My mom wants me to stop dating my boyfriend because of his tattoos?

[Anonymous]

Hi, I’ve never seeked advice on the internet before but i’m at my wits end here. Some context before the scenario: I’m a 27 year old female, fresh out of University with a job. My boyfriend’s 28, but well into the industry. We’re both designers. I do graphics and marketing while he focuses on UX/UI. We’ve been dating for a couple of months now in secret to my family. I’ve never introduced anyone formally to my parents because of my strict household. Being 27, i have a curfew of 1130pm. I’ve decided to tell my parents because i didn’t want to tiptoe around them any longer. He’s a wonderful man with a good job, an income, kind, whole hearted, nice, funny and all the good buzzwords you can think of. He’s heavily tattooed. My guy has a full sleeve + some other large pieces scattered on his legs + torso. I decided to break the news to my mom while i was at work and her response prior to the tattooed portion was positive until i mentioned the tattoos. She immediately told me to end the relationship and that he’s a bad person. Completely ignoring all my statements and have stopped speaking to me since. My father has taken the news slightly better, telling me it’s my life and it’s my call but understands my mother is extremely upset. I don’t intend to leave my guy over my mother’s disapproval but i can’t help but to feel upset over her nasty comments and inability to get to know him as a person first. What are your thoughts?

[Honest-Matt]

A golden rule you can take through life is that any time someone's opinion starts with something negative, disregard it completely NO MATTER WHO it may be. Because they either don't know what they're talking about, have nothing real to say about it, or have ulterior intentions that aren't considerate of what's best for you. Take your father for example, he's open and reasonable.

You are 27 and he's 28, you both are well into the age of marriage and children let alone allowing other people influence your life decisions. I would do what YOU feel is right for YOUR life and relationship.

[AndreaH]

I think this is wrong. Just because it's negative don't mean it's wrong

[molonski2]

Look personally I dislike tattoos , BUT - you are 27 , he is 28 , its up to you , it has nothing to do with your mother , even if you decided you want a tattoo you can go get it ! If this is a serious question? Then its time to really stand up to her.

[DermalPunch]

I side with mom. I have known, dealt with and lived with quite a few heavily tattooed people and they were 100% of the time a hot mess. Some are intelligent well-read people but their disturbances come out eventually.

[EricSummer]

He's a designer, though, which means he's a creative person. I think you have to make allowances for that. People pay a certain price for their talents and creativity often makes you a bit unstable.
One has to see the individual person.

[DermalPunch]

@EricSummer I know what I know. Tattooed people are always off.

[kespethdude]

So you say an ADULT has no right to decide who to go out with? Get the fuck off the Internet, chomo.

[Paris13]

You are a 27 Year Old female who is AN ADULT. If You Love him and See nothing Wrong so Far in Him, Your Mom who is Bias, Needs to Accept Him or Lose Her Daughter. Put a Carrot Over Her Nosy Nose. Or she Goes... xxoo

[Paris13]

Thanks to Gag. xxoo

[richardcory]

Unless they are prison white supremacists' tattoos, I don't see why your family cares.

Separately though, you are 27 and maybe its time you lived on your own so you can life your life as you wish. Not being harsh - but at your age no one should be giving you are curfew. You need to take charge of your own life

[JackCarter]

Any mature person should be knowing that Tattoos have no effect on whether a guy is good or bad..
If you trust him enough, just ignore your mothers opinion...
Mothers can't be upset on their children for long... she will eventually be happy for you.

[genericname85]

i think there is some to it. like there's certain things that you'll more likely encounter with someone who has tattoos than not. like them not being loyal, being dishonest, higher likelyhood for criminal activity and drugs. so i think your mom is not wrong about being scared and not wanting that for you.

tho realisticly, you gotta somehow figure out if this is a good partner for you or not. and you gotta know for yourself if the dispute with your mom is worth it...

[Likes2drive]

She thinks that he is a thug, biker or criminal because that’s who had tattooed bodies years ago before it became popular as art on younger generations bodies so it’s different now and she doesn’t realize that. I get it , and even my daughters have some so you can’t really judge someone with tattoos now

[kespethdude]

You're 27 years old, a legal adult. Therefore your mother has no business telling you who to date, period. If you love him, date him anyway. Also, only a pedophile would push this "respect your elders" bullshit anyway.

[WhitneySnow]

You need to focus on the fact that you love him. If your mom can’t deal with that that’s her problem.

[kylee2437]

Your mother is judgmental. Don’t listen to her and date who you want. I have tattoos , lots of them and I work my ass off

[Christoff92]

That being bias. Your mother can't conduct your dating life. His tattoos cause a offense and his tattoos cause a crime. Also his tattoos cause unattraction. So just permanent body paint nothing else like the individual mindset. Nice 😐

[ButthurtGAGpeople1]

Yikes

I mean, if you're dating him BECAUSE of his tattoos, then I agree with her, but, to just not date him simply because he has tattoo's, that's a little harsh, isn't it?

[CreatingWonders]

You’re 27? You’re an adult, you don’t have to listen to your mother anymore, if you and this guy get on and are happy together then be with him, your mum isn’t dating him YOU are, just ignore her.

[Anonymous]

Live your life, not the life your mother wants you to live.

[Anonymous]

Maybe it is time to make a present to your mother... a big dildo so she can go fuck herself and this is sugar coated. Not her life but yours, it is simple be true to your heart and what your soul tells you.

[Avicenna]

She's out of line and it's your life

[gothbxtch]

yikes. i would be extremely upset if i were you

[Anonymous]

Your family are retarded.