My friend thinks I do not want to hang out with him no more?

[Anonymous]

My friend and I use to hang out for hours everyday, and then I recently got busy with university as it is assessment and exam season. He also goes to university so I had assumed he would also be in the same dilemma. However, whenever he invited me to play a game with him I would have to decline because I had assessments. He got upset about it, so I met him half way and said I can play for 30 minutes. But that 30 minutes would be 3 hours because he wanted to play other games with me, and got upset if I left.

He kept making comments about me after that, saying "Why am I bothering to hang out with you?" and "You are so dumb", "Why would you do that", which made me not want to hang out with him as much, and decided to hang out with some other people for a little while. Then he found out, and think he got a bit more upset and started hanging out with other people as well, but tried getting me to hang out with his friends. I felt isolated when I was with them so went back to my other friend group.

I get a hunch he thinks I do not like him, which is untrue. I already tried asking him if he was ok, and he said he was and we were fine. So I assumed he must of made new friends that can hang out with him more frequently than I can. But he started pushing me away and not really wanting anything to do with me now?

[petitedollbabee]

Let the friendship go. I’ve been friends with people like him before and they’re petty. If he doesn’t have the emotional maturity to understand that you’re busy, but that it’s not a personal attack on him when you can’t hang out, then he’s not worth the stress. People like him will try to copy you so that you feel bad - like how you’ve said that you’ve found new people to hang out with, and he’s now done the same and he’s pushing you away. He’s doing it as a guilt tactic to make you feel bad and make you feel like he’s leaving you behind, so that you beg for him back. Don’t fall for it. People like him will always find a new victim to latch themselves on to. If it’s not you, it’ll be someone else.

[Asker]

Yeah I figured he was being petty and let him do his own thing. I use to know people like this and eventually let them go too because the petty behaviour annoyed me so much. I have a couple of friends right now that understand I won't always be around to hang out because of other obligations. I do feel like he is copying me a bit, I do not know why he is trying to make it out like he is leaving me behind for. Do you know the reason why people do this? I feel it is very immature

[petitedollbabee]

Because they’re too self centred to understand that your life doesn’t revolve around them. They believe that you’re punishing them, even though you’re just living your life, and so they think that by copying you, they are punishing you back. When really it just shows how pathetic they are.

[Asker]

Actually I think you are right, he likes being center of attention a lot and even fakes it (he told me himself). Which made me question his character, he is ok as a person but as a genuine friendship I do not believe so. These kinds of people who believe I am punishing them when I am just living my life are really odd! I will never understand them. Thanks for the input!

[Jkgordon]

Disrespectful cut him off he’s like the demon that takes you away from your accomplishments a jealous loser