidence but instead they grow up feeling entitled to anything just because they are used to it from home.

[Adam1978]

Yes to much food makes them fat, to much toys make them worthless and spoiled. You need to prepare them for the world and the world doesn't grant you anything for free. You need to give them boundaries and just enough toys to enjoy each of them and value them.

[Anonymous]

Yes but usually very rich people won’t spend time with their children and feel guilty and will “reward” their children with expensive vacations or gifts. The kids can ask for anything they want and guilt their parents into giving it to them. Once they’re grown up, they’re just spoiled selfish monsters who don’t care about anyone but themselves and will use people just to get something out of them. So if you give your kids expensive things and remind them that they didn’t earn it and that they will one day have to work hard for themselves, they don’t typically turn into monsters when they’re adults.

[alice55]

Not sure, I've been raised this way (plus I was the favorite) and I ended up socially awkward and a bit lazy so not cool and my father who was raised the same ways ended up as a criminal (he did one years of jail, should have done more but was lucky) but he ended up being good because of my mother, she hate any stuff that are not law following.

[Alwayreckles93]

Must be really nice having my my and daddy cover your ass all the time.

[alice55]

@Alwayreckles93 It's great yea, he would attack any person that dared said a wrong words to me, like if my teacher said to me I was annoying or dumb or something the he would go talk to him and menace him to break his face if he dare say a mean words to me again (my teacher never dared say anything to me after XD).
My father threaten any person that was rude to me, it's great and yea he did cover for me any time I did something wrong. One time a crashed a car and he covered for me, was lucky cause if he didn't I would have lost my license.

[Alwayreckles93]

Wow how old is your dad?

[Alwayreckles93]

You know what your father deserves to be father of the year award my respect for your dad for putting his child first before anyone else.

[Anonymous]

It's only a mistake if you don't teach them to value everything they have (like the food they eat) to take care of things (clothes, toy, books, school supplies), to appreciate their house (making their bed, washing dishes, doing simple chores) and the family time together (dinner, vacations, going out).

[Alwayreckles93]

With food it is the parents responsibility to make sure the child eats a healthy diet. Nothing with sugar that will cause the child to end up getting diabetes. So let's make sure kids eat healthy meals at all times.

[Opinion Owner]

@Alwayreckles93 Although it would obviously be the best, I wouldn't deny them sugary stuff, just teach them to eat with moderation, show them what a balanced meal looks like, involve them in the preparation of their food, also eventually teach them to read nutritional values of what they're buying, just as my parents taught me.

[Alwayreckles93]

You are welcome to your opinion but my grandmother never allowed me to have sugar everything I eat was home cook meals. And also I read the labels how many calories and carbohydrates protein. Soft drinks was out if the question no cookies. Only healthy nutrition good portion too.

[Opinion Owner]

@Alwayreckles93 wow, that's great work from your grandma, sounds difficult.

[SmokyOne]

Without earning their own things they can never appreciate the value of hard work and the satisfaction of being able to afford your needs and wants.

I'd exclude vacations from this if they're family vacations. Moments like those are to be cherished and are irreplaceable experiences.

[Apulu_3]

Yes. They should grow up in a bit tough environment to face the tough world. They will remain immature. I'm glad my parents didn't raised me up like that even if they could have easily made me a spoiled kid by their money.

[MuddyMole]

Only if those things are a substitute for actual parenting.
It would be a mistake to spend every waking hour working, so that you can afford to buy your children those kinds of things, when you could be spending time with them instead.

[Anonymous]

It all depends on how you parent them. I had 2 nephews who I used to think my sister and her husband's spoiled them. I always said they were going to be in for a rude awakening when they got older. But now they are adults and they are adapting just fine.

[caitycat21]

Yes. Kids that grew up like that usually never figure out how to have any type of personality outside of material possessions. Studies also show they have less empathy for others.

[caitycat21]

My schools filled with kids like that :/

[Phoenix98]

Yes.

its fine to spoil your kid now and then but to do that all the time and make it the norm for them. Will result in them growing to be bitchy, entitled and spoiled and a individual that doesn’t know the value of a dollar or hard work.

[Alyssa_11]

In my opinion I think if you have the means to raise your kids in a lavish why wouldn’t you? Having said that, I think it’s also important to make them aware about this being a luxury and them being privileged.

[WilliamPamer446]

are theydisciplined? are they also givengood morals, good spirituality,

do u help them to spiritually mature

do uhelp them to keep ego in control

if so thenyes

[Anonymous]

If you have the means to provide such comfort I don't think it's a mistake, however, I think a parent/s should also showed and teach them decency. So even tho, they have all the things that they need they still know the value of those materials and the value of people most importantly as well.