Is it bad that I wish I was as fiesty like my best friend? How come nobody calls me fiesty?

[Anonymous]

My best friend and I are both kind, sweet, funny and fun to be with but here’s the difference, she is described as feisty, witty and not afraid to fight back, but for me, I’m apparently too nice, can’t fight back and I’m too afraid of conflict.
I try so hard to please people and make everyone happy but it always causes problems, people STILL don’t respect me or appreciate me. I please people so I can be liked, I hate admit.
My best friend is sassy, feisty, witty, doesn’t care what people think of her and will fight for what she believes. She isn’t the nicest girl, but she gets more respect then I do. I don’t get it, I am well put together, I have a decent job, I help people, I’m very sweet and nice so why don’t people appreciate me? When I try to be feisty people just look at me like I’m crazy and one told me that’s just “fake”. I’ll be honest, I wish someone would describe me as feisty but I’ve never been called feisty.

I asked my best friend why don’t people ever call me feisty or appreciate me and she hit me with this, “Because you’re way too nice. Nice girls aren’t feisty. You please everyone too much, you always worry about what people think, you don’t fight back which is pathetic for a grown woman no offense and you let people walk all over for you and quite frankly, nice girls are boring. Put some sas and spice into it. Some guys love that!”
Do you think my best friend is right?

[teamvic]

Well firstly don't force yourself to be something you aren't.

But I will say you do seem to let people walk all over you

There's a difference between being nice and being taken advantage of. You seem to be more towards the second. I will say if you're so stuck up on being ," feisty" you aren't gonna be yourself. But you should stop with the whole," Doing anything so people will like you". you can still be nice but not let people take advantage of you. You just need to find that balance. And as for what your friend said about guys liking it. I'd say it's true, but at the same time it doesn't mean sweet caring girls aren't equally attractive as well