Does it make you rude is you have a different type of energy when you’re not on talking terms with someone?

[Anonymous]

Like usually when I’m on good terms and I’ll use the example with my family I’m usually my giddy self and I’m upbeat, like I’m energetic and I feel I’m extra nice when we’re good terms. I’m bubbly, whether it’s with my sisters or my mum but once I feel like my kindness is being taken for a weakness and I feel like they disrespect me, I suddenly don’t want to talk to them. I’m strictly neutral which is something they’re not used to and if they’re used to it they just don’t like it which isn’t really my problem since they never found it a problem when they were disrespectful or rude to me. I’m the same with anyone if they’ve disrespected me and I want to keep my distance and not talk to them. It’s a boundary thing. So my neutral I don’t think there’s anything wrong with my neutral, I talk straight with no emotion. Or I’m just blunt and my mum persay feels I’m disrespecting her. She says I make her feel like she’s dumb but l’m just talking straight especially if I’m not intentionally necessarily talking to her like that. I’m just talking in a sense if there’s something I need to address that I’ve been dragged into or it’s just for simple things that need to be done. Yk talking only when it’s necessary. Do you guys ever feel like that happens when people complain about your neutral, you aren’t nice but you aren’t rude. You’re just… in the middle if that makes any sense

[Guy13]

Not rude but ungracious which comes across as rude. You have to be able to control your emotion thereby controlling both form and intensity of released energy.