I'm only 14, but my mom treats me as if I am an adult. I'm the oldest of 3 and am mainly responsible for all the cleaning. My mom is quite literally a hoarder and has an amazon shopping addiction, but I try my best to keep the house clean for my siblings, spendimg days on each room, and even cleaning their bedrooms. There is only so much I can do though, as the basement and office are crammed to the rim with boxes and various items.
My mom refuses to get rid of stuff, creating an extremely crowded and stressful environment for everybody. She often hits me untill I'm into a corner on the floor, making fun of how I look crying and saying things like "you shouldn't be the one crying, I should" and "why are you only thinking about your emotions and how you feel right now". She gets angry at me for cleaning wrong, or not completing a room in one day, even though I go out of my way to help clean up HER mess. But the next day, she's calm and sweet, as if nothing happened, I bring up bruises and she confidently says I deserved it. NEVER once in my life has she apologized. One time, when I was 12, she kicked me out for a night and wouldn't let me stay on the property. I had to sleep In an alleyway like I was homeless.
She tells me her life was better with me not born, wakes me up in the middle of the night to beat me for taking her lotion, refuses to by my hygiene products, but explodes when I take money to buy them (I have no income) or borrow hers.
She is extreemly insecure and narsaccistic, constantly belittling me and the work i do and comparing it to the work she does. But she is SOOO FREAKING LAZY. She doesn't get out of bed for days and lays down and gets fat eating candy and chips and ordering packs of 50 lintrollers and other shit we dont need.
My eyes are constantly swollen from all the crying and my siblings don't receive the same abusive treatment. I don't know what to do or where to go from here and I am extremely confused. Please help.
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If this is all real (a lot of dudes pretend being girls on here), then call CPS. It will be an easy case for them and I would start taking pictures of your injuries or try recording the audio of when she is abusive. Good luck with that if you go down that road and I hope the best for you.
Also, just know that life does eventually get better, as I've known a few people who were in a similar situation to you, yet life is working out A LOT better for them. They struggled for a couple of years, but it got better. However, here's advice if you do not go down that road.
I would try gradually saving money and getting soon as you can. A big thing I learned from those friends is that they wished they started working earlier, so that they would've been a lot more ready for having moved out at 18/19. You also could try sharing rent with friends after high school. I know it's a bit early to be thinking about, but people start bringing up the idea of that in junior/senior year of high school.
Thank you:) I will get a job as soon as it is legal.
Call Child Protection Service (CPS) and let them know everything.
Not really best case situation here have u got other family or worst case contacting child services
Nothing u can do will fix her also don't be confused calling cps has nothing to do with loving her or not right now u are being abused their is no two ways about it what u are being made to live with is the type of behaviour that will effect u later on in life and us not what kids should grow up with