My former best friend don't want to talk to me. How can I convince him to talk to me?

[Anonymous]

My best friend stopped talking to me after he heard from my former girl friends (they were two-faced) that I talk about how he treats me. He didn't even tries to talk to me or understand what happened or why. He only told me after I text him that I'm two faced and I gossiped about him. But truth is that everything I vent to them I talked to him first and he didn't want to do anything about it. I talked to people I thought were my supposed friends and try to get advice what to do and they wanted for me to be distracted and to failed on exams. I passed the exams but my former best friend started to befriended my former friends. Do you think it was excuse or he really thought I did this on perposue to destroy him?

[Anonymous]

You need to be honest with yourself, did what you said to your friends constitute unnecessary gossip? I am going to take you at your word now that you've only shared things with your friends you needed to share to work out your feelings or problems, or whatever.

So presuming your conscience is clear and your friends let you down, consdier next if your friends may like this guy. Are they trying to sour your connection with him? is that a possible reason they told him what they did? If you feel their good friends and that's unlikely, talk to you friends as to what they may or may not have said to they guy and why (don't make it like an attack on them, show your just genuinely wanting to know what they where thinking or why they shared what they did). That is to say, figure out why your friends effectively betrayed you giving them the best benefit of the doubt for as long as is reasonable.

It is also entirly possible your best friend was wanting to get a reason to know your friends through you as he liked them, and just taking his oportunity to cement closeness with them vs with you. I would say, the way to work that out, is to speak genuinely with the guy who was your best friend to understand exactly what he was told and why it is bothering him to the extent he's cutting you off. A REAL best friend will take the time to listen, where as a jerk who was just in it for an excuse to meet your hot friends will likely just be the worst jerk you've know and not be at all like the best friend you lost (meaning not giving you a chance).

This all presumes you have a clear conscience of what you have shared with your friends and not betrayed his deep trust.

Best of luck.

[ManOnFire]

So it's good that you cut those friends off, prattling friends only ever cause trouble in the end. But you said you yourself spoke to him first about his behavior (I'm guessing that's what you mean) and he refused to change. You might be better without him too. What kind of friend doesn't hear your concerns when you say you want them to stop treating you a certain way? Best thing to do is don't say anything else to him (if you already tried to) and see if he comes around. Then you can have a chance to tell your story.

[Asker]

Maybe you are right but he was like brother to me, and I don't forget or stop caring about family

[ManOnFire]

Totally understand. But look at like this: is he thinking of YOU like a sister or family by doing this to you?

[Avicenna]

See if there is a mutual friend who can be a go-between for you to get him to listen.

[Iron_Man]

Flirt with him

[laly520]

u dont