Why do people complain about being lonely yet they never seem to open up to others?

[Anonymous]

Apparently loneliness is becoming an epidemic in the US, but when I try to make eye contact with people in public, they rarely ever make eye contact back. I would meet people in school then after we graduate, we no longer keep in touch with each other. At my gym classes, people would just workout then leave to go home immediately. Rarely do they talk to each other or ask to hangout with each other. None of my friends from high school keeps in touch. When I try to talk to guys, they rebuff me. At work, nobody wants to hangout after work. When people quit, people don't bother keeping in touch. People seem to be super picky when it comes to making friends. If you don't fit into the exact mold they are looking for, they won't bother having a coffee with you.

if loneliness is such a big problem, then why are people so closed off and picky?

[Monalisa77]

Well I've tried an awful lot to have more of a life but i never get what i want. So lifes so unfair

[Asker]

it just seems like people just don't want to bond or interact

[Monalisa77]

I do. As i said below, bet ud prob be the same as everyone else who doesn't make an effort with me. Im always the one to start conversation etc

[Monalisa77]

As i said u can dm me if u like. I like chatting to people, im bored

[Asker]

typing doesn't make up for real life interaction.

[Monalisa77]

No but it passes the time lol

[Asker]

no. i still get lonely even with typing. I've typed many people throughout my years.

[Monalisa77]

Same but as i said just passes the time n i get some good advice aswell

[Asker]

Im no longer looking to pass time, i actually want to enjoy my time on earth

[Iron_Man]

Some People are very shy some Don’t want to be hurt. They’ve had bad experiences.

[Asker]

i doubt its because everyone has bad experiences. if everyone was as jaded as that, nobody would be dating or getting married

[Iron_Man]

That’s your opinion but you don’t make any sense if you feel that way, then why would you say this? And what makes you think it’s only the USA? Are you prejudice against the country?

Apparently loneliness is becoming an epidemic in the US,

[Asker]

@iron_man

loneliness is everywhere. because people are using devices instead of going out interact with their community.

[ThrillSeeker01]

Afraid to trust another person with their intimate feelings. It's like making yourself vulnerable.

[Asker]

how much trust does it take to just have coffee with someone once in a while? im not asking to be your spouse... its just coffee with an acquaintance

[Monalisa77]

Well i bet if i asked u to hang out u prob wouldn't make the effort with me.. So many times people say years to hang out and dont follow it up

[ThrillSeeker01]

Then yeah just hang out and keep in touch

[Asker]

@Monalisa77

i would love to have coffee with you. if we get along and have things in common, i definitely will meet up with you again.

[Monalisa77]

I dont drink conffee but i just mean like going to the cinema, bowling or just for a drink down the pub. Is that too much to ask from people? people dont even gice me A try. They see me as too much trouble cod of my health but i would act differently when out with friends as i am around my parents

[Monalisa77]

And yet when i had a job tjat was in a room full of people, i was told off for talking as if it was a social place for me. But then they didn't suggest going out anywhere on our free time to get out to be sociable..

[Monalisa77]

And the only time i could go out for a work night they booked it when they knew i was away huh lol got the sack anyway lol

[Asker]

@Monalisa77

where are you located? I'm in NYC

[Monalisa77]

Thrill only so many msgs i can send if people aren't interested in talking

[Monalisa77]

The other side of the world😂 u can dm me if u like

[Monalisa77]

But the thing is, people tend to stop replying to me after a while. They realize they probably dont like me

[Asker]

@Monalisa77

wow, I was hoping you would be near me so we can meetup

[Monalisa77]

Yeh i dont mind meeting up with girls i chat to online. I went there once for my 30th bday but its just too far for me to travel now

[jahaims]

They are stupid