Should age matter or personality?

[Alwayreckles93]

My dad had a conversation ask me if I plan to stay single forever. My response was that guys just aren't into me any more. My dad claims that I am putting a lot more focus on numbers rather in personality that I should just forget about a guy being born in 1992 and I should just give a other men a chance. According to my dad claims God probably had put a good husband for me but that I am refusing because of numbers. I told my dad that mostly 30 year olds are married and the ones that are single are looking for much younger. Well my dad age 57 has his own opinion my dad and stepmom are 16 year age gap which in my opinion I think it's huge but my stepmom age 41 does treat my dad way more better then my mom ever did. My dad and stepmom had been married for more then a decade they get along well.

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Remind I apologise I am actually 29 years old not 21lol

[OlderAndWiser]

When I was 23 years old, I dated a woman who was 46 years old. We only dated about two months because sex was not enough of a reason for us to stay together and, otherwise, we didn't have enough common interests.

My current girlfriend is 58 and I am 67. We have the same goals and similar interests (even though she was born in China and lived there untl she was 28 years old.)

What if you met a guy who checked all the boxes for you, seemed perfect in every way, but he was 44 years old; would you pass him up, not give him a chance? I would not dismiss guys with an age difference unless you actually tried it once or twice to see what it is REALLY like to be with someone with an age gap. I suspect that it is much different than whatever you are fantasizing.

[Alwayreckles93]

What do mean Sir? I apologise I have ADHD it's hard for me to understand if possible would you explain more clearly. I only dated guys that a one year age gap.

[OlderAndWiser]

You don't know what it would be like to date a guy 10 years older unless you actually try it.

[Alwayreckles93]

You are right , I was looking to date a 30 year old guy all this time. I will admit I did turn down guys in their late 30's.

[Tornado92]

She's racist against black people!!!

[exitseven]

What criteria to you use when you are looking for a boyfriend? Is it really age or some other set of circumstances? I have a friend who used to have a checklist for potential girlfriends. They had to go to a specific college (not a state school) have a certain career, drive a certain car, be from a certain town, etc. This was over 20 years ago. He is still single.

[Alwayreckles93]

My only checklist is he has to be Christian and must be born in the years 1992-1994. But it's hard.

[exitseven]

@Alwayreckles93 the age thing is very limiting. Maybe your father is right.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[TrueConfection]

It's good to be open minded, but don't settle.

[TrueConfection]

Don't forget that God does things in His time, not yours and not your dad's. Sarah waited a long time and made a mess of things trying to handle it herself.

[Alwayreckles93]

Your right , Like it's been said God works in mysterious ways.

[Exterminatore]

I think your dad is right. Age is just a number. It matters but doesn’t. I’d rather date a 40 year old with beautiful character than a 20 year old with a pretty face and little in terms of character.

[Tornado92]

She racist!!!
U know this chick racist won't date black dudes!!!

[Exterminatore]

She is not racist.

[Exterminatore]

I don’t get you. Suppose I’m racist. Suppose she is too. Do you think calling us racists means anything? We’d just be like: “yeah….. and?” Calling people racists who actually are racists won’t mean anything to them.

That brings me to my next point. If you believe we’re both racists, so you think you’ll win either of us over to your way of thinking by continually calling us racists?

So, racists know they’re racists and don’t care if you call them such, and continually calling people racists won’t win their hearts.

Does this make sense? I’m open to dialogue with anyone about any subject.

If you want less racists my suggestion is to speak to the ones who are (on here where you’re safe, no telling what Jonny Reb might do” and have an open and honest dialogue. Share you points. Listen to theirs. You might just be able to convince them. You might discover there really aren’t so many racists out there but the media wants to believe white nationalism is the biggest problem facing America.

So help me out bro. Let’s start an open and honest discussion. About these racism situations you see. Let’s do it respectfully and calmly. Let’s be respectful and exchange views and see if we can relate to the other.

I’m gonna put it out here right now. I don’t like American blacks who aren’t “uncle toms.” For the most part. I do however like blacks from other countries. They seem to not act entitled and seem to not feel a constant barrage being shoved down everyone’s throats is going to solve the problem.

What do you say tornado?

[Tornado92]

I help u man 🙂
Ouch it hurt when I said u don't like American black people.
That sounds racist bro!!!

[Alwayreckles93]

Sir this user has been harassing me. Ignore him I have he keeps on calling me a racist we know that isn't true at all. He just got offended over a comment I made months ago.

[Tornado92]

Bro she is a racist!!!
She even racist with furniture bro

U know she painted her table white.
She racist!!!

[Alwayreckles93]

@Tornado92 Wow okay so just because I decided to renovate a table which is completely normal that makes me a racist? No I am not a racist person.

[Tornado92]

ALWAYRECKLES93 U R A RACIST !!!
YES EVEN WITH FURNITURE!!!

U WHITE PEOPLE R THE PROBLEM!!!

[Exterminatore]

@Tornado

Ok. Where’s the racism. I didn’t say I dislike all blacks, but rather American blacks. I don’t dislike all American blacks. It’s a case by case basis, but as a group I dislike you.

Let’s start with reason 1. You are your own worst enemies. Blacks rank the highest per capita in the following:

1. Incarnations
2. Low income/poverty
3. Unemployment
4. Out of wedlock births
5. Single mother homes.

They then invent fancifully tales about how whitty keeps them down through systematic oppression. Really? Whitty has the easiest job in doing this as all of you wreck you own lives. Then Blame everyone but yourselfs…to include Slavery which ended over 160 years ago. Then to make your point you guys come up with and endorse CTR which is racism against whites. You say things like: “all white people are oppressors by merely existing of all other races and they’re automatically racist upon birth.

You guys do this stuff, steal stuff to get justice for Michael, George and Freddy…and then expect everyone to take you seriously. When we don’t. You play race cards.

This is my problem and most others.

[Exterminatore]

@Tornado

Oh, and you say “you white people are the problem”, which is racist and then you guys can’t figure out why no one takes you seriously.

[Tornado92]

Exterminator BRO this white Chick
Heck YAH
SHE RACIST!!!
SHE PAINTED TABLE WHITE CUZ TABLE IS BROWN.

HOW IS THAT NOT RACIST?
YEH SHE IS RACIST BRO.

[Tornado92]

U all whites had it easy Shit even this white Chick had it all easy PRIVILEGE!!!

[Tornado92]

Slavery ever heard of the Martin Luther king?
A white dude assassinated him.
Why?
Cuz of RACISMS!!!

[Exterminatore]

You don’t know either of us and neither of us had it easy.

What privileges have I had?

You do know the more you complain about privilege and the less you work on improving you life is a self fulfilling prophecy.

[Tornado92]

She the white chick even made a racist post
Is painting the walls white!!!

Fuck yeh she a racist!!!

[Exterminatore]

Martin L. king:

I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character."

You state his name and read what he wrote. Do you think your statement of white people being the problem don’t fit in with King’s statement?

[Exterminatore]

Ever hear of Reginald Denny? A black dude beat him just for being white.

[Tornado92]

Bro u all r white heck YAH the 2 of u all had a easy life bro.
Unlike us we had to face racism

[Exterminatore]

What if I told you we were both victims of severe abuse. That I was sexually assaulted as a child. That later in life I joined the Marines and went to war.

Our lives haven’t been easy and it’s silly if you think white people automatically have easy lives.

[Exterminatore]

Also I see no attempt on your part to talk fact. I’m not interested in a back in forth sesh if you saying I’m privileged and I’m saying I’m not.

Please put together better points if you want to have a dialogue.

[Alwayreckles93]

Exterminator Sir , This user has been harassing me none stop not sure why it was over an opinion or post I made. Ignore him Sir he isn't worth it.

[Exterminatore]

Not sure what his deal is reckless. Maybe he trolling. Maybe he wants to dialogue about racial issues. I don't know.

All I know is if he don’t start having a real conversation. Not one that involves wild accusations of privilege and the like I’m gonna block him.

[Alwayreckles93]

@Tornado92 You need to be respectful live my friend alone. Stop calling my friend bro you could at least show him some respect , You mean Sir. He secrefice his life for you and I and this is how you repay him? I bet you wouldn't Handel the things he had to go threw you have no idea. Apologize to my friend the least you can do say sorry. You never ever disrespect a veteran. He deserves more respect. He is a man of God. Perhaps it would be a good idea if you stop with this whole aurguments keep that big mouth of yours shut and listen to him about a scripture and hopefully you will learn something. This man he is a great example devoted his life to the Lord. A great role model. His done way more in life then you ever had in your whole 30 years you ha Dever existed!

[Tornado92]

The white chick abuse 😆😆😆😆
Please!

She complains about her ex on her all the time SHE PRIVILEGE!!!

[Tornado92]

ALWAYRECKLES93 No dude WILL EVER WANT U!!!
REMEMBER WHITE CHICKS AGED LIKE CANDEL WAX 😆😆😆

[NYCQuestions1976]

@Tornado92 You're an idiot who can't spell, type, or use proper grammar.

[Alwayreckles93]

@Tornado92 Me privilege? Well that's interesting. Oh yeah I am very privileged that my mom kick me out in the middle of the semester once I turn 18 my mom stopped receiving that child support paychecks I was useless to her. Yeah I am privileged I had to raised my younger siblings when I was a young little girl my self.

[Alwayreckles93]

Exterminator I suspect he is one of Rolandcuthbert and Dopayo buddies they been harassing me referring to me as being racist. He is also friends with a racist user Fuentes.

[Alwayreckles93]

@NYCQuestions1976 Thank you much appreciated you.

[Staximus]

@Tornado92 dude you're a fucking idiot. Go outside your house and walk around, look at all the couples. You'll see that most people only date their own race, even in racially diverse cities. Birds of a feather flock together. That doesn't make it right but that's how it is. Welcome to real life, dipshit.

[Tornado92]

@Staximus SHUT UR RACIST ASS UP!!!
U be saying we need to marry our own kind?

That's bullshit !!!
U all r racist.
This reckles woman is mentally ill she is old useless.
White chicks age like candle wax.
We black people we be looking young bro.

I look 20 the reckless bitch be looking 40...
Ur the looser not me. .

[NYCQuestions1976]

@Tornado92 You're illiterate.
https://youtu.be/8Gv0H-vPoDc

[Gent207]

Commonality, personality and spirituality were the three things I looked for with an age limit of 1 to 3 years difference.

I think after enough time and heartache you learn what you want in your life partner in addition to agreement on money, kids, sex and in-laws. So the real question is what are you searching for?

[Tornado92]

She racist!!!

[RealMarek]

I think it would be worth trying to widen the age range to something like five to eight years and start with that. Not all guys in their 30s are looking for early 20s. Some would be glad to consider a 29 year old woman. And your dad is right in that compatibility and how a man treats you is more important than the man being within a year or two of your age.

[Tornado92]

Bro don't be lying to this white bitch ;!!!
Guys my age we want fresh virgin 20 year old pussy!!!
We don't want old used gum it's been already used!!!
We don't want use old goods with baggage !!!

[Staximus]

If you are only looking for a guy born in 1992, that is really stupid. You are severely limiting your number of guys to choose from. What the hell does it matter if the guy is only a few years older or a few years younger than you? It doesn't matter at all, it only matters in your foolish brain. So you're 29, you should be open to dating guys who are like 25-35. 5 years difference is nothing now, you're not in high school anymore.

[Alwayreckles93]

Don't have to be rude.

[Staximus]

Time for a reality check, welcome to real life. You can't keep living in fantasy land inside your head, time to live in the present and live in the real world

[Staximus]

Sorry, but you need to hear this so you can move forward with your life

[Alwayreckles93]

Sir please I haven't had a pleasant life so far. I apologize if my post sounds rude. Please Sir you have no idea.

[Alwayreckles93]

Apology accepted

[Staximus]

Your post didn't sound rude and I shouldn't be such an asshole. I'm sorry. Nevermind a few years age difference. Just find a guy that treats you like you and your feelings matter, is not abusive, not a drug addict, and not a bum.

[Alwayreckles93]

It's okay no worries it's not your fault. You do have a good point by the way.

[Tornado92]

She racist!!!

[LikeALog]

There was a twelve year difference between my mother's and father's age. Eight years between my SO and my age. Get over the age thing. Go with compatibility and personality.

[NYCQuestions1976]

As long as both people are adults, age doesn't matter. It's about chemistry.

[Tornado92]

This chick she racist!!!
U know she even racist with furniture!!!
She wanted to paint table white!!!
She a racist stupid blonde chick !!!

[Alwayreckles93]

@Tornado92 Oh my God, Are you seriously still bringing that up. That was over month ago.

[NYCQuestions1976]

@Tornado92 You have a bowl of cereal in your head.

[Alwayreckles93]

NYCQuestions1976 He has been harassing me calling my a racist. No I am not racist ignore him. He is the reason I wanted to delete my account.

[NYCQuestions1976]

@Alwayreckles93 Yeah I know. He's an idiot. He does it to others as well. Eventually he'll get suspended and then banned.

[Tornado92]

ALWAYRECKLES93 U r a racist !!!
U painting the table white cuz u hate dark COLORS !!!
Ur a racist!!!

[Tornado92]

ALWAYRECKLES93 U r stupid ur grammar sucks ur spelling sucks!!!
People call u white woman stupid blondes NO Wonder!!!

[NYCQuestions1976]

@Tornado92 You maneuver through the English language like a moronic drooling balloon-headed fool. Stop posting on this site until you watch this video:
https://youtu.be/8Gv0H-vPoDc

[Alwayreckles93]

@Tornado92 I have ADHD and dyslexia, Let's see how you feel now. Making fun of someone with disabilities. That's says a lot about that horrible personality about yourself.

[Alwayreckles93]

NYCQuestions1976 He hates me because of my post and opinions.

[NYCQuestions1976]

@Tornado92 HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA! You're criticizing someone else's grammar and spelling? HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA!

[Tornado92]

Bro y u is laughing at bro?

[NYCQuestions1976]

@Tornado92 That's not English. Try again. "Y" isn't a word. "U" isn't a word. Why are you do dumb?

Your school district failed you by failing to fail you... thus making you a failure. 😉👍😂

[AimeeKyle]

Personality is way more important than age…. Once you are over 21, age doesn’t really matter unless you make it matter. Just my opinion.

[jasco]

I think at a certain age you shouldn't be dating due to health reasons. Now if you are completely and 100% healthy than sure date.

[Anonymous]

Your dad is probably right. But so what! If you want to stay single for whatever reason that's your choice. You don't need to be pair bonded to be happy.

[Bklynbadboy12]

I'm sorry but you dad is right. Do you agree with him or not

[Alwayreckles93]

I do see his point.

[Bklynbadboy12]

So are you gonna give it a shot?

[Alwayreckles93]

Yes but I won't be rushing things.

[OddBeMe]

Well similar aged couples will have more in common. And are most likely to succeed as a couple.

[RuthlessAggression]

Age, since dating under the age of consent, is illegal

[Anonymous]

Hell no... don't rush. Don't listen to your fucking dad.

[Alwayreckles93]

Wow would you mind being a lot more respectful no need to swear.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm sorry love 😘

[Anonymous]

no tons of men have opted out of dating

than add in the fact women only want a small percentage of men

it just makes it worse

[Alwayreckles93]

I'm looking for a Christian husband now.

[Opinion Owner]

doubt that lol

[Alwayreckles93]

What makes you think that?

[Opinion Owner]

@alwayreckles93

how long has you been on this site?

[Mijopapi2000]

Hit me up 29 is nice lol

[Tornado92]

She's racist against black dudes bro!!!

[LazerBean]

I agree with your dad.

[Liuz02]

I think is just numbers, sure;)

[legalboxers]

you love who you love

[Tornado92]

Ur fault u know u racist with black dude!!!

[countrygirl8754]

Personality