I have a close girl friend that I really love and talk everyday. I feel safe around her and I can share myself without hiding anything. However, two weeks ago we had a huge fight and no matter what I do, she doesn't want to see me, talk to me. I still see her as my close friend but I am afraid that we are not going to make up. Do you think it is more difficult to make up with your same sex friends comparing to the opposite sex ? What should I do ?
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Sometimes it could take a few weeks. Then slowly talk a bit here and there. Then you realize it was stupid to be angry. But also depends on the fight. With guys it seems easier. But also had a fights over the dumbest thing. I try to avoid them at all costs.0
If she's the type to hold a grudge even after apologizing, then there's nothing you really can do. It also depends on what was said or did after a fight, for some people they are simple just done and want to cut ties for good. Hopefully you can remedy the situation, if she does t want to forgive you then that's on her and not you.0
It's more difficult to make up with females because they are more guided by their feelings. And they are not raised or conditioned by society to 'man up' and 'get over it.'
However, certain men, when they feel they have been scorned by a lover... they can be just as emotional and impenetrable to reconciliation.0
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From experience guys a less likely to hold a grudge and tend forget about why we fell out when there is an offer to do something we enjoy. Women tie any grudge in with feeling about the person who has wronged them.0
It's not so much that it's more difficult to make up with your same sex friends comparing to the opposite sex. It's more difficult for women to make up with women. It's much easier for us guys to fight and get it all out, and then move on and forget. Women have a VERY hard time doing that, especially with other women.0
Sounds to me like she's clearly more upset or hurt than you are.
Give her space & time.
She'll return to face you.0
I had a huge fight with with one of my friends of 30 years.
It took 7 years before we started talking again.
He is the type that holds on to hate. Me I tend to let shit go.0
Because it is our nature as females to be more easily offended, forgive less easily and hold grudges more, even though we hide those feelings more.0
Well if the situation isn’t serious to begin with and you’ve tried to make amends…fuck that ho! You don’t need to bend over backwards for no bitch no matter how close y’all were…0
No me and my male friends have had some massive arguments and always work out0
Hopefully, she just isn't ready and someday she'll come around0
Just give her more time to cool off before you talk to her again0
We are talking about a typical female friend right? Nothing else going on there (you did use the label “girl friend”)?0
Some people hold grudges longer than others0
Very often it is, especially if things were said in the heat of an argument that cannot ever be taken back!10
Just give her some time and space but be prepared cause depending on what you two fought about she may not want to make up0
give her space, don't message her and whatever she has going on which most likely nothing personal towards you but just was venting. just keep moving forward with your daily tasks and she will come around10
Give it some time and talk to her calmly and tell her how you feel about her.0
I guess girls hold grudges longer, men don’t usually0
Because women aren't very logical. What do you expect when you have to overly emotional people interacting.0
Wtf did you do?0
Nobody wants to get hurt again0
No, I find it much easier.0
If she exploded then you have to let her unwind and get back together. Don't rush in and try to Fix or Save anything. Why? in your question: Because you both are an emotional train wreck and confused.
Guys are not so emotional so there's balance there. Two women are like crazy world with emotions. She will come to you after processing if there is a wanting to establish relationship moment.