Why do grandparents always overstep their boundaries?

[Anonymous]

So I currently still live with my parents. I’m saving toward moving out and I have been apartment searching. My son is 18 months. Earlier this morning, my son woke up a bit whiny. I cut him up some fruits while I washed dishes so I could make him breakfast. Now, my mom knows every morning he whines because he’s hungry considering he hadn’t eaten since the night before going to bed but I always soothe him with fruits before giving him his breakfast. I don’t just let him cry. For some reason this morning she decided to fuss at me as if I were the worse parent in the world telling me “You need to feed him as soon as he wakes up. No one wants to hear him fussing. That’s rude. He’s waking up the house.” As if she’s “grandmother knows best”. She was in her room, we were in the kitchen. She had no idea what the situation was but she got up as if she knew everything. While I washed dishes, he ate his fruit and that kept him quiet but she was over focused on the few seconds he wasn’t quiet and that didn’t even last long. She felt she had a right to tell me to use a different method. Feed him real food instead of fruit so he won’t be crying but he was fine just the way I did it but she made it up in her head that he wasn’t contrary to what I saw and know but I guess this is why I’m saving toward moving out.

[Anonymous]

because that is how boomers are. your mom learned this from her boomer parents (your grandparents) also. they have no empathy whatsoever. they discipline by hitting.

you do your own thing and break the cycle.

[Asker]

That’s exactly what it seems to be. She woke up on the wrong side of the bed but you know out parents are sort of against ever admitting to them being wrong and apologizing. She took her waking up with an attitude out on me and made me believe it was my fault. She turned it on me. My mother isn’t a bad person, she raised me well and has taught me well and continues to do so. She has especially taught me about mother hood considering my son is my first child but she seems to not except that she isn’t right about every thing. One time she straight up told me “I probably can be a better parent than you.” After she had got done telling me that I didn’t know everything about motherhood and I act as if I do. When really I don’t, I just hate feeling like I’m always being watched when it comes to how I handle my son. The nurturing side of me came naturally. There are things I don’t and didn’t know and am leaning about motherhood, obviously but I know I have it under control and I may need assurance then and there but 90% my son and I are straight.

[MsProsperity]

She’s just annoyed by the every morning noise. It’s time to move out girl, speed up your apartment searching

[jahaims]

She is probably tired of supporting her adult child and grandkids. Your parents have to pay for your poor choices. That would get annoying.

[Asker]

We do live with her but I help with bills, rent, groceries, everything my son owns, has or needs I provide it and I’m respectful of her and her time. I don’t do anything intentionally to upset her or disrespect her. I work as well and as I said, she knows as well, that I have been saving to move and apartment searching. I had a child at 25. Things happen. It wasn’t like I was 17-18 years old.

[jahaims]

Got knocked up at 25 and can't take care of yourself or your own child without help from your parents. That would be annoying.