I see many of my friends/family members currently getting pregnant, is it normal to feel as I’m running out of time?

[Anonymous]

Me and my husband both have discussed about having children, however, we both feel like we are not ready financially, we want to take our time with it and we consider our current situation might not be the best for them. Being aware of all of this I still can’t help but feel a little pressure as I see a lot of my family members or friends getting pregnant. Is it normal to feel this way? How can I reassure myself?

[Anonymous]

What is the need to bring more people into this world? Are you happy with the way things are going? Is your own life so great? What kind of work will there be for your child to do when he grows up? There's a small percentage of people with more money than they could ever use in 100 lifetimes, and then the rest struggling to get by. There are homeless people living all over the streets in every city, interfering in the lives of hard working people. There was just a global pandemic. They're predicting the electrical grid will soon go out for weeks or months. That means no electricity for heat or cooling or refrigerators or stoves or lights or computers or internet or phones. No electricity for restaurants or gas stations or grocery stores. People panic when the power goes off for a few hours. What will it be like when your kid is 30?

[Anonymous]

If you’re really that concerned then just put your mind at ease and freeze some of your eggs. But 18-24, you’ve got a lot of time left. I think in that age range you start feeling intimidated because for some reason that’s when you’re seeing a lot of your friends having kids, but don’t let fomo push you into parenthood. I’m not a parent but watching my friends and fam struggle, not be able to afford things for their kids like doctor visits, general dentist checkups and having to get gold caps put on their teeth or have the tooth pulled entirely, clothes, shoes, food. Plus your own personal payments, varying bills. Then you get older, they have more expensive requests to align with what their peers have, tablets, the cool shoes and clothes, extracurricular activities, holiday trips so they don’t have to feel left out when they go back to school and everyone is talking about their vacations. The list goes on and on lol. Don’t do it til you’re really ready! It’s a lot to sign up for.

[Guy13]

You are way to young to be pressured about having a baby. If you were 26 and unmarried with the prospect of being married at 30 and baby at 33 THEN that would be pressure of the worst kind. Chill out and make a career for yourself.

[Robbey]

It’s not uncommon at all. The good news is, if you’re 18-24, you easily have 20+ years of time left. That’s more than enough time to plan and prepare for a pregnancy AND if you’re so inclined, it’s plenty time to plan/prepare for more pregnancies if you want more than one child.

[Wise4myage]

Don't be silly, you still have lots of time.

[Fanfare690]

Don't do itttt 18-24