Why are people always so obsessed about me "moving on"?

[Lenee2025]

Why are my family, friends, and some co workers so persistent on getting me to move on when I've lost a significant other (boyfriend) 2 years ago? No matter it's from a break up, divorce, or death, some people just don't want to date again or remarry and people should respect that. I've cut off so many family members and friends because I feel like they weren't respecting my decision. Even after I tell strangers or customers at work my situation when they ask, they always say "Well, in your next relationship this or that..” or “Your next man will be so lucky". Who said I was going to be moving on? Why do they assume I will? I always have to explain that in these next decades of my life I'm going to focus on other things. Like traveling, hobbies, going back to school, and enjoying my own company in my new home I just purchased. I’m old enough to know what I want in life and what I don’t want. I like being Childfree and single.

[clovertheminotaur]

As someone who's right in your shoes, I get it. Being single and in my own peace is worth more than what any man or woman could give me.

However, moving on is different than not jumping into a relationship or staying single. Moving on is making peace with the past and healing yourself on your own time. You don't need a partner to move on from what hurts you.

If someone is telling you that you need a partner to be happy, then they're very wrong. But if they're asking you to let go of the pain and let yourself heal? It's what you need to do. It's never easy. Never is. We all heal at our own pace.

Ask yourself truly, what does moving on mean? What are people asking of you? This could be an opportunity to reflect on yourself and heal yourself in places you never thought you needed to. After all, negativity can never be defeated unless faced head on. It's a sickness just as serious as physical ailments- and therefore needs to be treated rather than ran from.

[7Phoenix7]

That's just how some people are. They expect you to want another relationship. My friends and family are the same, and I always respond with, "I'm honestly not interested in another relationship."

They probably don't mean any harm though. Just live your life and do what makes you happy.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Well that's cause it's a healthier choice for your state of mind, mostly if its from death, I assume that's what we are talking about considering the fact that you seem somewhat frozen on the fact that you want to remain alone, sounds like a form of trauma and also a strong attachment to that individual, it's a totally realistic reaction and at some point you should move on, now of course don't rush into it because there's a healing process but when people say that, they aren't trying to be heartless, just realistic, most of the time when relationships break, it stays that way, so moving on is normally the next step, it doesn't mean to start jumping relationships but work on mentally healing from that situation, when you Do, you'll slowly feel ready for dating again.

[OlderAndWiser]

Because. . .

[PrincelyGlove]

I think they just want you to be happy and not stuck in pain

but don't really realize how you feel?

[RedInnocent68]

They care about and want what’s best for you.