Everyone thinks I owe them something?

[Anonymous]

So my foster parents raised me as my parents were unable to. Now I’m grown up my foster parents feel that I have to do everything for them, more so than their own children and that it’s my duty because they took me out of the gutter- that attitude hurts my feelings, I’m happy to help them and be a loving family member to them but to think that I owe them my life and that if I don’t do what they need then they should have left me circulating the care system hurts. My aunts and uncles who also helped raised me feel I owe them and even my mother who wasn’t around feels I owe her because she’s my mother. Needless to say I’m running round like superwoman trying to keep up with the demands of all the people I apparently owe and a few aren’t speaking to me because I’ve apparently disrespected them despite all they’ve done for me. What are your thoughts on this? I’m obviously grateful but never imagined I’d be indebted to people :( I never asked to be born.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Everything you've said has come about because you are too nice.. I'm not blaming you, but nobody should be too anything.. The right balance of nice and bad gets you respect for everything you do... That is what is missing from your life...
I would advice you to learn how to get respect from people.. You can read books or look online, but until you learn to command respect? I fear this will keep happening.

[KrakenAttackin]

The answer is to STOP. Being grateful is one thing, being a slave is another. Live your own life.