I look way younger than my age and it is killing me/hate my life?

[Anonymous]

Im a guy in my late 20s.. and i probably could pass for 18-19 years old. I mean even the odd 18-19 year old looks older than me. I truthfully can’t handle it

just now this 50 year old woman was complaining about aches and pains then turns to me and says “ you’re lucky you’re like 10, you don’t need to worry about any of that”

I mean obviously an exaggeration as I do not look 10 years old.. but it kills me inside because I’m pretty sure they see me as a teenager rather than a MALE adult that is approaching 30 years old.

It absolutely pisses me off because there is nothing I can do about it.. I already workout but have a slim muscular body.. under 6ft:: and can’t grow much facial hair. I feel like a freak and i always feel embarrassed about this. At almost 30 years old you would think this problem would have gone away by now but I am pretty sure nothing will change even as I approach 40!!!

i fuc***** hate my life

[Staximus]

Stop being a big baby, at least the younger women will like you longer. I could never get any women my age in my 20's, because I already looked like I was in my 40's. Only the ones that were old enough to be my mom wanted me. I remember when I bought alcohol for the first time after I turned 21. I slapped my driver's license down on the counter, and the clerk laughed and said "hell, I thought you were 45 or 50!".

[Asker]

I don’t mind the tough love approach. And I also can understand and sympathize what you went through as it still an ageism issue.. and if it bothered you then you know how I feel. I see the benefit you mentioned which is true.. but girls my own age sometimes think they’re like 5-10 years older than me.. and if we knew each other and we’re both in our 20s you probably would’ve picked on me for looking so young in all honesty. People give good advice on these forums but I wonder if they are as understanding in real life because a lot of my encounters are with assholes..

[Staximus]

I talk a lot of shit but don't pick on people in real life. When you're old, you're going to look younger than everybody else. It may not be an asset now but it will be later.

[Slartybartfast]

Yeah, I had the same problem in my 20's I looked younger so got passes by a lot. As like most men I gave up trying at 30 I was only able to date a few years in my late 20s and by then I was loosing interest.

[Asker]

What do you mean you gave up? You look like a normal looking dude so can’t imagine you’d have a hard time. But yeah it’s a terrible problem in your 20s.. confidence is key so I pretend it doesn’t bother me and I act confident and play it off but on the inside these age comments directed at me really fires me up inside

[Slartybartfast]

I simply stopped trying, I don't ask women out at all. And haven't dated in twenty years.

[Asker]

I know I’m the one asking for advice but mine to you is you look like a completely normal dude in your profile picture. Unless you have a super negative or boring personality..: absolutely no reason that you can’t get dates and even find a girl to live out your life with from here in out

[JuanVelasco6]

There are ways to increase facial masculinity, haircut and beard. How big is? Having a baby face can be an advantage, for example I am 19 years old and a 15-year-old girlfriend, on the street, no one would notice that we are four years apart.

[Asker]

My haircut probably doesn’t help me so I could look into that. As for beard.. it comes in mostly just on my moustache and under lip.. but it’s also sort of thin and light which makes it look underdeveloped

[Anonymous]

Trust me, every girls don't look for man with hot body. My girlfriend looks amazing and her ex boyfriend looks worser than shit.

Focus on your character and career.

[Asker]

Thanks man. I have a girlfriend and also get hit on occasionally. That part feels good but having people comment that I look like I’m 18 is just too common and sort of overpowers the confidence boost I get from the occasional flirty girls that approach me. Either way thanks for the reply.. it helps when you’re so upset that you look forward to death lol

[Opinion Owner]

Also looking young is a blessing. Who wanna look old?

[Asker]

Definitely don’t want to look old. I guess with my work being people mostly 50 years and up.. and me being in my late 20s AND looking younger than my age on top of it.. it creates an environment where people have a condescending tone when speaking to me. Most people I meet guess I’m maybe 22-23 years old which is fine with me. But unfortunately I get people that say I thought you were 16-17 years old or 18 years old.. those are the age guesses that hurt me. Especially since I workout 5 days a week trying to build muscle.. it helped a bit but at only 170 pounds and 5ft8.. I guess it’s seen as a teenager sort of body still rather a tall; broad dude that they expect from an adult

[TrillXHippy]

It sucks a lot and it’s annoying

[Asker]

Do you experience the same or are you just sympathetic

[TrillXHippy]

I have experienced it

[Asker]

Just today I was ganged up on at work by 3 people all in their 50s. Asked me to help with one of their computer issues and then started laughing saying YOUNG IT GUY.. I’m not an IT guy.. I’m an engineer just like them. Minding your own business isn’t even an option when you work with complete assholes