I have a friend who always judge people just based on looks. She always describes it with some horrible words, like “if I looked like her I’d kill myself”, or even worse. She curse people a lot, and make fun of them.
She would tell me those very mean things about others, and curse them or mock on them.
Lately she’s been talking about one girl (I’ll call her A), she told me how ugly she thinks A is, in very rude and mean way. She even tell me that she wanna make all of us start to shun A and even bully her, which I really can’t stand.
I really just don’t understand why she can take the word “bully” in such an easy way, as if it’s just a game? And I don’t like the way she judges people. All of these make me feel really bad.
I’ve tried to change her mind in rather soft ways, but nothing worked. I know her well so I’m pretty sure if I just directly tell her what I think about this she’s be pissed, and we’ll no longer be friends…… I still like her as a friend, just the point that she’s so mean I can’t accept.
I just hope that she can stop being like this and be nice to people, but I don’t dare to do so. What should I do? I’m really praying for her……. Seeing her being mean to people make me feel really bad, also the fact that I haven’t done anything to keep things from being worse. I should tell her, but I’m really afraid she’ll be mad at me.
She would tell me those very mean things about others, and curse them or mock on them.
Lately she’s been talking about one girl (I’ll call her A), she told me how ugly she thinks A is, in very rude and mean way. She even tell me that she wanna make all of us start to shun A and even bully her, which I really can’t stand.
I really just don’t understand why she can take the word “bully” in such an easy way, as if it’s just a game? And I don’t like the way she judges people. All of these make me feel really bad.
I’ve tried to change her mind in rather soft ways, but nothing worked. I know her well so I’m pretty sure if I just directly tell her what I think about this she’s be pissed, and we’ll no longer be friends…… I still like her as a friend, just the point that she’s so mean I can’t accept.
I just hope that she can stop being like this and be nice to people, but I don’t dare to do so. What should I do? I’m really praying for her……. Seeing her being mean to people make me feel really bad, also the fact that I haven’t done anything to keep things from being worse. I should tell her, but I’m really afraid she’ll be mad at me.
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