He doesn't want to be friends anymore!

[flowerbeauty21]

This past summer I worked with this guy and we hung out and talked at work and all that. We had lots of fun, but I think I gave him the wrong impression. One day he asks me out and I turned him down, he has treated me like crap from then on, he said the meanest things about me and I just rejected him, its not like I took stabbed him in the back. I only think of him as a friend and that's about it!

But yesterday we spoke since August!! I asked him if we was still mad, he said he wasn't mad but he doesn't want to talk to me anymore because I rejected him. I really want to be friends with this guy, I mean he's so nice and sweet and also funny!... But he seemed so upset at me he doesn't want to have to deal with me anymore. He also told me, "he doesn't see us being friends, if we are not going out" How do I handle this?!

Guys: Why do you act like that towards a girl? Cant you just accept to be friends with her?

Girls: What do you think I should do about this, should I forget we had a friendship or what?

[Konvicts]

This guy isn't worth your time. If he can't respect your decision and take no for an answer, then that's one thing, but treating you like a lesser equal? That is as low as it can get. This guy can't accept rejection and he is just trying to make you feel bad. Don't let it get to you, or at least don't show it.

Best option is to forget about him. He's a sore loser because he wants all or nothing, and he doesn't respect you enough to at least be acquaintances. Ignore him and take him out completely of your life. You haven't talked to him since August yet he acts like a day hasn't passed since you rejected him. Some guys can't handle being rejected, this guy is a good example. Don't bother being friends because it looks like that won't get you anywhere and he's never going to get over the fact that you don't like him as more than a friend.

You gave him the choice, friend or nothing, obviously you know his choice now. Move on and avoid contact with him. He just wants to bring you down and make you feel upset for rejecting him. You deserve better friends than that, and you definitely deserve better boyfriend material than him.

[explorer2017]

The way I see it is this.

A friendship is a relationship, not a romantic or sexual one, but still, but just like every relationship you both need to be in the same page in order for it to work.

HE ask HER out, he wanted a romantic relationship, she said NO, she has the right to say no, and he respected that by not pursuing her that way anymore.

Now SHE is asking HIM to be her friend, she wanted a friendship, he said NO, he has the right to say no, is simple.

If he respected HER decision, then SHE needs to respect HIS. As simple as that. You cannot force love, but also, you cannot force friendship.

[anthrit]

Depends ... I still hang out with girls that reject me ... but if there is a girl from the start that I wanted to date and she rejects me to be only friends, then I don't talk to her because it will only bring feelings up in me that she has none for me and it hurts ... example is I had a friend and I asked her out, she told me "No, it would mess up our friendship" ... funny thing is she got into meth with her new BF and messed up the friendship with drugs ... but all I can say if it was his mission from the start to make you a girlfriend and you reject, then you will never see him again.

[angad_12]

Well a guy and (assuming) a hot girl cannot be friends.

he knows he won't be able to be just friends with you.

and by being friends he would hang out with you while at the same time feeling the pain of not being able to be with you as a lover.

So from his point of view,it is correct to not be friends as he won't be able to and you have to respect that.And he being mean is just his way of dealing with rejection(sour grapes).

[strawberrieblondie]

Forget him - he is clearly acting like an immature baby. No self confidence. Not a worthy friend.

[baker1234]

Fuck that