How many years would you spread your kids apart by age?

Question

Would you try to get pregnant right away after just having a baby or wait a few years?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I found the following article:  …and it appears that a 3-year age gap between children is best… First please note that the article says: “Experts recommend waiting at least 18 months between pregnancies because it reduces the risk of your youngest child being preterm or low birthweight (especially if you’re over 35).” Also: Potential challenges of a 1-year age gap between children:  - Your body may not fully recover having children 1-year apart. This includes having a higher risk of a second-child premature birth, and it’s difficult/dangerous to deliver vaginally if your first child was born by C-section less than 18 months before your second  - It’s a lot of work having two children a year apart  - It’s more challenging to nurture the mother-baby bond with two kids under 2 - You'll probably need to buy extra “baby gear” (crib, stroller, etc.) Possible benefits of a 2-year age gap between children - When it comes to how prepared your body is for the next baby, a 2-year gap is healthier for you than waiting less time - It reduces the risk of pregnancy complications - You won’t have forgotten the basics of caring for a newborn, while at the same time you’ll feel the confidence that comes from being an old pro Possible benefits of a 3-year age gap between children - According to some research, you may have the lowest risk of labor complications when you have your second baby around three years after your first - This time frame seems to be easier on your body versus having a baby earlier or later - A 3-year-old can (theoretically at least) entertain himself and in general show some independence while you’re dealing with the second child Potential challenges of a 4-year age gap between children - Birth complications may be more common - You might be a little rustier - Your kids may not relate as well

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

So my first was unplanned and my second the wife begged me for, so there was 8 years difference between the two, both daughters. there's pros and cons to everything. But that gap was too much honestly, I don't think the kids were as close as they could of been.

I think 2 years is a sweet spot. Not too close or too far apart. I have a 4 year gap between my sister. We were not too close either growing up, but that had nothing to do with age gap as much as other things. But with my sister she even said that it was hard for here at 4 years old to have a baby brother,, because she was old enough to remember being the baby of the family then having to compete for attention when I was born. I think the closer together the better, verses farther apart. Closer in age the more likely they will grow up together as play mates, who experience a lot of the same things together at about the same piont in their lives. So literally they grow up together. Farther apart and they go through different stages of maturity at different times, and tend to live separate lives and care about completely different things at different pionts.

All my friends that had siblings with one or two years apart have stronger relationships with brothers and sisters. I have few with 4 or more year gap and their relationships are a lot like I have with my sister.

menina · Accepted Answer

If I was still in time to have kids, they would be 6 or 7 years apart. That would give me time to recover from the pregnancy and I wouldn't have to take care of two babies at the same time.

Obviously I would take care of both but it would be different.

EmmaMary · Accepted Answer

We had always agreed and planned that we would like about a three year age difference between our children.

We have been so blessed that it will almost be three years (all but three months) when I give birth to our second child this coming November.

Kori1236 · Answer

If I choose to have kids I’d prefer to have one set of multiples (twins) and call it quits. But kids really aren’t in my long term plan, I have no desire to become pregnant or give birth. So if I suddenly decided I wanted kids I would probably go the adoption/foster route

caring__1 · Answer

When siblings are 5 or more years apart, you will actually be raising multiple only children, as they won't be in the same developmental stage till they are adults. This means you'll have to give each of them experiences with other kids their age, so they can learn to share and realize they aren't the center of the universe. Other than this limit, anything closer would be up to the preferences of the parents. Some prefer getting it over sooner, while others want time with the first before adding a new one.

Another potential issue of spacing them further apart is kids get used to having all your attention, so when a new sibling arrives, they can feel they have been abandoned and replaced... leading to acting out behavior. Make sure each child gets regular scheduled quality attention rather than expect them to compete for your attention. Never legitimize pushing them aside by saying babies need more attention. Also, never push your partner aside and say babies need more attention.

Apple1996 · Answer

My 1st and 2nd are 2.5 years apart, 2nd and 3rd are 4.5 years apart and 3rd and 4th are gonna be 17 months apart. I very purposely wanted to have kids closer together cuz with the 2 and 4 year age gap it sucked soo much. I definitely don't recommend cuz then they are at completely different stages and that makes it hard to take care of them. Much rather them be as close as possible in age.

bayoubob · Answer

Well, we know this much. In Libtarded minds you cannot as a man have any say. It's all about Dem lies. Or what they as a party can hang on to. It's the only reason why they can still vote Democrat. Because of women's reproductive rights. It's fucking mental? You talk about how many years should you spread your legs between babies? That is up to ALL INVOLVED. All DEMS next campaign is based upon abortion. It is all they have. Libtarded whamen and douche bags who fuck incoherently for no other reason than they cannot shut their legs and that they are HIGH as a fucking kite whilst doing so, they simply say, we want our ABORTIONS, and we WANT IT NOW.

ohsheeT · Answer

My kids were 2 years apart it's not so much how you want to have them it's really takes a lot out of the woman that's carrying the babies because she's constantly feeding that baby with the things that she eats and it takes a toll on her body her mind or Soul her spirit she has to be mentally prepared physically prepared and that's what I would suggest is it's up to the woman not what I would want or when I would want to have my kids it's when she is ready to have them

DizzyDesii · Answer

I always wanted my kids 2-3 years apart. But I also always wanted to burth my children in my 20s and to stop birthing by time I reached 30. Unfortunately I’m even closer to 30 now and have not started. So i’ll be lucky to have one biological child and i’ll likely adopt a second

BullShark · Answer

First and foremost, I'll discuss it with my wife whether or not she shares the same wish as mine to have kids and then follow up with how many 'cos family planning's important too. If we decide on more than one or two kids, then I'd preferably have them around 2-3 years apart in age so that they're of the same generation and can get along well.

Paulalove98 · Answer

I’d wait at least 3 or 4 years before having another I feel like it can be very hard having one right after another like only a year or two lol some people can do it creds to them but I don’t think I’d personally do it and I also wanna enjoy all those exciting moments early on with my toddler in the future not rush right away. I only want 2 kids at the most maybe even 1 so if me and my future partner did decide to give them a sibling the ideal time would be when their at least 3.

Twalli · Answer

There are pros and cons to spreading them out and having them close together. If they're further apart, then the older one (s) can babysit the younger ones. On the other hand, it's harder to find shared interests. If they're closer together you have to find a babysitter, but they are probably more likely to share interests.

AviatorTom · Answer

Ideal separation is 2-3 years between births. My 3 kids are 2 years and 4 years apart, which was very nice. It's important to spend time with the latest born before the next one comes along, yet keep them close enough so you still have all the necessary equipment and routine for a newborn. As they get older, they can play together, typically without a lot of conflict, since they're roughly the same age.

Secret6620 · Answer

I would try to get pregnant right away. I would want to have five children back to back. This will make sure they're very close in age. And they'll have the opportunity to grow up with siblings.

YollyM · Answer

They would have to be at least 4 years apart so that me and my potential partner would have enough time to save prior to each of their birth.

I also believe that it would be easier to take care of a newborn and a 4 year old than taking care of a newborn and a 1 year old for example.

BCA6010 · Answer

2-3 years I guess if I had to choose. I'm not all that rigid on the subject, and it's definitely something to (attempt to) coordinate with the mother.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

If they are similar, it might benefit their connection more, I would do whatever felt comfortable to me fertility wise, sometimes age gap siblings are good because there is less rivalry jealousy.

Literalbillionaire17 · Answer

Most likely 4 years apart since my brother and I are and I think it’s the ideal age and times.

Since I had my parents to myself a bit but also was young enough to have a great relationship with my little brother and since we’re close in age we also do a lot together.

Lyndsielee666 · Answer

Mine are almost five years apart. I liked it when I first had my youngest but it’s hell now😂

HaveNoName · Answer

My 1.785 cents :

This is the advantage of marrying early. This is why everything has its right time (if circumstances and fate permit). If you marry rarly, you have a few years (upto 5) to enjoy marrird life without kids before you start feeling the pressure to have them. The later you do, the more pressure you have to have them early.

This whole idea of being at retirement age with kids going to school and college is absurd on so many counts.

Greergr · Answer

I want a year between my two children, which I plan to have at 23-25. I think so they can grow up friends like me and my sibling did.

TheMajesticKing777 · Answer

Well if I was part of the decision and everything goes to plan I'd probably do like a 2 or 3 year difference

Anonymous · Answer

my partner and I had fraternal twins nearly 6 years ago. while we don't currently plan to have more. it could happen down the road at some point I guess. she's 33 now and I'm 36 so we still have some time left.

also twins don't run in either of our direct blood lines so it was a shock to say the least.

HighValue · Answer

Ideally they would be two years apart. The woman should have a year to fully recover and then after getting pregnant it would take 9 months to deliver, so they would ideally be two years apart in age.

exitseven · Answer

We got married in January and had our first kid in November. After that we had two more in 3 years and three months.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Only have 1, so it would be a tad of a gap between the next one.

Cubus · Answer

Not much. 2 or 3 years.

I am 11 years older than my sister and I feel it was too much a difference as I was always alone during my childhood. I want my children to be closer in age than I were to have company.

ArtemisSilver · Answer

Pretty much right after she moves in would be my goal unless she would rather work at something worth her/our time and pay in to the household.

Autember · Answer

I think 2-3 years is nice. My sister is 3 years younger than me. We were close enough in age that we have similar tastes.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

My OH was 41 when our first was born, we didn't have time to wait. Our second was born 18 months later.

dustybiker · Answer

I’ve trained working dogs. I keep them two years apart to allow them their own time. lol Twins on the other hand.. you don’t have a choice.

Avicenna · Answer

I think two years is a good gap. You get a bit of a break from pregnancy and can focus on the baby more.

Kelly6 · Answer

Best is to do right away after having baby. but my kids have 18 year gap

Olalaa4 · Answer

Depends, I want 4 kids so depends on age I got married.

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

From the first to the second, a year. To the their it can be up to five.

Sparkie460 · Answer

We only planned on having 1 child but my wife got pregnant 6 years later. We lost that baby so we had another one 2 years after that. Because of that reason my son and daughter are 8 years apart.

maximumpower · Answer

Depends upon what you want for family dynamics. Entirely your call but would recommend considering waiting until your body and hormones recover from prior pregnancy before heading into it again.

standardguy · Answer

Due to the fact that the curriculum at school is a bit similar every two years we would try to have the two kids an age difference between 20-30 months.

Brammer54 · Answer

At least 4. Or 5. They will be considerably easier to manage.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

2years bc they can be almost same age so that they would understand each other better

art84 · Answer

My nephews are three years apart and my nieces are 2 years apart. If I had children maybe two years or three years.

Boldy_Erin · Answer

I'm 40 and pregnant with my first child

John_Doesnt · Answer

Be like an Arab family and have 50 kids with your 10 wives.

MikeInHawaii · Answer

If they’re four years apart, you don’t have to pay for two in college.

marish01 · Answer

I will get pregnant right after my body is healed after the childbirth

RealDaveThomas · Answer

I don't want kids but I'm going to have to. Only child, male

Danny718718 · Answer

It all depends but most of the time it's never planned like people think it is

peedy · Answer

Whenever they come, there is no guarantee that the female will get pregnant when you want to

Arleythedemigirl · Answer

Me and my bro are 8 years apart. He wasn’t planned though.

YoHoeRose · Answer

I believe I would prefer to wait a few years

nawtee_me · Answer

brothers or sisters should be close in age growing up...

Shyfemguy · Answer

I can't have kids due to a non treatable medical condition called shyness

Ela13 · Answer

3, each one of my siblings have a 3 age gap and it’s great 👍🏼

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

It’s better to have cats when they’re both babies but in the end it doesn’t matter too much.

2facedfa1ry · Answer

i would have my kids kinda back to back

Guy13 · Answer

3 years at max.

SaoirseS · Answer

Three to four years.

Blackcosmo · Answer

I'd prefer 2 - 3 years in between.

Guardian45 · Answer

Reality or fantasy?

fonduegirl · Answer

A couple of hundred years

TrillXHippy · Answer

1 year and 238 days

saffoler · Answer

2-3 would be the ideal amount.

talka20 · Answer

I don't know maybe around 2

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