Would you get offended by this simplicity?

[Anonymous]

and make a storm out of a glass of water just beause you like to argue? I have a 55 yrd old female cousin who has a very peculiar temper, she is sensitive in so many things taht other people will just think it is just a stupid thing to get angry. She had always being known inthe family for being that way since she was a teenager and even with her age now and more mature she has not change, still immature in that way. Part of her problem is thet way she was raised by my aunt, her moms fault.

She gets offended or upset by stupid and simple things. The thing is that between here and myself are planning the New Years dinner at her mom house. This time we only be 7 people as the rest of our relatives have plans on their own unlike Christmas when we were all together (other family members). This time it be my mom (my dad passed away 9 years ago), my brother, my female cousin (her daughter won't be with us), her parents and my cousin brother (her kids wotn be with us either) and myself (my married sister is in the USA in Florida). So between my female cousin and I are organizing the meal, something so simple due to we are so few people So we plan like this. My male cousin will bring the champagne and the dessert, my female cousin the green salad, me some appetizers and the main course we all are going to pay it to have it cooked i tis a chicken pie. SInce men always eat more I gave an idea to my female cousin that why dont her parents collaborate as well and they can make some sauteed veggies as well.

Then here the dilemma starts, first my cousin says that "sauteed veggies do not go with chicken pie and green salad". I was like since when we have to follow etiquette among family and a simple dinner where we are not going to even dress up and hello? We are family!! Secondly she kind of questioned me how come I will make my aunt and uncle cook because she told me" My mom you know can't cook and my dad won't cook because he

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cooks all year round and he must be tired in that case if they need to collaborate I be the one cooking the veggies but not him.

Then she added dont u think the chicken pie and the salad and the dessert is not enough for everyone to fill us up? Then she started to whine and keep question me that with my idea Im charging them money her parents beause they wil cook the veggies as they will have to buy the food. I told her of course not, but my cousin believed thta was my idea when I said why

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dont her parents collaborate with some veggies. Then my cousin keep nagging and told me "Look, my brother or me are not charging a fee for the salad Im making or for the expensive dessert he is buying that is on us for the family. I replied her that in any moment my idea was to collect money and I never even mention the word $$ just that they may collaborate with food too that was all like the rest of us in case to have more food to fill us up. My cousin took this idea the wrong way.

[strateguy632]

she too bossy, ignore her

[Asker]

Exactly too bossy I moved on and forgot the issue but kept nagging or whining and wanted me to be clear about something. She started to tell me about the meal all the family ate at Christmas. For Christmas dinner all the family help with a fee to buy the pork as the pork was an expensive meal but the sides dishes and the dessert each one brought everyone did nto ask for money collaboration as we did it for collaboration to the gathering. Well but my dear cousin told me: "You see, the expensive dessert my brtehr bought he never charge it to the family, the potatoe salad I did I also di dnot charge anyone for it, all the side dishes were not charged including yours just the pork as the pork was the expensive food.
I mean I di dnto aks her for explanantions but still she wanted me to be clear as to what a fee was asked and what not was asked a fee. I brought appetizers on Christmas and I also did not ask for money.