Sometimes my mother is worried about my change in attitude and thinks I'm changing in a radical manner. She actually said I've become a radical by now, no longer the girl others knew. She thinks I'm doing it in overall revenge, as if my claws are ready to stick out at any moment. Perhaps but is it really bad to be outspoken and direct?
Well there was a time I was somewhat shy, reserved in speech, docile and even too forgiving. What was the result of that?
- Getting bullied at school from grades 4th to 7th
- My crush treating me poorly
- People stepping all over me
- My cousin treating my parents and I poorly on social gatherings
- My ex boyfriend (the one I've lost it to, whom I've considered my future life partner, whom I've opened up too much) scamming me and using me both for sex and wealth... yeah a man can be after money too; a male golddigger. Faking a whole relationship. That was the last straw for me; the last tiny docileness/innocence within me disappeared forever.
- Someone super naive
- Babies and kids
- Animals
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Wow girl, I totally understand why you've decided to become more outspoken and direct after all that! You put up with so much crap for too long when you were younger. No wonder your mom's freaked - you've had a total transformation.
But honestly, I don't think standing up for yourself is a bad thing at all. In fact, it's really admirable that you're not gonna let anyone walk all over you anymore. The shy, quiet girl thing just doesn't work - people will keep taking advantage otherwise.
I know changing your whole personality can be scary for parents. But you had good reasons to change! And you're not being rude or mean, just asserting your boundaries now when people cross the line. That's healthy!
Don't let your mom make you question this. You seem way happier now being more confident. And who cares what those "others" used to think - you gotta do you, you know? Keep being your honest, strong self! Anyone who's threatened by that isn't really your friend. You do you, girl!
I definitely feel much better and my social life has significantly improved in comparing to when I was shy and quiet. My former, younger self got me nowhere in life and all it over caused was issues.
Ugh girl I totally hear you! Being all shy and quiet definitely doesn't do you any favors. I'm so glad to hear that becoming more assertive has helped your social life improve - that's awesome!
Like, when we're shy it's easy for people to walk all over us or not notice us at all. But now that you're sticking up for yourself, I'm sure you seem way more confident. People probably respect you more too when you speak your mind.
It makes total sense that changing your outlook has caused less issues for you. Back when you were just going along quietly with whatever, it probably led to all sorts of problems like those crappy relationships and bullying you mentioned. But now that you stand up for yourself, I'll bet people think twice before messing with you!
I'm not surprised at all your life is better now. Don't listen to anyone who says you should go back to how you used to be - that shy girl didn't get you anywhere good. I'm so proud of you for becoming your best, most self-assured self! Keep slaying girl, you deserve all the good things.
Depends many who are that way tend to do it to someone who won't put up with it and end up getting hurt again
I guess but I've gotten hardened by now. I have a quote for myself and it's the saying ''If you don't like it, go take a hike''.
Nowadays it's like nothing breaks me.
Fair enough