Is it wrong for me to wish I had aborted my 6 year old Down syndrome son?

[Anonymous]

It was this time 7 years ago I got the diagnosis while pregnant. It was this time 7 years ago I had 2 choices, to abort or to continue my pregnancy and I chose to continue my pregnancy. It was the worst mistake I made. He’s non verbal still. Going to work was my saving grace but with this virus I remember why I hate the life I’m living. I listened to all those bullsh** people in the Down syndrome group about how great life is with our kids. I wish I could turn the clock back around , ignore those people, and terminated.

For now i am trapped. And no one understands

[Skinhead-1979]

It's never a good thing to wish someone was dead or never born at all...

I can imagine it may be difficult to raise someone who has Down Syndrome; but I think they are absolutely marvellous people. It's that I am not capable of looking after another person due to severe mental health problems, but I would dearly love to foster a child... and I would probably put myself forward then to foster child who has Down Syndrome.

(I've raised someone else's child before... so I know I can do it; just not in my current state)

[jahaims]

Don't reproduce if you aren't ready for the consequences.

[HelpfulWoman]

Nah. I completely get it. I find it sucks with my two non disabled kids. I can't imagine how stressed you'd be with one who has additional needs. You're not shitty for wishing you'd gone a different route. But you can't, and its important to try to move through those thoughts too.
Please seek therapy for these feelings, and it may ultimately be a choice of handing your kid over to adoption if you really cannot cope.

[FreyaRed]

No. In such situations is moral a luxury good

[Agape93]

Nope, I'd have done it

[Asker]

Do u hate Down syndrome people?

[Agape93]

Nope. I just don't have patience for that level of defective kids

[slatyb]

No, it's not. Can you get counseling?