Isn't it idiotic being too kind to those that never helped you in anything?

[Anonymous]

I find my mother doing that sometimes. If someone never helped me out, I will not go beyond a cordial treatment. They don't deserve any gift, nor trips, nor any extra work.

My mother is accepting a trip with her SIL (sister-in-law). She destroyed my father's future (my future too) and because of this, we're stuck forever in a position where we don't want to be at. She did that to her own brother, her own flesh and blood. I'm all forgiving but that doesn't mean forgetting and go out of your way to giving them royal treatment if they did nothing for you when you were at your lowest and struggling.

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Then people like them ask for favors. They expect us to do them favors but if we need a favor, they are suddenly busy and unavailable.

[JustiReno]

“She destroyed my father's future (my future too) and because of this, we're stuck forever in a position where we don't want to be at.”
ma’am, would you mind clarifying?

[Logan_V96]

Helping others isn’t about them, it’s about you and who you are as a person. It doesn’t matter if they don’t deserve it, what matters is your character.

[Asker]

Yet they ask for favors and expect you to be there for them but they don't reciprocate. They're only there for you during your good times and success but not when you were struggling and during bad times.

[cloud9vortex1234]

Why don't you write a book about it and get back to us.

[anton_dee]

I was like that before. I learned the hard way...

[Hornyoldman71]

I agree