Is it okay to raise your child with the knowledge that they can still come to you for anything even once they’re 18 or pass that age?

[Anonymous]

I feel like raising your child to believe or think that once you’re 18 and older, you shouldn’t come to your parents for anything or need them for anything anymore because they “Did their job” is kind of not reality because they’re gonna face hardships more as they get older. hardships they didn’t face or have to face when they were younger and still being cared for by their parents or parent and sometimes they’re not gonna be able to just figure it out on their own. They’re gonna need assistance. What’s the point of adults being older and wiser if they feel they no longer need to help and guide you once you’re 18? I’m not talking about thirty year olds still free loading and living off/with their parents but I’m taking about the ones who are trying to make it happen without their parents. Young adults whi are trying to create a life/reality of their own without/outside their parents or parent but they may need advice from time to time, motivation or they may need to borrow money to get a jump start on what they’re trying to achieve.

[WaterIsland]

It’s not that black and white. And there is no “right” or “wrong” way to do it.


I believe raising your children to be self sufficient is important. However, that doesn’t mean that you won’t ever support them after the fact. Could I survive without my parents? Yes, I could. Do I still ask them for advice sometimes? Yes I do.


It doesn’t mean completely cutting them off. Everyone needs help and support at times throughout their life. Even when you’re old. Nursing homes exist for a reason.


But it’s important to realize that you won’t live forever. So it’s important that they are self sufficient and able to help themselves outside of your support. If they can do that and realize that, then providing that first line of support is totally ok in my opinion. For me if I couldn’t get advice and stuff from my parents anymore, I have a lot of friends and such who could fill that gap.

[exitseven]

My kids still come around when they need help with a problem. Itt doesn't matter how old they get they will still be my kids.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[jennifer_bloom]

My cousin had rich parents and she worked 14 hour days cause she wanted respect and social status and boyfriends and power. It was always a social benefits privilege for her to be rich, not a security threshold. She knew she would always be secure.

[Anonymous]

I'd never leave my child or anyone I love around you

[Wise4myage]

I think its perfectly fine.