If you or your significant other got pregnant at 56, would you keep the baby?

[Sitaraxx]

One of my mum's sisters just announced she's pregnant, at 56 years old. Mind you, they've got 4 older kids. Two of whom are married with kids of their own.

Even if I hadn't hit menopause yet, I think I would be too embarrassed to have another child at that age. But I can see the benefits.

Yes.. it's a blessing

No, we're too old

[nastyb]

if she honestly cared for the baby, she would abort it. because there is no way she would be able to raise that child. she would be retired by the time the kid is still less than 10 years old. how is this kid going to attend college? what sort of childhood would she able to provide this child? how is this child going to turn out? is it fair to intentionally create a child who can't function like a normal human being? we already have enough kids with disabilities, learning disorders, mental illnesses.

[inhua]

"if she honestly cared for the baby, she would abort it"

that's the complete opposite of caring

[Sitaraxx]

well my aunt's got a big family who COULD look after the baby should anything happen to her. of course at 56 she's still healthy and active so thats unlikely. Not sure why you think at 56, you think women automically become decrepit and immobilized. She'll provide the same childhood she did for her other 4 kids.

and she didn't intentionally create the baby. accidents happen especially when in your late 50s and it is assumed to be harder to get pregnant.

[nastyb]

@Sitaraxx

I never talked about who could look after the baby. I am talking about who would be supporting the kid for the next 25 years up and throughout college? she's on the brink of retirement!! How is she going to raise this child being retired? The kid wouldn't even be 10 years old before she retires. Employers can force you to retire even if you dont want to especially if your cognition isn't working like it used to. Will this child just not have the opportunity to obtain a higher education so it can obtain a decent job when it grows up?

This is an extremely important to the future welfare of the child.

Not only the fact that the mother wouldn't have the energy or playfulness to provide this kid a great fun childhood.

There are many things that can go wrong birthing at that age

[Sitaraxx]

she's not on the brink of retirement though. she's got a husband who works as well and kids who provide for them
you dont even know what their situation is

[nastyb]

@Sitaraxx

her husband is likely older than her and retire earlier from her. What is likely going to happen is that they will be retired long before the child is grown. And they will find odd jobs to support this kid on the bare minimum. This kid will likely not be attending college. The child will on its own in many ways (especially mentally) way before it turns 18. Parenting is stressful and difficult for parents at any age but especially difficult for old parents. They will have a very hard time supporting the kid financially, mentally, physically and likely will be looking for every reason to eject the kid as soon as possible from their hands.

in order for a child to be successful, parents do need to continue paying for their kids past the age of 18. kids who are kicked out at 18 have an enormous rate of not doing well in life.

[Sitaraxx]

no, her husband is not older than her and likely to retire earlier. not sure why you're playing guess when I can tell you the answer.
A child can attend college happily without having parents to hold their hands all the time- it helps when they've got (also college educated!) older siblings as well to help out. Helps when the family is tight knit like OURS.

[Sitaraxx]

I can tell you come from a small family. You guys are probably not very close.

Only child?

[nastyb]

@Sitaraxx

no im not an only child.

i think that you're looking at this through rose colored glasses because she's your mother's sister.

there are a lot of consequences of having a baby at 56. And the child will be the only one to suffer.

no relative is gonna shell out 30,000 for a relative to go to college. Its not gonna happen. I have enough life experience to know.

and college is only possible if the child turns out ok. there is a pretty big chance that this might not happen.

[inhua]

by that logic, if you were diagnosed with an incurable cancer, it's better to just let you die instead of trying to save your life

[nastyb]

@inhua

birthing at 56 is the same as birthing a child with cancer. in this case, its better to have never been born than to suffer

[Sitaraxx]

suffer?
Parents are parents. You don't lose your inability to care and love as you age.

[inhua]

at least you're admitting someone's life is useless the moment they are diagnosed with an incurable illness

[nastyb]

@inhua

only you like to call disabled people "useless". I never called them useless.

its the fact that they have to suffer right from the moment they are born which makes it so wrong.

[nastyb]

@Sitaraxx

your egg quality does deterioriate through life so it impacts the offspring. you would have to pray to god that kid will come out fine.

yes you do lose your ability to care for someone as you age. you can't care adequately for someone else if you could barely care for yourself. thats why people need home health aides when they get old.

[Sitaraxx]

well then we'll have to see in 4 months time when she gives birth. Better that than kill the child.

And speak for yourself.. my grandma is 70 and she still cares, fusses over and loves on her great grandchildren. She lives with them.
You're probably the type to throw your parents in care homes once they reach a certain age

[nastyb]

@Sitaraxx

when parents get old... they lose their playfulness , sense of adventure and immaturity which makes them less capable of playing and having fun with their kids. Its especially hard taking care of a toddler when you can't chase after them or when your back hurts picking them up from the ground.

best bet is to give the kid over to adoption so that the kid can be raised by people who can actually provide the child a good childhood.

[Sitaraxx]

your parents perhaps. Not mine. sorry you don't have that sort of family

[Sitaraxx]

Again everything your saying is pretty subjective
Not all old people are the same.

[inhua]

you don't have to call them useless to act like they are useless

you would never date someone you consider useless may they be short, broke, ugly, disabled etc. and then you have the audacity to say men are the shallow ones

and you wonder why so many men commit suicide. many of them are deemed losers the moment they are born thanks to factors outside of their control

but abortion is just your way of culling these pre-determined losers and preventing them from ever existing in the first place

[nastyb]

@inhua

i never acted like they're useless.

only you acted like they're useless.

my point is... its morally wrong to put a child on earth just to torture them with disease

[nastyb]

@Sitaraxx

[Again everything your saying is pretty subjective
Not all old people are the same.]

MOST old people are the same. And its more likely that this will happen than not.

you're just afraid of it..

[nastyb]

@Sitaraxx

if you truly cared for the child, you would give it up for adoption so that a nice couple can provide the child a good education, decent upbringing. people who actually have the energy to raise children. These are things you can't provide for the kid.

[inhua]

@nastyb oh please. let a short, broke, ugly, disabled dude with some degree of autism approach you and you'd be calling the cops immediately if he doesn't leave within 3 seconds

I don't need to act. I'm speaking the truth. men with perceived negative traits are seen as useless in society much less useless to women

there is no moral right or wrong to someone or something being born. you might as well say that for all other animal species because they live a much shittier life than any human being

[nastyb]

@inhua

so what? men on GAG say they only date women in 20s. so now you're hating on women for rejecting you cuz you're short and broke.
hahaha no sympathy for you

[inhua]

@nastyb I ain't short or broke. you're upset I'm pointing out your preferences that make you look shallow because it destroys your narrative of only men being shallow

[nastyb]

@inhua

i was never upset. but i can definitely tell you're upset that women can also uphold their standards just like men.

[inhua]

I don't care if women uphold their standards. most of their prioritized standards are based on superficial factors anyway like height, money, status etc. not morals, ethics, values

if the court decisions were ruled by women, Ted Bundy would still be alive today murdering and raping them while innocent men like Donald Trump and Brett Kavanagh would be locked behind bars today and possibly executed

women are the ones who have issues with men wanting younger women, wanting virgins, wanting housewives, wanting femininity and they have plenty of labels to shame men with

[nastyb]

@inhua

just because you want a younger woman, it doesn't mean you can get her.

as far as I have seen, its usually the very rich men who can get significantly younger women. Not poor men like you.

big age gap relationships very rarely ever work out anyways. It has a very high fail rate

[inhua]

never once said anyone's wants ever come true.

feminists are the ones actively trying to change the world because of their own unhappiness, going as far as to indoctrinate young boys, demonize fathers, push for affirmative action hires and create fat acceptance campaigns that also exclude men alongside a dictionary full of slandering labels to shame people into thinking the same beliefs as them

[nastyb]

@inhua

nobody is demonizing men. men demonize themselves. men start wars, join gangs, beat their wives, commit over 90% of murders, use guns, 99% of rapists are men, men abandoning their children for single mothers to raise.

studies have proven men are more likely to be sociopathic and narcissistic. men are also more prone to anti social personality disorder.

[inhua]

"nobody is demonizing men"

oh that's funny given how schools are telling boys that masculinity is toxic and that they should apologize for being born male. sons are being deliberately targeted by the LGBTQ to become trans, husbands overwhelmingly lose everything in divorce from their own finances, assets and has to pay alimony even though modern women can pay for their own stuff, fathers having to pay child support even for kids that aren't there's and female criminals not being reported, included in stats and getting lower punishments for the exact same crime and don't get even me started on the MeToo movement and cancel culture. the only women they try to cancel is Candace Owens because she has the guts to speak on the truth about feminism

"studies have proven men are more likely to be sociopathic and narcissistic"

lol which studies? the world is literally catered towards women. every law, every invention, every action was made with the intention to create a comfortable world for women so much so that now any apparent flaws these days isn't "good enough"

[nastyb]

@inhua

of course people should cater to women. Without the work of single moms, you wouldn't be here today. Women are more important than men, they are Soley responsible for the continuation of the human species.

on the other hand, men are known for destroying humanity by killing people, starting wars, joining gangs, being violent. Take a look at crime data, vast majority of crimes are committed by men.
humanity should not cater to men.

women have proven themselves to be better people.

[nastyb]

@inhua

The researchers found that statistically men scored higher on personality tests for narcissism than women in every age group

www.cbsnews.com/.../

[nastyb]

One of the strongest findings in antisocial personality disorder research is its male preponderance, with a 3:1 ratio of men to women

www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/.../

Men are at greater risk of having antisocial personality disorder than women are.

www.mayoclinic.org/.../syc-20353928

[inhua]

lmao people should cater to women but feminists have to audacity to say we live in a patriarchy even though every time they scream, their issues are fixed with the exception of impossible fixes while men are told to shut up

most toxic men come from single moms. women don't get pregnant on their own and they sure love selecting these "toxic" men to breed with

"men are known for destroying humanity by killing people"

ah yes, such a moral high ground from the group who believes strongly in abortions and the killing of unborn babies

"women have proven themselves to be better people"

how so? by having the feminist media cover up their dirty tactics and brainwashing mindless morons into believe she is innocent even when she's guilty

[inhua]

CBS news never ceases to disappoint with their propaganda

[nastyb]

@inhua

[most toxic men come from single moms. women don't get pregnant on their own and they sure love selecting these "toxic" men to breed with]

toxic men dont come from single moms. toxic men comes from men who abandon their kids. single moms aren't the problem. she's doing the right thing by raising the child. there's no such thing as a single mom if the man didn't abandon his kids.

[ah yes, such a moral high ground from the group who believes strongly in abortions and the killing of unborn babies]

she would only have to kill a baby if the man fucked her and got her pregnant then left. way too many guys trick women into bed for sex then when she gets pregnant, he abandons his child.

[nastyb]

@inhua

[CBS news never ceases to disappoint with their propaganda]

its not only CBS news that says this. various studies from multiple sources also say the same thing. men are the inferior gender.

[inhua]

men are being kicked out of the household, not purposely abandoning their kids and still the government wants to hunt them down for child support despite restraining orders keeping the father away from the child

"too many guys trick women into bed for sex then when she gets pregnant, he abandons his child."

more like she tries to baby-trap him so she can gain access to his money and resources

[inhua]

"its not only CBS news that says this. various studies from multiple sources also say the same thing. men are the inferior gender."

non-existent studies from non-existent sources sure.

however there is no greater source than video footage on which gender is superior and inferior

www.youtube.com/results

[nastyb]

@inhua

[the government wants to hunt them down for child support despite restraining orders keeping the father away from the child]

most men don't want their kid anyways. why do you think there are so many single moms? cuz men never stay. courts know dads don't make good parents thats why they don't want men near children.

[more like she tries to baby-trap him so she can gain access to his money and resources]

nobody can baby trap you, if you made the decision to not use a condom. if you didn't use condom, you need to be responsible for you own kid.

[nastyb]

@inhua

cherry picking anecdotes aren't good sources. good sources are peer reviewed articles written by researchers supplied along with statistical data

[inhua]

men aren't allowed to stay thanks to the women filing restraining orders and lying to the judge that daddy molested the kids

and a woman did try to baby trap Drake once but he put hot sauce in his condom instead

[inhua]

video footage is far more reliable than numbers on a piece of paper

this is what the men went through

www.youtube.com/watch

and compare to this to the women but somehow men are the inferior gender?

www.youtube.com/watch

[nastyb]

@inhua

[men aren't allowed to stay thanks to the women filing restraining orders and lying to the judge that daddy molested the kids]

did you know 99% of registered sex offenders are men?

[and a woman did try to baby trap Drake once but he put hot sauce in his condom instead]

drake deserves to be baby trapped. he sleeps around way too much and has gotten girls pregnant in the past and he abandoned them.

[inhua]

[ did you know 99% of registered sex offenders are men? ]

what does that have to do with lying about someone being a sex offender? sex offenders are a small minority of the population. we're not talking about the guilty here, we're talking about the innocent

[ drake deserves to be baby trapped. he sleeps around way too much and has gotten girls pregnant in the past and he abandoned them. ]

where's the proof that he has gotten these girls pregnant? because they say so? perhaps these girls were sleeping around too much and just want Drake to be the financial support for them because he has the money

[midnightmoon05]

That would be so amazing!! Everyone would be so happy. Especially my two kids…they always tell me to have more kids lol. My second husband wants his own. So yeah, we are ready if it happens. It would add so much joy to our life and to our big family!

[Kelly6]

totally agree

[Drumlin2001]

I would be super pissed, considering I just got a vasectomy. Haven't had the test results yet but hope. it's worked. It'd possible it can reverse itself, would definitely want a DNA test

[exitseven]

I would definitely keep it, not even a question. I would make it work somehow. I didn;t need to retire anyway,

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[molonski2]

Look , she's pregnant , so she's fertile , I don't agree with abortion , but I also see both sides , I'd be very worried , but I'd go for it...

[Apple1996]

I wouldn't plan for a old pregnancy like that but if it was a accident then yes I'd keep the baby

[Christoff92]

Age is just a number. My old college teacher's father was 50 years old when she was born. He died at 75 when she was 25. So it's a blessing 😊

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't take care of the baby, but I would make sure that she gave birth to it, since abortion is murder, and if she does abort, I'll report her to the police.

[Sitaraxx]

Would you report yourself to the police for being an accessory to murder?
what woman would want to give birth to a baby that won't have a present father in their life? It's just as irresponsible as aborting the baby in the first place.

[Opinion Owner]

Nope, abandoning is less serious than murdering.

[Sitaraxx]

I disagree. You're just as guilty as the "murderer" in this case.

[Opinion Owner]

Nope, first degree murder is more serious than any other crime.

[molonski2]

But the father is around in this case is he not? Or just some dude having an empty?

[Sitaraxx]

@molonski2 he just said "he wouldn't take care of the baby"
so he doesn't plan on being around

[molonski2]

Oh , How old is he? If not a young guy going for an empty , then he's an arsehole , its his child.

[SnowedIn]

Totally yes. Will it be easy? No. Would we? Yes.

[Sitaraxx]

Would you be happy if your partner told you she was 56 and pregnant? or would you think "ah shit"? lol

[SnowedIn]

My first thought would be "oh shit".
My second thought would be "money and logistics".
My third thing would be hug her and grab a drink.

This is pretty recent in my mind. We had a hot weekend in new York a few months ago and despite her having had her tubes tied, she thought she might be pregnant. Those were my exact series of thoughts.

[Sitaraxx]

That's sweet

[SnowedIn]

Thank you!

[nastyb]

first thing that popped up on my mind was: how the fuck is she going to be able to raise the child when she is gonna be retiring soon?

[SnowedIn]

@nastyb... you're not wrong lol

[LazerBean]

As opposed to killing it? Ya.

[Flower7]

Yes I would, because I don’t believe in abortion.

[Kelly6]

i woould keep the baby

[FunkyMonkee]

Hell yes!!