Family fighting over inheritance. How nasty would you get for cash 🤑?

[Anonymous]

Things have gotten ugly and I mean very ugly. I just mind my business. Anywho, I'm listed to recieve an inheritance from two of my grandparents properties along with my aunts. So the two aunts that's staying in each house are supposed to pull out a loan and pay us all (other aunts and me ) off. One "katie "aunt said she doesn't want to take from them while me and the other aunt want our money. The process is taking too long it has been a damn year. And my other aunt "Catalina " said " Jen doesn't want the money from the house she said I can keep the money ". Um no tf I didn't.

Anyways , I'm thinking of contacting the lawyer this week to make sure what she said doesn't affect my pay out. What would you do in this situation?

Fuck family get the money. you're entitled to it. Also call the lawyer

Nah, that's messed up to make your aunts pay you out. Let them keep the money

I don't know what I'd do/other

Updates

+1 y

There is a WILL that's how I know im receiving an inheritance. I received the documents

[NathanDavis]

my relatives, my extended family is huge... it's like a small country, all my great-grandparents had all kinds of property and business, inheritances and what not, in two (actually three countries we found out later) as well

and of course it was a mess and it fractured the families in several groups, I was not really there for that drama and as of now, is pretty much in the past, however... my mother decided to "unlist" herself and all of us from any of that because my grandparents also left some of the same things, and part of our relatives were getting a bit feisty about things... my maternal grandma was close to her sisters and they had properties connected and all of that, so it was all pointing to be a huge legal battle from the children of my grandma's sisters against my mother and her siblings

so my mother said screw that... "we're out and leave the cake to the vultures" lol...

as of now, my own parents "don't own anything and don't have anything" to their name, not their name, is already passed to us three brothers, and a couple of cousins as well, so that solves big part of it for us... lol

not like we would ever fight for such things, especially me... money will never move me in way like that

[WindAtMyBack]

The probate lawyer and judge should take care of it. If it says in the will that you are a beneficiary, then you should get it unless someone actually challenges the will. If the will is written right, and there are no special stipulations, then it would be hard to challenge.

It doesn't matter if your aunts are staying in the house. One way or another they have to come up with the money to pay your share. They can take out a loan, sell the house or whatever.

[WindAtMyBack]

To make a few things more clear. If it's in the will, the probate lawyer and judge do not have a choice (unless it's successfully challenged which is rare). In other words they CAN'T keep the inheritance from you unless you willingly give it up.

Someone telling the lawyer that you don't want it won't be enough. YOU would have to sign the documents yourself. If you are in the will, you will be signing documents regardless of how things work out. If the estate is large enough and worth it, and you don't understand some documents, then you can hire your own lawyer just to look over the paperwork before you sign anything.

It's fine to contact the lawyer and ask questions. If it's been over a year you should have gotten some paperwork a LONG time ago. I don't know if the lawyer will talk to you without verifying who you are.

Who is the executor? Is it one of your aunts? If they are being greedy they might charge maximum fees for acting as executor. I think most family members probably do it for free, but if someone wants to be a dick, they can charge a fairly large amount (it's a LOT of money considering the amount of work they do.)

The lawyer can also charge a percentage of the estate. It might be considerably cheaper to use a lawyer who works by the hour instead of a fixed rare based on the size of the estate. But since it sounds like you already have a lawyer you can't really do anything about it now. Hopefully the lawyer doesn't charge a fortune.

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

You are lucky. Your grandparents must have loved you a lot for them to have thought of you and put you in their will. 🥰

I was the only family members to be excluded from my grandparent’s will. My dad didn’t want anything she gave to him so he just let his family fight over who would be the new owner of the resorts that she left to him.

I would only want what the person left me. If the person left me money I would split it evenly so everyone gets some money. I don’t like money. I only want things of sentimental value.

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

I wish for you to obtain the things that your grandparents wanted for you to have, and I hope things don’t get any uglier between your family members.

I am also sorry for your loss. How are you doing?

[Asker]

Thank you❤️, I'm sorry to hear that! Why were u excluded. I'm good now my grandmother has died like 2 years ago now yet we're still doing this courtroom drama

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

You’re welcome 🥰.
It’s fine. I have accepted it lol. I don’t know why I was excluded, but I was never close with them. I never met my grandfather and I only met my grandmother once. I think they didn’t like the fact that my mom is Korean.
I’m glad you are doing better 😊. I’m so sorry that it is taking so long for you to get what is rightfully yours.

[Apulu_Imback]

I would make sure that everything would happen as the will of the prior owner of the property or as it should be.

[TroyDT]

You are entitled to what was left to you, and depending upon the wording of the will / trust, possibly a pro rata portion of what other beneficiaries refused. And no, there is nothing selfish about requiring that they adhere to your grandparents wishes. In fact, it is selfish of them to ask you to give up what your grandparents left you.

[Jessica405]

If you are given the rights to an inheritance, go for it with the backing of a good lawyer. Read the small print carefully, though. The lawyer will help you.

[Prettygurl12]

This is why it is SO important to have your estate in order and a will/trust in place so your family can't bitch and fight to change anything.

Having an attorney help you navigate that will be good.

[Asker]

There is a WILL/trust. I have the documents

[Asker]

There's an attorney already.

[Prettygurl12]

That's good!

[DizzyDesii]

When you have everything you want material wise, you’re not hungry for money. I have everything i truly want except for having built a house. And then there's the kids but im not really tryna buy them lol

[Anonymous]

Luckily I'll never be in this situation. But if it ever came down to this and I couldn't come to an agreement with my siblings then I would tell them they could have it all, and then cut them out of my life completely. Because I value my family more than any amount of money. And I would consider money coming between us to be an unforgivable betrayal.

[Asker]

I'm taking the money 🤣.

[Guy13]

I’ll never see it anyway with a 41 year old family head and 5 of us and me as Baby… Who cares 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Asker]

That makes no sense.

[Guy13]

Read your question…then read post.

And, if you do not have a large family then it most definitely will not make sense. My oldest brother was just as much of a father as my Dad was. There is a birth right pecking order..

[Asker]

Ok you're referring to your bother as the 41 year old? You lost me when you said that

[ArrowheadSW]

I would definitely contact the lawyer handling this and get his/her opinion. This is a little complicated with the aunts living in the houses.

[Dinklex3]

How annoying.

Get the money if you want. Don't let them bully you.

[Asker]

On gawd lol. I'm calling thr lawyer Tuesday cause I'm making sure I'm getting my money.

[Asker]

I got questions lined up

[maximumpower]

Get a lawyer. Do a bit of research but do it soon.
Your relatives aren't going to play nice.
They never do.

[exitseven]

I dealt with this when my mother died. I have not spoken to my brother in 7 years.

[Asker]

Yeah family is funny when it comes to money. They aren't going to like me after this lol

[Asker]

Why won't he speak to you?

[exitseven]

His wife thought I was ripping them off. He made his choice and I insist he live with it.

[Anonymous]

Need to send it to a lawyer and have the aunts kicked on so the houses can be sold unless they can afford to buy them

[Fuentes]

I would not say anything and let the lawyer do the work

[Dinosaursandanime65]

If I was struggling, I’d politely ask for part of it. If I was fine, then I’d just let them deal with it

[Asker]

If you're in the will why ask? just get your money

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Ooh. Oh my God that one has the CHEEESE on it

[Dinosaursandanime65]

I didn’t know I was in it. AAAHO

[Jennz6]

Should have had a will

[Asker]

There is a will that's how I know im receiving an inheritance

[Jennz6]

@zenjen444 ohm I don’t know 🤷‍♀️

[Anonymous]

I would have them killed.

[Asker]

🤣🤣🤣 who?