I didn’t think of it much until I saw that emotionally manipulative chart on my previous question. I was shocked to see that listed at #15. I didn’t know it was considered manipulative for a person to have such a mindset. I mean when there's so many friends, family, enemies, coworkers, politicians, and strangers screwing eachother over, why wouldn’t a person want to have that one person that they can tell “its you and me against the world”. I mean is it really any different from two best friends saying that to one another? Or a parent saying that to their child? Is it considered being too dependent on someone? I don't know break it down for me…#FeelFreeToList
I think something like this depends on the people involved and how trustworthy they are, how reliable both are in general, how honest they are, and also the mentality they have.
the biggest thing this should be is an offer of their loyalty to their partner? Not a demand of loyalty FROM their partner to them only or some sworn in oath matter where the other gives their all but the one who made this statement to them doesn’t give their all. The reciprocation part.
The other biggest thing is that this is something about LOYALTY and NOT ISOLATION. That the partner doesn’t hold their expectations over the other to “stick” remain with them like joint the hip if the partner doesn’t personally wish for that. I think it has to be an agreement, and there has to be defined boundaries and definitions of what the them vs the world would look like realistically. Is it this isolation and hostility? Aggression or violence? Or is it loyalty and having the options to use resources and people to network with if the two partners need or desire that. Like what happens if they get stuck over a communicative roadblock or one gets in a bad accident will they not consult friends or family or counseling? Will they not seek physical therapy? The specifics should be mentioned if the partner saying this is very serious about it.
I think lastly it shouldn’t be the partner saying this just to use it later and shame their partner for not being the level of ride or die that they wanted or EXPECTED. Not a placement of expectations, but an offer because that’s what a loving supportive relationship does, and if the one saying it expects a certain level of commitment to them which is also fair enough, then they should propose that to their partner and kind of go along seeing if the partner agrees to be that invested. You know the level of intensity or devotion. If the partner loves them they’ll see it as devotion, if they’re more laid back as person OR not so committed to them or loving of them then they’ll see it as something intense.
I think this stuff should be weighed in a serious context or if someone sees red flags with the partners, but otherwise this is just another sweet romance to share.
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Realistically speaking I think it depends on the people. My partner doesn’t have parents and his siblings are pretty messed up. I’m not closed to my family either and other than my parents and siblings, i don’t depend on anyone. So for us, bring us against the world seems really good and the odds are well within our favour.
I think it’s a good thing. But others who have very much knit communities this may not apply and they might feel like they’re being force to pick between their community or their partner.
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Maybe, but probably not.
Hmm that's kinda a tricky one. I can see both sides I guess. On one hand like saying you and me against the world seems pretty romantic and like you'll always have each others backs no matter what. Like you can trust and count on that person through anything. But I guess if you think about it, it could also be like kinda possessive and controlling too?
Like if someone feels like they ONLY have that one person and it's just them against everything else, they might feel like they can't do anything without the other person or be their own person sometimes, you know? And the other person might use that to always get their way and feel important. It should be more like you support each other through stuff as a team, not like one person is more important than anything else.
Relationships should probably not be like you're the only thing that matters to me cause then that's too much pressure I think. People need other friends and families too for balance. So maybe just enjoy being close without making it sound like nothing else in the world is as important as just the two of you if that makes sense. Hope this helps explain it a little! Let me know if you have any other questions!
I think its just an expression. Though I could see how someone could contrive to abuse it.
I think if a relationship is generating a need to use it, that doesn't work both ways (meaning both sides expressing it to each other) its contrived and worrysome (or simply immature).
That said, I think its a natural coupling activity to find some expression to bond over. Something which captures the relationship for both parties and is sort of a private in joke between partners. So if it was something happening when the couple got together it persisting throughout the relationship, as a private in joke is just cute.I think it's a good things, it's show they're on your side no matter what even if the whole world hate you.
In my family some people are toxic and my father told said to me that the only important were us (him, my mother and my sister) all the others didn't count if they were being shitty to me.
I really don't see in what it's a bad things.
I think it's because it can be a way of isolating them from people they love.
"You and me against the world"
Can be camouflage for "It's you and me and everybody else is bad for you and you shouldn't want to give any time to them at all. Only to me. It us vs them. "Im about to post a question as well because your post just made me remember something.. I think that some people use that saying so loosely. To have a partner thats with you through all the battles, still loyal and etc plus bring a positive influence in your life is worth more than having the world. Don’t need to play the lottery to find out my man is way better than having the world plus their opinions
To put it simply it can be viewed as manipulation and dependence when those words may not be remotely true. There is more than one way to the top of the mountain.
My saying "it's you and me against the world" you are invalidating any other possible paths, other individuals, their power and strength as a person by saying doing it together with then is the only option. So yeah, that is a way you can look at it.
I think it depends.. If a couple is going through a dire situation and they're sticking together no matter what, then those are words you definitely wouldn't mind hearing.. I personally wouldn't mind hearing that from my SO.. But I can see how it could be used for manipulation.. Like somebody trying to tear their SO away from any people outside of their relationship..
I don't see a problem. I can see the benefit to having that mentality that is me and a girl together against the world. Someone to trust and care about. Someone that I care more about than any other human in the world.
It's really only worth maybe saying if they are the person. Meaning you've been gone through some stuff together over a period of time. When people say shit in absolutes, it loses the meaning if it gets overused.
Ugh. Why, even? People claiming the whole world being against them have massive problems to admit that maybe the heart of the matter lies with them.
It's neither, it won't affect us really. I think it's more bad because you make it seem like you both have no family or friends left besides your partner.
Yeah it's cheesy as hell. I take that and ride or die literally, so I will literally make it a us vs them situation
It depends on the context in which it is said.
Suppose it is said in a way that the other person starts feeling hostile towards the rest of the world making them over depended on their partner then it is bad.I came from a dysfunctional family and most of my close friends are dead. I know that my wife and I have got each other backs
I think it's good. It confirms that they really care about you and they would do anything for you.
Intention determines if it is manipulation. Everyone is technically manipulating everyone and everything. That is partly why intentions are important.
I don't see it as problematic unless they seek to make it a reality and you can't form any other connections
Why would I want to think that the world was against me even if my girlfriend was with me in it?
I personally think that that's what relationships are SUPPOSED to be!
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