Do people with a wealthy upbringing have a better attitude than people with a poor upbringing?

[Anonymous]

when I was a kid I was really poor. But I was grateful for the hand me down clothes, I was grateful for the soup my mom made everyday which consisted of canned goods that were given away, I was grateful for everything I was given because I knew what it was like to not have. The memory of having no water, no electricity, no food, no bed, no phone, no birthday parties, no Christmas gifts, none of that stuff made me feel grateful. I never judged anyone for what they didn’t have and I thought that my mindset was a good thing. My first boyfriend wasn’t rich, but his parents tried hard to give him the life they wanted him to have and they loved him. He wasn’t spoiled and he loved his family, but the culture shock of being around people like that made me get a new perspective on life afterwards. My best friend had a few hundred thousand dollars handed down to her before she even turned 18 and she is one of the kindest people I know. Its not because of anything she ever did for me because frankly I was always the more generous friend but it’s her attitude that I felt was really noticeable-just like my first boyfriend. I made a few more friends later in life-those who were obviously from wealthier families and loving homes. It hit me in my early 20s that although I had a positive attitude of gratitude that I had been severely neglected and I was missing out on something that all my friends seemed to have. I don’t even know if they notice it but I obviously noticed the difference in our outlooks on life. Rich people were kinder, more open and more friendly. I even looked at myself and noticed the stark difference in how I carried myself compared to my friends. I have my pride and I carry myself with dignity but I just don’t have that instinct as them. Frankly I think growing up with more gave them all better attitudes overall whereas I used to think I wanted my kids to understand the importance of hard work now I don’t. I want them to come from money too. Opinions?

[nastyb]

I grew up poor too but I climbed out of the generations of poverty by working hard on myself. One of the biggest things that I learned way too late in life is:

if you are poor , it means you haven't worked in yourself. America is the land of opportunity where kids attend public school for free, receive financial aid for college, plenty of low tuition colleges, free trade school training for young adults, free libraries, employers offering tuition assistance to their loyal employees. These are all LUXURIES that many other countries DO NOT HAVE.

If you cannot succeed even with all these resources, it means you have not looked hard enough into working on yourself. Borke people are broke for a reason. Rich people are rich for reason. People don't hold great paying jobs due to laziness. They worked hard to get good jobs. Great things in life do not come for free. you see that man driving that BMW? there is a good chance he worked his ass off for years to be able to afford that. Money does not grow on trees.

And to answer your question, why do wealthy people have better attitudes?

because wealthy people tend to be raised properly with class and do not mingle with low life criminal scum bags in ghettos. Poor people tend to be raised by unclassy people, live in bad neighborhoods, associate themselves with low lives.

[MrOracle]

It's largely up to the quality of the morals and values that were taught to them by their parents - regardless of the income level of those parents.

If you were to meet the parents of most of the awful people you've ever run across, and spent some time with them, you'd quickly realize that those parents were themselves terrible people with horrible morals and values and they passed those on to their children.

It really all starts in the home. There are rich people who are great, and rich people who are awful. There are poor people who are great, and poor people who are awful.

[ProbablyClueless]

Not necessarily. People with horrible attitudes occupy every income bracket.

[LiamJHayden]

People of any age or financial state can be kind or evil.