For instance I would have to be a complete idiot to steal my family's entire savings and then put a pikachu surprised look if I'm banned forever from family reunions, father disinherits me and I lose everything. My mother would be the only one talking to me (in private) and everything would be awkward. No way. I want to keep all my family ties, still have the ''dad's girl that can't do any wrong'' treatment and be grateful to have my family. But honestly nope, I don't steal overall.
I've seen so many stories of betrayals, whether it's coming from an spouse, a friend, a colleague or even your own family members. Why do those people play the dice by betraying someone but then expect not to lose everything, for all to be ok again? That's like speeding your car against a tree and being surprised you can't ever walk again.
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That sounds reasonable, but I get the feeling there’s something you’re not telling us. Like you’re talking about some very specific intent that probably isn’t as clear cut as you’d like us to believe.
That's just an example of a type of betrayal that exists in real life cases. I just don't understand how some people do things that severs someone's trust so much but then expect to be forgiven and not to suffer any consequences.
You raise a good point. What made you think of this?
I've read of a story about a young woman getting disowned by her father for betraying him. Then she gets surprised when he also took her out of his will too. She played stupid games and won stupid prizes. She gambled it all and lost everything.
Huh. I guess she could contest the will after he died, but that won’t bring his love back.
Yeah, she really screwed up royally. It doesn't sound like she care about the money. She wanted his love back but it's been now 10 years since she's been disowned. Ouch
That really sucks for her. But I see your point that it’s her own fault. How did she betray him?
She knew her mom was cheating on dad, then took pictures of herself, her mom and the mom's AP (affair partner) in the park celebrating and it doesn't just end there. She would speak with the mom's AP, talked bad about her own father (called him an ape and other nasty things), said she was even glad her dad's mother (paternal grandmother) was dead and even wished the mom's AP was her father. She was also after the dad's money and expressed how she didn't love her father, nor like him.
Then obviously the poor dude finds those horrible text messages on her daughter's phone one day and she makes that surprised pikachu face and expects forgiveness afterwards.
Okay that’s pretty bad
Indeed and then on that horrible day she even spends her b-day with the mother and the AP, celebrating. Last thing I heard that after nearly 10 years or so, the dude has resumed limited contact with his daughter (only through email for the meantime) and wants to help her with her education. The girl is in therapy session, claims to have changed but the father isn't very trusting.
Yes that's horrible. I can't imagine trashing my dad like that. He might not be the best dad ever but damn, who does that?
Based on what you’ve told me, I agree
thats a good question, a type of narcissistic behavior or thought i guess
Exactly. The thing is when they get caught, all of the sudden they are very sorry, they want everything to be ok again and not to lose everything.
Seriously if I did that... that's exactly the equivalent of driving your car against a tree but then start crying if you can't ever walk again. My father's only condition is ehtics/loyalty towards one's own family because you don't even have that, then you don't have any reedeming qualities whatever, you have zero value.
people lack loyalty nowadays, not everyone but a lot and they do bad things to people and expect people not to separate, i would assume cause they never had it done to them
Ironically my father would defend me if I did something wrong towards someone that's not my family (a random person) or destroy my ex boyfriend. Heck he even said ''Even if you were to shoot your ex boyfriend, I can always say I saw nothing''. In his mind, even thugs and some criminals have a moral code too and some might harm others but not mess with their own family.
I agree loyalty is indeed a rare trait these days, even though that doesn't take much effort at all. It's so simple. How hard can not betraying those close to you be?
apparently very hard to most people cause they seem to flake people they claim to love but yea crazy world nowadays anon, gotta be cautious with who you trust i guess