Does this make you feel invalidated?

[Anonymous]

Or makes you feel like you’re not allowed to feel that way?

If someone asks you how you’re doing, and you say you’re tired or not feeling great, and they reply with “yeah you’re not the only one” and then proceed to say that they feel worse than you do for whatever reason, how does that make you feel? It always makes me feel like they’re telling me that my feelings aren’t valid because they feel worse, and that I have no reason to complain.

[Andres77]

There are a few guys in my social Circle who are like this. I told my daughters about the “20 second rule”.

Whenever you speak to them if they can’t make it to 20 seconds without them turning that whole conversation about them… they’re probably not going to be a very good friend to you

[Asker]

That’s a great rule

[Andres77]

It’s consistent as well. Every time

[Mynameisbobby]

My mother and sister always did that to me, It made me feel like I was unimportant and didn't matter.

[Wise4myage]

No, not at all. It might make me feel a bit better.

[Asker]

How so?

[Wise4myage]

By focusing on the positive.

[Asker]

What’s the positive in this interaction? I’d like to understand so that I can try to change my own outlook on it.

[Wise4myage]

Because you don't feel as bad as they do?

[MementoMori777]

Not invalidated but it would make me wonder why tf they ask then

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I have a cousin who is always the one who has things worst

[EaterPeter]

Yes. Sounds like it.