I’m so sad that my grandparents are moving to assisted living?

[Anonymous]

Makes me think of how much time has gone by :(

She has worsening dementia and cannot take care of herself. He was okay until around the holidays and then most of this year has wanted someone from the family at their house at all times and doesn’t seem to be able to do the things he did last year. So my mom arranged for them to move to an assisted living and memory care place. I mean the apartment there is just a fraction of the size of their house, and I’ve been going to their house for My entire life. It’s the one thing that has never changed… makes me sad and I hate the idea of having to sell it and other people living there. And it hits especially hard because this makes it feel like the final stage of their lives. Worried they won’t see me get married or know any children I might have 😔 I’m not with anyone

Updates

10 mo

And they used to come over to my moms house almost every week. Not anymore. I miss those visits.

And I have big dreams. I’ve done okay in my career these last bunch of years but I haven’t done what I wanted to by now …

[MORPHEUS_12]

I am sorry that this has happened to your grandparents. Based on what you said they might need more care and round-the-clock supervision. An assisted living home has assistants to help with a few things but the main goal is to still be as independent as possible with that said the average patient only stays in assisted living establishments for 28 months before they need to be transferred to a medical-based nursing home for the remainder of their lives. My recommendation is to visit with them as long as you can. They likely need the sell of the house in order to afford their care. Best wishes.

[Asker]

No. We’re not sending them to a nursing home. That’s a death sentence.

[AviatorTom]

Yes, it's sad. I know how you feel. An elderly couple (my cousins) were like a second family to me. A few years ago, she developed dementia, and passed away 2 years later, followed by her husband 18 months after she died.

Rather than think of the things they will miss, think of the good times you all had together.