The clock is ticking, you want kids, but have been unlucky in love. What would you do?

[Anonymous]

You're out of prospects, and low on confidence. But you're not getting any younger, and family is wondering if you'll ever settle down. You'd love to, but it never happens. Something seems to always be in the way.

Surrender to fate? Do something crazy/desperate? How do you handle it?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Y’all don’t think you can adopt or foster? Like tons of people haven’t abandoned their kids to the system? You could try a surrogate but that’s super expensive, it’s also possible for a woman to just do in-vitro with a sperm donor but that’s also pretty pricey. Foster parents get paid to look after the kids and they would need a real place to call home and get comfortable before you get to a place where you can feel okay with adopting them.


Or just get a dog, they have the intelligence of a toddler forever.

[Anemone978]

Personally if I was absolutely desperate for a child I would probably hook up with a clean hot guy and just have his kid. I would tell him so he knows about it but he wouldn't need to pay or be in our life.

[HawkPerception]

You're 36-45 years. For a guy it doesn't matter too much. Robert De Niro and Al Pacino are having kids at their late ages. If you want a girl around your age to have kids the possibility is still there, but lower.

My personal opinion is you should focus on finding love first and worry about kids later. If you find love, then kids becomes the second priority and not a necessity in life. I have faith you'll figure things out. Keep your head up!

[Kaamraj]

A man should not be having such thoughts as we are not subject to the same biological limitations on our reproductive system as women. Dating has progressively become harder for men because of social media and dating apps. If you really want to have children and a family then I'd suggest becoming a "passport bro" moving to a good Asian Country and starting a family there.

[lumos]

My friend just got a sperm donor and she's now single and pregnant. Above all else she wants to be a mom, and I respect the fact that she was brave enough to make the decision to go about it on her own, since we're heavily conditioned to believe that parenting is "supposed" to be a two-person job.

[lumos]

Adopting is also always an option. If there's a will, there's a way.

[Davidbrooks]

At your age try and be a sperm doner. You will get a girls pregnant only issue is your sperm will go to more than one family and when they turn 18 they can track you down. Or you can choose to be in the child's life sooner. But check the laws in your country.

[Midnight_Kiss]

First of all, you don't need to have kids to settle down, you can have a fulfilling life without reproducing, so who cares what family or others think.

Secondly not all women can bare children, similarly not all men have active swimmers so there are things in place such as adoption or surrogacy that could be considered if you felt you needed to have a child.

[Anonymous]

The world does not need any more children right now. The world population was 6 billion in 2000 and is 8 billion now, in just 20 years. In 1900 it was 1.5 billion. We can't take any more people! Couples having 3, 4, 5 children and multiplying the population every day. It's ridiculous!

[Asker]

We do need more children. What we don't need, are elitists trying to micromanage everything. They're the ones who instigate pointless wars, burn healthy chickens to a crisp to create artificial egg shortages, and commit other acts of terrorism behind the color of law.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Overpopulation is a myth.

[chadbdullah]

Do nothing because you can never just logic your way out of emotional stuff just objectively analyze yourself, what makes you yourself for example and than keep your head up for a possible match of your identity, the characteristics you got what I mean. Just love yourself and be rational, you can only achieve the things you want if you convince both your emotions and brain so find reasons and do the causes and give it a time

[Anonymous]

I think people need to stop worrying about their biological clock. I was told over 5 years ago my ovaries were messed up and I would not be able to ever fall pregnant I cried and mourned but eventually accepted i wouodnt ever be a mum and bam at the age of 36 I was left very shocked when I fell pregnant and went on to have a healthy baby.

[thatshydork]

Adopt, foster, or even possibly get a surrogate. However, since it says you’re a male between the ages of 36-45, I wouldn’t worry too much. When I was born, my dad was 42 and my mom was 37/38ish.

[lightbulb27]

Tale some bold moves and changes. Try finding in another country. Do things youve never done to find new circles of people. Study those whom are successful.

[hello123456789]

Bro... just chase the bag man. There are always more fish in the sea.

But at your age... it wouldn't be too bad of an idea to try a match making service.

[provokeesmokee]

Adopt.

If I'm too old to give birth (or birth is risky), I'd consider adoption.

In reality, I wouldn't. Because I'm childfree.

[In_Trance]

Children should not even be on the radar but getting your priorities straight definitely should be.
The only thing that's ever in the way is your own mentality.
Work on developing your social skills don't worry about anything else

[bolverk]

You could try adoption/foster but as a single male you'd be very low on an adoption agency's list, or employ a surrogate but that would depend on your countries law

[TheSpaceGnome]

I don't want kids, but if I did, I'd be patient.

It's not like I'm going to run out of sperm.

[jwmiller95]

In vitro fertilization, adoption, have a surrogate are other options or find a hot mate and take their seed

[Raaj4you]

The clock is ticking and I can't wait anymore. I am desperate to find a sweet girl and impregnate her.

[serious_miss419]

It all boils down to how to treat a potential mother of your kid (s).

[peterrezeeek]

i want kids but i should be stronger to spend money on them..

[Simslover92]

Artificial insemination.

[Asker]

I don't think the sperm bank would want a deposit from me. I'm not exactly the epitome of every fantasy by the women who can afford those places.

[Simslover92]

Don't sell yourself short. You're probably more than what you think you are.

[DaBiggestBird]

I do t need a girlfriend to get cats.

[Anonymous]

I'd go to a sperm bank

[DreamLife7]

Sir you sound depressed lol 😆 😂. This post omg

[gothbxtch]

sperm donor.

[Massageman]

adopt.

[normandi]

Get a dog