Why am I being ignored after opening up?

[Anonymous]

I honestly have zero close friends. I’ve been going through difficult times and decided to share with a handful of people I thought cared about me. I posted things on close friends Instagram stories over the past year and when that didn’t lead to feeling supported I posted about how hurt I was to open up to this trusted few and feel shame in their silence. I mean I shared openly about mental health struggles, being depressed, feeling alone, believing no one cares… and it’s like all these things went totally ignored. Not one message of support. Nothing. Why am I being ignored when I see others posting similar struggles and saying how glad they are to share because it made them feel less alone? Do these people who I trusted have no empathy or what are some reasons why people would just turn away from someone’s cries for help? I just want to know someone cares, and apparently that’s too much to ask?

[Flatmanlewis]

Social media is a black hole. Never turn to it for validation or emotional support. I’d suggest you seek out professional help and become comfortable with the idea that it may take years to work through some issues.


Often times people, who are actually doing quite well, post their pretend struggles for people to garner attention and it works. People can acknowledge it because there is no follow up required. People with real struggles and issues see this, and seek the same outcome. They post something and don’t understand why nobody else replies like they did for somebody else. A lot of the time it’s because the need is real and genuine and this scares people from getting involved. Either they don’t know what to do beyond a like or comment or they really just don’t care enough to risk becoming involved.

[Fireguy17]

you just haven't found the right person/people that would care enough to listen.
Otheres might be ok for a few minutes but a whole night of listening to someone on the struggle bus all night might be a bit much.
It seems that people that are truly empathetic are harder to find.
By nature I am not very empathetic at all, my dad was old school, I would cut my arm or leg off, and he would say nice shot, don't tell your mother.
However it really surprises me how caring I am with patients, even the drunks at 2am, or one of our frequent flyer drug addicts that we have just brought back for the 20th time, but I try to be a good listener, but I just really n't have a clue what to do after at, my gut instinct is to try to fix the issue, that is what I do.

[bobalife]

I am sorry you’re feeling disconnected and ignore, I think it’s important to discuss it directly with a trusty friend about what you’re going through than posting it on a story or post… sometimes, people don’t know what to do or wanna wait for someone to come to them.

[Nikki1989]

Don't waste your time discussing anything of meaning online. It is usually just a dead-end. Keep personal discussion between close friends in the real world, and use websites like this one and others for pointless time-killing.