Should guys be allowed to defend themselves when a woman gets physical?

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Nowadays woman are getting themselves into trouble when it comes to this topic. A lot of guys nowadays don’t care and will knock you out make or female if you put your hands on them especially big it’s for no hood reason. And to a degree I get it some woman will use there gender as an excuse to hit men excessively. There’s also the well you’re a man you’re bigger and stronger then me so you shouldn’t put you’re hands on me which is a stupid ass argument. My older brother is bigger and much stronger then me doesn’t mean I should punch him or slap him in the face cause I didn’t like something he said. People need to all just keep there hands to themselves that’s what I think.

AMS700CX4u2 · Accepted Answer

At the age of 7, I was attending a Cub Scout Meeting for my elder brothers pack. There was a girl my age who thought it would be fun to slap me repeatedly. My response was to run away. Which caught my fathers eye. His heritage was Quaker. He called me to him and inquired what was going on. Evidently my face was bright red. Since I was rarely the innocent party, he asked " What did you do"? My father was a patient man and could tolerate the bullshit of kids play but did not tolerate lies. You had a much higher survival rate if you told him the truth. So I did. "Why are you letting her slap you"? My answer was simply she's a girl and I am not supposed to hit girls. His reply was ," Girls are ladies to be and ladies do not strike others." If she hit you for not reason you hit her back. Evidently she saw me talking to my father and decided to call it off. So I did.

The world has changed The whole concept of civility seems to have been flushed. Furthermore It appears that the it has been dropped, rather than being taken from women. I understand the reasons behind it. Evidently, when both parent started working for a" better life". Child care and social education became a matter of street education. We threw our kids under the buss for a buck. Some males learned to be abusive and thought it was normal. Of course, alcoholism leads to abusive behavior as all forms of addition do. What do you think anyone would to if they had to protect themselves, Male or Female, You learn to fight. Luckily, I have not faced an abusive female but once in 50 years. My departmental manager thought that I was trying to usurp her authority because I decide to cover a situation that I felt was my responsibility. When she confronted me, she had a snoot full. when the verbal assault began. I smelled bourbon. My EMT training taught me to never argue with ethanol. So, I waked away. That infuriated her. Luckily she had her second in command along as a witness, so I asked her if my manager had been drinking, which was against company standards. With one hand signal from the second in command it was over. I faced her the next day. I became an asset and we at least ate lunch together daily.

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

Obviously. Of course. I don't believe in that "never hit a woman" crap. It's ironically sexist to think a woman couldn't injure or kill you. Guys who think in that dumb "never hit a woman" crap probably think women are harmless, delicate little bunnies, even though most women who are violent tend to use blunt force melee objects, meaning, she usually has a weapon on her.

6'2" roided-out boxer Gabi Garcia. "Never hit a woman," though. N*gga please!

Just like a human can't expect a grizzly bear or wild cougar to "be chivalrous" after you wake it up by throwing big stones at its head in the wild, I believe don't put your hands on anyone first unless you're willing to go to the ER for it, cause nobody owes you "mercy" or kid gloves. This applies to men too, who also have that retarded "he insulted my woman, so I had to throw the first punch" crap. That's equally retarded.

People out here getting into fights because someone "said something rude" to your wife, and don't understand MF'ers are armed these days. I was, back when I lived in the US. You thinking you're "defending your wife's honor" by starting fist fights with "uncouth men" and end up dead on the f*cking 5 o'clock news! That's what happens to people who wanna throw the first punch, male or female. "Play stupid games, win stupid prizes." Like internal bleeding.

*I* wasn't letting anyone jeopardize my life in that sh*thole that was Philly! I had a concealed carry. And I never threw the first punch with anyone I fought. Too bad Korea doesn't really allow guns; not that you'd need them here.

ShellyB · Accepted Answer

Everybody should be able to defend themselves if they are really in danger, however something I see a lot online is comparing a girl shoving or slapping a guy, w a guy punching a girl. There was a video a couple months ago that showed exactly that, I think it was a German girl and a Russian guy, the girl slapped the guy and the guy punched her and she went onto the floor. She did not hit her head on the bar but she easily could have and possibly been seriously hurt.

I think it needs to be proportional, if possible, restrain the girl like hold her hands until she calms down or something like that. When talking about healthy young adults (who do most of this type of stuff) the fact is that a girl hitting a guy is unlikely to seriously injure him but a guy punching a girl could seriously injure her.

Again I think anybody should be allowed to do whatever they reasonably need to do to protect themselves in any situation including this, I just do not think it is an apples to apples comparison most of the time. JMO!

ChooChooHaha · Accepted Answer

OBVIOUSLY. Same as a woman if the other way around. Yes. Same.120%. Not unless this person is a danger to themselves and/or others (including pets and shit like that). "Don't hit women! BLAH BLAH Yadeyadda." Take a martial arts class, go the Marines. They dgaf. Green berets.

To use their arguements against them/ACTUALLY be equal: how about we females stop being sexist, misandristic, toxically feminine, hypocritical, and double standardish? Using our gender/sex to seemingly be above men? Including like this? Don't hit people.

Billlewis · Answer

I've been slapped, kicked and punched by plenty of women in my lifetime, and I simply refuse to retaliate, unless I think there's a risk of being injured. I do my best to remain still, so she can take her anger out on me until she's satisfied, period.

Anonymous · Answer

I love my girlfriend but she has anger issues. She can get really ugly and emotional sometimes. There was a period of time when she was getting physical with me. It started with a slap here and there during an argument, then one time she threw a half full glass of water that hit me in the ear. Thankfully it didn't break when it hit me but it shattered when it hit the floor. The final straw was during an argument when she hit me in the neck with a closed hand. I told her if she ever hit me again I would hit her back, and she turned around and hit me again right away. I punched her back so fast in anger without thinking and she went down hard. I felt bad about it but I didn't show it, just walked out and left. That was almost two years ago and she has not laid a finger on me since.

We should remove gender from this entire issue. Anyone who hits someone first deserves to be hit back, male or female. I think we need to stop teaching boys not to defend themselves when girls hit them. But most of all, we need to stop allowing girls to hide behind their gender nd think they can hit a guy without consequences. They need to know there is a good chance they will get hit back, and the only way we will reset that expectation is to hit them right back.

TheorionMage · Answer

If Feminists WANT true Equality... you DON'T get to physically assault and NOT expect a PHYSICAL injurious response. BUT... the law REQUIRES his response be PROPORTIONAL to her attack.

Just as with a cop, you ARE required to exercise discretion to apply only AS MUCH reciprocity pain necessary to REASONABLY end FURTHER combat.
The fundamental 'test' remains: "In the luxury of hindsight, were YOUR responses that of "a prudent and reasonable person" under the circumstances?"

If she slaps you, you DON'T have the right to punch her in the face, breaking her nose! Or throat punching her---

TenderFantasy · Answer

If things in a relationship get physical, your relationship has hit a new low and has a lot of ISSUES already. That's crossed the line. Thankfully I have NEVER seen my parents physically HIT each other and they've been together for 46 years!

I think people who hit others is due to FRUSTRATION in the relationship that one persons is not getting or acting in a way that is either beneficial for the relationship or is selfish. You hit people you don't like. You hit people you don't respect. Period.

Blackcupcake · Answer

yes, anyone should be allowed to defend themselves if they are in a dangerous situation, but there’s a difference between simply defending yourself, and brutally assaulting someone as a result of them getting stupid.

no woman should put their hand on a man and vice versa, period. but it is easier for a man to defend himself against a woman generally without needing to use full strength. so I don’t see why a man would go all in, beating up a woman, and use defending himself as an excuse for that. however I will say that, a woman that physically puts her hands on a man, has zero justification for those actions especially if she expects him to just take it simply because he is a man. it makes her low. and a man, that goes down to that same low level, and on top of that, uses full strength when he knows he is stronger, is even lower in my opinion.

jshm2 · Answer

It's about law and context.

Some woman hits you lightly to get your attention at work. You give her a haymaker In retaliation. You are deserving jail and cannot claim "self defence". Whereas the same situation occurs in your kitchen in the middle of the night, she's on crack and broken in. You get the support.

It's not about retaliation. But looking round you and reading the fucking situation. America is fucked because every fucker thinks they are president, CEO and MVP. Instead of the incestuous, groupthink, fucktard that they are.

RingOfFire · Answer

Depends. If she has a weapon yes, you are clearly entitled to do whatever is necessary to defend against that. If not then it depends on what you mean by "defend."

Yes, they should be able to do what is necessary to protect themselves from harm, but no I don't believe in hitting a woman even in self defense unless there is no other option (and usually there is since most men are far more physically capable than most women). The exception of course is the rare case where a man might be weaker than the woman. In that case he needs to do what he needs to do.

HuskyJ · Answer

There are a few things to that:

Kung Fu movies started gloridying violence back in the 1980s (in Balkan where I was then - where for any defficient mean it is the top means of communication.

Girls caught on to that - many are in fact prone to force instead of callimg out bad behabiour or knowing how to fix it. (Sex with bullies does not help)

Too much sport makes one aggressive - adrenalin and such. And, again, girls don't avoid such people enough but often tend to bow down to them (except daughters of government folk, especially high officials who gracefully decline/avoid aggeeasive types)

Self defense - usually the larger of the two is fine and can just restrain the smaller - except if the smaller via back-family channels towaeds the larger has made pact that allow - or in fact encourage - such abuse.

Best of luck

Anemone978 · Answer

Yeah women should know if you hit someone you can get hit back. No one should hit anyone unless you can handle the comeback. So when I see a girl punch a guy in the face and she gets knocked out, I don't feel bad because she should of known that could happen xD

Anonymous · Answer

Yes men should be able to defend themselves if attacked by a woman, If women are prepared to throw a punch or wield an object as a weapon then they should expect the guy to defend himself, and they have to understand that guys have grown up learning to moderate the strength they use in a given situation, so most guys will tend to fend off the woman so they'll end up with defensive injuries to the forearms then restrain the woman when she runs out of steam. Unless the woman knows how to throw a punch then the guy will opt to to stop her as fast as possible usually a medium/hard blow to the centre of the chest will accomplish this.

Faith18letsgo · Answer

I think the moment someone hits you weather your a man or a women is the moment before you leave the relationship. I’d still recommend non violence though because one that can escalate and you can both get very hurt and two you could both be charged with assault.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Of course…ANYONE has the right to defend themselves from violence… No matter WHO the perpetrator is…

I don’t see women thinking that as much as I did in the 80’s-90’s… I admit one of my sister’s was like that… Always claiming abuse, but a lot of times she instigated the physical contact, that ain’t abuse in my book, that was them men defending themselves…

Qdbrown · Answer

Traditionally you don't hit women. You just defend the slaps. Not hit back.

These days, many women believe that they are just as capable as any man. There are some women who have the mass and skill to fight. But most are outmatched.

That said, if a woman wants to fight like a man, can expect to be hit like a man. If she slaps like a woman, take the hit. If she doubles up that fists or picks up something to use as a weapon, she is on her own.

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t know his name but a man got in a lot of trouble for hitting his wife back recently after she hit him…. It’s ironic because it’s mostly gender warriors who got upset. I don’t believe he should’ve hit her back there. He should’ve divorced her for abuse, or else worked it out maybe if it was a first offense or maybe he deserved it (if he cheated for example 🤷‍♀️ Y’all can fight me on it but-I don’t condone it but I can understand a sudden outburst of emotion. Divorce should ensue after she hits him or not)

it’s not that a man should never hit a woman, but in that sorta situation he needs self restraint. But I’m also a traditionalist that believes in being a woman who submits to my husband.

HighValue · Answer

Yes. Even if a woman is 120 pounds, if she instigates something with a 250 pound man and she hits him first it is totally fine for him to hit her as hard as he can. Don't mess with someone unless you are prepared to deal with the consequences.

Revvl6pro · Answer

My brother told me an interesting thing about his karate instructor.

He was at a party, and some ass-wipe said to him...

Ass-wipe: So you think you're a bad ass, what if I go out to the car and get my gun?

Karate dude: If you move one inch, I will kill you.

Ass-wipe: Why?

Karate dude: Because you just threatened to kill me in front of witnesses.

The ass-wipe stood in place for hours and pissed his pants. lol

Phoenix98 · Answer

You should never let anyone put their hands on you. Man or woman If they do defend yourself.

And just because your a woman doesn’t mean you get to put your hands on someone without consequences. If you put your hands on or assault someone then you deserve whatever is coming your way. That applies to everyone.

exitseven · Answer

I would not hit a woman maybe unless she had a gun or a machete. I dated somebody who was abusive. When she would get physical I never hit her but I used to restrain her until she calmed down. She was abused as a kid so I didn't want to hurt her.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Absolutely!!

Lemmie ask you this: if a woman comes up to you and hits you in the head with a baseball bat, are you supposed to just stand there and take it and let her continue to do it just because she doesn't have a dick?
If you can dish t out, you better damn well be able to take it, unless it's a matter of self defense! In that case, all's fair!

Subarugirl · Answer

Men have the same legal right to self defense as women. From a legal stand point, as long as it is self defense, it is 100% allowed.

That being said, self defense is defined as “the use of reasonable force to protect oneself or members of the family from bodily harm from the attack of an aggressor”. Reasonable force specifically.

leah_steenz · Answer

I feel like you should definitely not just sit there and to nothing. You are allowed to defend yourself but to a certain extent. If she starts hitting you then thats not a reason to fully knock het out. I feel that you should restrain her instead of further inciting violence. This is important in any conflict scenario.

CateM · Answer

Yes! Men have a right to defend themselves when attacked, it's no different from when another man attacks him! This "you can't hit a girl" thing is bullshit. You shouldn't hit anyone, but should defend yourself if they hit you

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

It's like when a smaller guy fights a big guy... The big guy should go easy on him and just restrain him until he realize he's making a joke out of himself... Same thing with women... And of course if the person is trashy and won't stop.. They need to get slapped lol

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. Teach her that you cannot hit anyone with zero consequences. The response should be proportionate but demonstrate just how much stronger you are, usually by restraining her or manhandling her like a rag doll avoiding painful injury but clearly showing this is not a contest she can win and you are not restrained by ancient outdated sexist morals.

Wwwyzzerdd · Answer

Here's the thing by putting hands on another person you're playing a legal game of who calls the cops first and has marks on them. If she's hitting him then it's abuse. If she lays any hands on anyone it takes two witnesses even if there are not marks. Some states vary but more or less that's how it is.

Msputiton · Answer

Nobody should put hands on anybody. But yes. If a guy feels like he is in danger from a woman hitting him. He is allowed to defend himself.

Shamalien · Answer

Yeah a woman stroked up my crotch with her fingers at a bar on nye and I gave her a good hard shove into the crowd. Lucky she didn’t get a fist to the face cause that’s what’s deserved. I didn’t hit on her or touch her or dance or anything I was just in line for a drink

NathanDavis · Answer

defending and protecting yourself does not always mean you have to attack others  especially not to overpower someone else in clear disadvantage

dragoblack · Answer

Absolutely. Physical abuse is physical abuse, you should always be able to defend yourself. One of my favorite phrases comes from batman "justice is unisex". If she is ready to throw the punch, she has automatically accepted you will defend yourself if not retaliate.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Gender ceases to matter if you initiate violence. Retaliation should be expected, and it should exceed the original attack sufficiently to deter future attacks. If that means i have to kill you, then i kill you. You will never attack me again.

Adam1978 · Answer

Yes the best way make sure she won't continue that shit is giving her the treatment back and hard and swift. So she knows better. Not fighting back is certain way of being abused.

straightmax12 · Answer

My opinion is guys should defend themselves if women decide to get physical with them. For example, if a woman pulls out a knife with the intention of killing or injuring me, as a man, should I let her harm or kill me because she's a woman? I would attack her regardless if she is a woman.

Guy13 · Answer

All I can say about this garbage is Mama Is Going To Knock You Out.

Andres77 · Answer

Only in as much as is necessary to stop the threat. Reciprocal violence necessary to eliminate the threat.

Just like with a guy. And no shyt talking after because then one becomes an instigator for the next phase.

Leave.

purplepoppy · Answer

Outside the shit neighbourhoods is this even a problem?

Haha456 · Answer

defend yourself? yes. hit her back intentionally? no. and this is illegal too.  there you go, thats your answer.

all_hayl · Answer

I don’t care who you are - if you try to harm me or someone nearby, I will defend myself and/or the other person

sage2021 · Answer

Yes he should be able to defend himself!! I've some pretty big women walking around lately, and they could probably really hurt a guy physically.

Reece12345 · Answer

I think yes, but to defend themselves. I've seen guys lose it when they get started/triggered. They're monsters. I hate them.

Miristheiss · Answer

Of course.  Are you suggesting a person not be free to defend themselves? That would be insane.

annabananna · Answer

No one should hit anyone. I think if you can get away that’s the best thing to do but if you’re cornered and must get physical to protect yourself than you have to do what you have to do.

Charliefretz329 · Answer

Agreed. I was given a concussion by a girl that lasted 3 days. And the police laughed when they showed up.

Don’t put your hands on people lightly.

Gender means nothing when it comes to assault and battery.

Agape93 · Answer

Absolutely. If you're being attacked, you take them the fuck down.

sheikalana · Answer

Violence is unacceptable no matter the circumstances but if someone is attacking you you have the right to defend yourself.

JessicaEarl · Answer

Protecting yourself doesn’t mean beating the crap out of her

MysticDevice · Answer

Yes. No question. Same for women when a man get physical. Ye who swings first shall be in the wrong. Ye who is swung upon shall be in the right.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Yes they should. I'm not saying that if a woman slaps you then you can beat her up but you have the right to push her away.

PainusNdeeAnus · Answer

if you’re going to hit her make sure you call the cops first  if she had already hit you a bunch of times go nuts ( self defense atp ) but don’t go overboard

CoolCatMar1 · Answer

In my opinion he should definitely defend himself

Justneedtokno · Answer

Yes he should be able to get them off of no more than that

Anonymous · Answer

Only enough to stop the attack and that's it. Then you walk away. Men can't be hammering on women with their fists. It's not a real man that does that.

Sparkie460 · Answer

I would never hit a woman even if she hits me. I would subdue her but I won't hit her

Lookitsmadmax1994 · Answer

Yes 100%. All action have consequences. Keep your hands to yourself. These hands are rated E for EVERYONE

AngryCarl · Answer

I like it when women get physical.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Yes. If you physically hit or assault someone first then if you get smacked back, it's well deserved.

MountAverage · Answer

No one's saying men shouldn't defend themselves when they're attacked by a woman.

Sabretooth · Answer

I would. I'm not one to get physical with a girl... But I won't just take it, either. I'm a fighter.

Anonymous · Answer

To defend, yes, but not to attack back. A guy should dump any woman who hits him. It's violence.

Guardian45 · Answer

This WAS me! I restrained her, but did NOT hit back, cuz I could have been charged.

dillydoll · Answer

ABSOLUTELY. feminism is all about equality i guess But i still believe that violence frkm any end is wrong

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