Does it make me a sociopath to not care if my mom wants to kill herself?

[Anonymous]

I care... to an extent. She constantly says she's going to do it, and blames me and others. She tells me how she's tried because of me or that she is going to soon. It makes me sad... but it also makes me kinda numb. I think I will be more angry if she does it, because she just wants to hurt those around her and look like a victim. It feels very "13 reasons why" we all love and care about her but our empathy is only able to extend so far. I honestly feel more sadness for my father who would be alone than I do for her killing herself.

I always walk on eggshells around her trying not to say the wrong thing, but I'm also autistic... so I often do. She takes everything I say with malice and will scream or cry at me that I'm trying to kill her. My oldest sister used to be enemy number one but now it's me. I just don't even know what to do. I want her in my life and I want her alive but it just feels like she hates me most of the time.

The real irony is she has a masters and is a practicing psychologist. I don't know how she is so erratic even with that.

[Anonymous]

I've had a friend threaten suicide on me a lot. And most of the time, once someone is already that far gone, it'll be very hard to make them understand how you feel. It's even worse when they try to guilt trip you over it, but rest assured, it's not your fault. As long as you are not encouraging them, what can you do besides listen or offer your opinion?

Suicidal people need a mental health professional in order to move on. Many will resist being committed, I mean, who wants to go be bored in a hospital while they're feeling like shit?

My best friend has borderline personality disorder, so every once in awhile she'll revert to a self-harming mood. And there's jack shit I can do to stop her.

"You're sharpening a knife in front of me, saying you're going to go into the woods and slit your neck, and that you'll text your mother to come get the toddlers who are asleep in your bedroom. You won't let me call emergency services, and I wanted to go home two hours ago. Nothing I say is helping." is something I wanted to say to her at one point. And also, I might be on the spectrum too, so I feel a detachment emotionally as well. It's... unfortunately, annoying. But you can't say that because it'll just be more ammo against you for "not caring."

[Asker]

If it was a friend, honestly I'd stop having contact... but it's my mom. I've had friends and boyfriends like this. Hell, I was like this when I was 15 (though I mostly kept it to myself) being draining like this is terrible. But it's my mom. I can't cut her off, I want a relationship and i love her. I just don't know what to do.

[Opinion Owner]

You will need to work with your dad, or your mom, or someone else. The best and easiest way to put this to rest is to have her go to therapy. I say "easiest" but it's really hard to get someone to take care of themselves when they want to die.

[Asker]

She has a therapist she sees often

[Opinion Owner]

Then it needs to go a step further. A psyche ward. An intervention.

Either way.. I'm sorry you're going through this. It's a shitty situation.

[Asker]

I told my dad that. I don't know if he'll do anything. He loves her more than anything but he also trusts her more than anyone. He might be in denial.

[Mynameisbobby]

She's a practicing Psychologist? Sounds like she needs one. I'm sorry you are going through this 😔 I kinda understand what you mean that you care to an extent. She sounds like a very selfish person if she even considers doing it.

[DubiousIntentions]

I wouldn't go to her myself if I needed help as she can't even heal herself. Yet she needs some professional help herself and is drastically in need of it. If you guys rally care for her, get her taken in or committed so she can get the mental health she needs. I'm not enlightened to as why this hasn't been done yet, as people who commit suicide sometimes take others with them.

[Asker]

I told my dad she needs to be committed. I don't want her dead, but I'm so annoyed when she cries to me saying she's going kill herself. It just feels so manipulative and it makes me feel numb to it like I wouldn't care if she did.

[Anonymous]

Not at all, I don't give a damn about my parents either.

They're both having surgery for cancer soon, I hope they both die so I can collect the insurance money and their bank accounts since I'm in their will😈