Abusive mother was to reconnect and be better, do you do it?

[MemeSupreme]

let's just say your abusive mother you haven't seen in years tries reconnecting with you again (you shut them down last time) but you're considering it so you can just move on with your life by forgiving them and having a relationship

thing is you also risk just getting hurt all over again despite knowing better

Yes

No

I don't know

[Sparkie460]

What is your heart and your gut telling you to do? We don't know your mother or what she did to you. Would you feel comfortable meeting with her again or would you rather close the door and never look back?

We all can tell you, yes you should or no you shouldn't but you have to make the final decision. Don't go by the majority of the responses, go by your gut and your heart.

[MemeSupreme]

thats true, but i was thinking at least one person on here would've been in the same situation before so i was curious what that person would say.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I wouldn't do it, go by your own gut feeling and if things come out not good I would go by your feelings.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thank you for MHO :-)

[annabananna]

It depends on how abusive type of abuse and why. If it was on the level of it being dangerous I would not reconnect but if it was something like she said verbally abusive and hurtful things while on drugs and she is no longer on drugs I’d give it a second chance.

[Nikki1989]

I have seen my mother only once in the last 20 years, and even that was too much. I don't even know where she lives now, and I am more than happy about that.

[Mynameisbobby]

Nope!! As far as I'm concerned she had her chance. She reached out to me when I was 13 my uncle had adopted me at that, he said no way and I didn't want to see her anyway. I don't care if I never see her or my sister ever again!!

[Anonymous]

Best to not, but it‘s clearly up to you, better keep a good distance with her if you wanna reconnect with her

[EaterPeter]

Counseling?

[MemeSupreme]

do you mean my mom and i go to counseling?

[EaterPeter]

Yes ma'am or you go by yourself

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for like!

[EaterPeter]

It's not working for me I am willing to give it a shot if you are willing to join counseling

[EaterPeter]

But are you willing to give it a shot?

[MemeSupreme]

i go to therapy, but i don't know if i would go to counseling with her or if she even would too. also, it's been 4 years since we've seen each other, and i think it might be too much to start off whatever our new relationship would be with that. it could have to be something to do if i know she's changed

[EaterPeter]

I think counseling works better when both parties involved are there. I would want to give it a shot depends on my past.

[EaterPeter]

What is there to loose you two already live separate lives. I would recommend online counseling with lasting app.