okay, so for context, I am a Filipina which means having extended family in the house is kind of normal here, but not for me. I am having a very hard time right now. One of my family member just moved back in because she needed help for a while, my mom is very fond of her grandchild of course, so she agreed, but sometimes I think that certain family member is taking advantage of our kindness. won't even offer to help with the bills or groceries, or just help with the house chores and the father of my nephew (we don't like him, he's violent) still supports the child financially. but how hard is it to offer some help when they know for a fact that we're struggling because they're here? the mother (my sister) handles the financial support she gets from her ex, she's not working. I have been very silent for 8 months now, and I think I really had enough. I don't like confrontations. but sometimes I feel like my sister, is not really my sister at all, if that makes sense. I am younger than her but it feels like I am the one who has to do everything. I'm really tired of this situation. and even considered ending my life because of depression. help.
How much can you tolerate when it's your family member?
