Why are people so comfortable with trauma dumping these days?

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Lost42 · Accepted Answer

I think people like to share their personal experiences. I also think that people especially people who have had a lot of trauma, spill. The world becomes too much and the words just come out when you feel like you can trust someone.

People used to not talk about taboo subjects like rape, molestation, abuse it was considered impolite to make people feel uncomfortable in this way. It is also why I 1 in 3 women have been sexually assaulted by age 15. People count on silence to hurt people especially children. Male and female or however you identify.

I say keep talking to people you know and trust. Normalize healthy interactions however not everyone needs details or names. Always be aware that someone could use this information against you and the part that could come back to hurt you is in those details.

Share if you need to share, however if it is just a one off with my trauma is bigger than yours that is a whole other form of competition. And, this I do find gross.

And, anyone who would intentionally share your trauma with the purpose of hurting you make sure you never speak to them again accept for perhaps a nice 'weathers nice' reply if they are unavoidable.

VIVANT · Accepted Answer

I think the fact people don’t fee comfortable sharing stuff irl but there’s a lot of trauma and SM is an avenue to express yourself openly without exposing yourself to someone who knows you, it’s kind of the best of both worlds. SM makes easier, I don’t think it’s causing people to want to talk about stuff, it’s just making it possible. And Don’t mean people so just do it for internet clout.

I am private and I’m not comfortable talking about personal stuff to friends irl, but while I don’t openly post stuff on threads, I do talk to people on line privately as they prob know more about how I feel as what I think than anyone I know irl. It’s liberating for me bc otherwise I never talk about stuff. And I hear a ton of stuff from other people too. Everyone kinda understands it’s something we can do so why not. 🤷🏻‍♀️

also some people info dump trains or otherwise, it’s just how they talk and it’s not so popular, so they are more likely to talk on line where you eat similar communication styles.

BCRanger10 · Accepted Answer

I think probably a combination of both social media and loneliness.

Everyone is now a public figure with social media. Everyone's life is an open book, if that's how they use it. I'd think that it's just easier to find other people to connect with who would be understanding of what someone is going through. Plus, it's cheaper and more convenient than therapy.

BCA6010 · Accepted Answer

It's because social media has made people lonely/deprived of proper social relationships and experiences, and on a related note, perceived victimhood carries clout, according to some- When have you ever met someone willing to admit that they've had a good life?

petitedollbabee · Answer

Because they’re seeking a connection. I don’t see how it’s got anything to do with social media though. I used to be really bad with trauma dumping, and I’d only do it because I was lonely and I was in a rush to make a proper connection with someone. I would like it when people would trauma dump to me aswell. I know these days that a trauma bond isn’t healthy, and I’m not going around trauma dumping anymore, I had too many people use my information against me, which was my own fault for sharing it with anyone.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I hate when people are too closed off and take forever to open up. I dont have time to play 21 questions. Like just tell me what you want me to know or lets move on. So i personally prefer a person whose very open to discussing whatever whenever rather than waiting. I dont think it has anything to do with social media bt just how comfortable you feel around somebody. If you meet a good listener then thats kinda who you wanna open up to

TadCurious · Answer

Bella maybe it's because they think they have someone who will be their emotional tampon. They probably have an intuitive sense of whom they can soak with all of their stuff. And then they can discard that person at some point. At least that's the Urban Dictionary idea.
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Fuentes · Answer

I think people are just weird lol if it's started like that I got no issue telling people about how I grew up fucked up cause its common but I don't do it in the type. of feel bad for me kinds way and I don't see it as truma I see it as it happen hahaha

dolemite58 · Answer

people are encouraged to talk about their problems way too openly now 😂 like talking about their mental health. There needs to be more stoicism like the good old days.

Anonymous · Answer

Because people are encouraged to open up more. So many people kill themselves because they keep things bottled up. If someone trauma dumping on me is the reason they choose to stay alive then I’ll always be all ears. I have a lot of trauma that I’ve kept to myself and haven’t spoken to people about, I assume it must be incredibly weight lifting to tell someone about it.

AaronKrieger · Answer

- Mental health is focused too much on
- A lot of TV Shows/Movies romanticize trauma and mental health isuses
- People aren't being taught good coping methods
- Social media does make people lonelier ironically

Agape93 · Answer

I'm open to discussing trauma usually, to destigmatize it for others. I get nothing out of it for myself.

Anonymous · Answer

The internet has conscience. Which means you can unburden your soul about anything, both while suffering no consequences and receiving deep condemnation at the same time.

To quote Bank from Jay and Silent and silent Bob strike back, "that's what the internet if for, slandering others anonymously".

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Trauma dumping does not work - It erases all your good qualities and makes you nothing beyond a depressed and angry victim

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

People could be suffering with mental illness and just do things because they're not being treated with therapy and medication, and /or they could just be lonely.

Viktor001 · Answer

As a warning or to see if you care, I don't know. I only open up about my trauma or depression if the person is helping me or when I am trying to help someone.

Anemone978 · Answer

probably because they can't talk to anyone in RL about it..

exitseven · Answer

I don't know. It is weird that everyone has PTSD and everyone is on anti depressants. People need to suck it up.

WhitneySnow · Answer

I think it’s because of social media but I’m definitely not like that

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

You get trauma when you get your leg blown off in war or your buddy's head explodes in your lap in a car wreck. Watching your loved one die of an incurable disease. Daddy didn't love you? that's not trauma, you're just a pussy.

Alli39 · Answer

Pretty sure trauma dumping outdates social media by several centuries, if not millennia lol. They just didn't call it that.

AmeerX · Answer

Have a heart, if someone told you about there life, please don't judge them as weaklings

Anonymous · Answer

Just avoid guys that have relationship trauma. It's their fault for not getting out of the relationship anyway.

Anonymous · Answer

Because they are narcissistic and self-obsessed. They believe that being a victim gives them greater credibility and importance.

Jersey2 · Answer

Its brings them attention.

gothbxtch · Answer

they should be in my opinion

jahaims · Answer

It's more socially acceptable

Beautyblossom2 · Answer

It's one of their selling points

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